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writes:I had a drunken one night stand with a guy in my first term at university and we eventually became friends with benefits. This carried on for three months, until we both developed feelings and felt the best thing to do was end things as neither of us wanted a relationship. We cut off all contact to the extent that we ignored each other on nights out and around campus. After doing this for about a month he eventually started texting me again and i told him that i still liked him and he told me he felt the same. I started going round to his and sleeping with him again. After a couple of weeks of doing this we both agreed to being exclusive in terms of us not sleeping with other people. I want him to ask me on a date or for us to actually go out and do something rather than him always inviting me over to his place which usually involves watching a movie and having sex. I feel like although things are developing its not going to go any further unless he takes me on a date. Should i hint to him that i want this or should i leave it a while longer and see if he asks?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2016): Honey you going to bed with this guy. If you can't ask him out on a date, what the firetruck are you doing the deed with him for? You wanna boyfriend, don't settle for being someone's friends with benefits . That makes no sense. Whose it benefiting if all you get out of it is a pair of soggy panties? Just tell him what you want, grow up be a big girl. If you don't ask for what you want you'll never get it.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 April 2016):
 You both are not sure off what you want from the sound of your post, maybe he is afraid to ask you out in case he gets rejected, or maybe he has just falling in to a routine and is happy. Either way you both know each other enough now to be honest with each other, so do that, be honest with him, tell him how you feel and what you want, and ask him on a date.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 April 2016):
 Poor guy will NEVER be able to read your mind, so IF you want more than this FWB thing, ASK him out. Or tell him you would LIKE to date, go out together, do things together.
If he doesn't want that, well at least you will know where you stand.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 April 2016):
 Why should he ask when he doesn't know you want that?
What good would waiting do to see if he can read your mind and know what you want?
Let him know "hey I want us to go out and do things in the world like dinner/movies/clubs/walks in the park" or whatever.
Men cannot read our minds anymore than we can read theirs.
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reader, wrathykins  +, writes (19 April 2016):
 I agree with Denizen! I understand it's nice to have the guy ask, but there's nothing wrong with you suggesting it! He obviously has feelings for you, he isn't going to say no. What have you got to lose?!
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reader, Denizen +, writes (19 April 2016):
 Why does it have to be him? Why can't you plan something nice for you both? This is the modern world.
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