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writes:I apologize for the length of this in advance! So i had a rough day today. Got cursed out by some old guy on the road who nearly killed me and i almost went bat shit on him. I didn't know old people could be so foul.Later i went to the mall to buy some shoes. So i went to this same store looking for shoes the day before and this girl who works their greeted me and i said hello. She asked if i needed help or was looking for something particular. I told her no and that i’m okay, so i started looking at the shoes. Five minutes later she comes up to me and asks what i was up to. I told her nothing much just looking for shoes etc. I kept it short so she went away and I eventually didn't find what i was looking for and left the store.Now today i went back to see if they got anything new. So when i got their I saw a guy who greeted me and then i saw that girl from yesterday. I started looking at shoes again and she came and asked how i was and i told her good etc. She asked if i needed help and i politely declined. One thing about me is that i don't like small talk as i find it often times forced and awkward so i always cut it short and be as polite as possible. So she went away but came back to me five minutes later and started a conversation with me. We talked about a lot of different things and i surprisingly enjoyed the conversation as it flowed very naturally and we laughed a lot at each other. Mind you their are other people in the store and me and this girl are having this nice conversation for a good ten minutes. I couldn't help and feel something for her because we talked like good friends even though i just met her. We even asked each other personal questions. She asked if i had family or friends in the city. She told me about good places to party for singles. This is when i noticed a neckless with a ring on here and so i told her i was surprised she knew where the singles partied given she was married. She said she wasn't and the ring was given to her by her aunt. We kept talking until she was interrupted by her male employee and she had to leave to take a call. I started realizing this girl has a really nice personality.The thing is i initial was trying to be polite and avoid small talk with her but later realized i enjoyed talking to this girl. So after she took the call she came back and she asked me what i was up to later or today etc. I thought in my head why is she asking me about my plans? So i thought could she be interested in me? I realized she wasn't having these conversations with other customers in the store and that she was the one who kept initiating our conversations. So i replied nothing much and I told her that it would be nice if she could show me around the night scene. She said she is going to be working, so I said what are you up to this weekend and she responded she was going to her cousins birthday party out of state. She left to help a customer and came back to talk so I asked her when she was leaving for her cousins? She hesitated like she didnt have an answer then finally said when she is off of work on the weekend. I got the feeling she made it up so I politely brought the conversation to an end. I realized since she didnt offer to meet up at another time or exchange information she really had no interest at all in me. Which is totally fine and I actually am grateful she didn't lead me on because I would have been like a lost puppy with her. She had really beautiful eyes you could get lost in haha. I have had people tell me i am good looking and although she was beautiful i dont think she was out of my league, just thought i would put that out their since I am realistic in my pursuit of women.SO my question is did i read too much into her? I didn't understand the point of our conversation if she wasn't interested in me. Since i personally would not ask a strange women personal questions unless i want to get to know her for dating purposes. I have casual conversation with women all the time and usually the conversations are about everything but ourselves. Never have I had a girl who i didnt know ask me so many personal questions. I am single and dont want to come on to girls without signs of interest so i dont end up looking like an idiot. I’m trying to learn from all of my interactions, so outside perspective would be helpful. Sorry about the long post! Thanks!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 April 2016):
 She might just be a chatty person by nature. Maybe she was low in sales this month so she has to make more off an effort with the customers, maybe to you it was a deep conversation but to her it was just chit chat. You tried to ask her out, she declined. Move forward from it.
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reader, Slippers  +, writes (8 April 2016):
It's very difficult when your in a shop and the sales girl is there to get a sale .. she didn't give much personal info I felt just kinda skimmed information and gave you information on where singles hang out . She didn't say here where I hang out . So for me I think it was more to do with work .. but I wouldn't worry plenty of girls awaits you .
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reader, wrathykins +, writes (8 April 2016):
 She was working. She could have been told by her manager to make more of an effort with customer service etc.
Maybe that's her way of chatting to people?
I wouldn't worry about it.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (8 April 2016):
 Doesn't sound like it to me. Defiantly a bit flirty so no reason for you not to try your luck. Thing is, she said that she wasn't married not that she didn't have a bf. if this was to be the case then I think that would explain her struggling to find an immediate answer to you asking her out.
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