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writes:I'm struggling right now. I'm feeling guilty and I just don't know what to do. About 8 months ago my mother suffered with gout. During the time she suffered from anxiety and depression. She found it hard to get out of bed. She self diagnosed herself with so many things including heart failure! My siblings and I basically had to treat her like a child to force her out of bed. Her doctor said it may be down to her medication. They suggested she stop taking them and all was well again! That lasted about 4-5months! Now, she's been suffering with arthritis. She gets it in her arms, wrists and fingers. She struggles to lift things. She had bloods taken and her rheumatoid levels were high, also the levels were high for something else that cause gout. Since that doctors visit, she's been complaining of feeling dizzy, sick and weak and has spent the last 4 days in bed! I believe it's anxiety but she's thinking ridiculous things even that her glade teeth are causing toxins into her body! I've shouted at her today because I cooked for her and she didn't even attempt it. I haven't stopped crying for 2 days because I can't go through this again. I guess I'm just looking for reassurance or something. I don't know! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2017): My dad stopped getting out of bed and has now got muscle wastage, 9 weeks in bed. Fully mobile before, can't even stand now so can't go to toilet, creating a whole new host of problems. Very important if Mother still has mobility to gently encourage her to get out of bed ( if doctor says this is okay). Feel for you on this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks you guys. I know she's family and of course I would do anything for her! I'm just afraid she's going to get into that state again where she pushes me away. And because I live with her, it's Just me and not my siblings 'problem'. I am taking time out for me too. Going to see a comedian soon also ?? And I'm on a diet. So there's plenty of greens being eaten. Thanks again guys and I hope you're following your own advice ??
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reader, TylerSage  +, writes (16 October 2017):
 I can relate, I also have an ailing mother and It's not always easy. Feeling stressed out is perfectly normal especially when around energizes that are sad or angry.You must learn to take time out for yourself. Do things that intentionally boost your Dopamine, Oxytocin, Serotonin, and Endorphins which are hormones that help to make you feel good. Let in sunlight, exercise, eat chocolate and bananas, watch funny or inspirational videos on YouTube, meditate, listen to upbeat music, talk to your friends, anything to get yourself on track. Once your emotions and hormones are more stable you should assist your mom with her depression and anxiety as best as you can.Good energies can be contagious. SHOW her what you want her to feel. She's weak now and could use a reason to smile. If in fact she needs a doctor work on finding out what can be the best options for her. Believe it or not, diet plays a HUGE role in the sicknesses and feelings you and your mother may face. Try doing some research on acidic and alkaline foods and how they affect the body. Try limiting meat intake in the house for maybe a week and eat a bit more green veggies and see if that helps.Don't forget to breath...All the best my friend.
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reader, Apothian +, writes (16 October 2017):
I recently had to go over to my grandmother's to take care of my disabled mom for a little over a month until my grandmother came home. My mom smoke and drank until her body couldn't take it anymore, and so one day, my grandmother had to start taking care of her just a short while after my grandmother's husband died (it's been a rough time in the family). Anyway, more recently, my grandmother had a bad fall and broke her arm (at least it was a clean break), was admitted into a hospital around a week later, and was diagnosed with Parkinson's. While she was gone, I had to take care of my mother, who is mere steps away from being in a vegetative state if she had been drinking heavily before her issues arised. She can walk extremely slowly with the aid of a walker, use the bathroom (but not wipe, flush), and she'll do what you tell her. The point I'm getting at is, even if you have to do almost everything for a person, sometimes it's just necessary to do your best for your family because that's exactly what they are- family. It's not going to be as easy for you since there's no one that regularly cares for her like my grandmother does for my mother, but it's a matter of finding a decent balance between what you can financially afford, what your mother is comfortable receiving in terms of care, and what YOU are willing to do on your own part to ensure that she gets the assistance she seems to desperately need. Take care, and I truly hope you can pull through. My time caring for my mother was difficult for me due to our history together when I was still a child, but like I said, you do what you need to for family.
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