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writes:Is he disinterested or just busy? I’m not trying to fool myself or ignore any signs. I lack experience and truly cannot tell so would appreciate your opinions. I’ve been dating a successful man (31 y/o) for two months who was very good to me up until two weeks ago. He and I have both been single for 4-5 years before dating so we’re both out of tune I feel. He was with the same person for 7 years from age 19-26 and I haven’t dated in adulthood. During our first month of dating, he initiated most dates and texts every day. However, suddenly, we hardly spoke since our last date which was two weeks ago. I reached out on the following two days but he seemed busy so I left him alone. Shortly after he went on a weeklong vacation. He told me when he landed in the city and I wished him a safe, fun trip. Then we didn’t speak for three days. Then, during the middle of his trip, he reached out to my surprise. During the convo he asked if I have seen Movie A and Movie B yet, to which I replied that I have not. He said “Okay, cuz I want to watch both” and I replied okay. He replied “Yay!” implying we would watch together but no confirmation was made. I ended the convo with “get some rest. I will see you soon :)” and he replied “Night :).” Now he’s been back for a few days. He reached out once so I know he’s extremely busy catching up with work and meeting with clients. During this convo he asked me what he should have for lunch and I suggested a place. He said “too many meetings so I grabbed a sandwich instead :(“. I said “I’ll go with you next time. You’ll like it :)” to which he replied “Okay!” I do understand he’s very busy. I’m very proud of his hard work and accomplishments. I do believe that as an entrepreneur and the only employee in his company, his company absolutely comes first. However, I haven’t seen him in two weeks and feel taken for granted. He hasn’t asked me out for this weekend and he’s going on another trip next weekend. We’ve only been dating for two months with him traveling half the time (however on previous trips he still reached out daily), so it’s not solid enough for me to determine whether he’s still interested. What do you all think, can’t see me or doesn’t want to? Normally I wouldn’t mind suggesting plans myself but I think in this case I think I should just wait this weekend out. If he doesn’t initiate then I know he’s not interested. Is this the right approach? I’m not afraid of him being busy but I can’t tell if he’s interested.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 June 2016):
 He done a lot of the ground work and now he is waiting to see if he can spot any interest from you, and my guess is that he can't because you are not giving him anything back, if you like him, pick up the phone and ask him out.
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reader, singinbluebird +, writes (11 June 2016):
 LOl sweetie, he sounds VERY interested. He wants to know if you're interested, its okay initiate because he has already done so again and again----again. Men need to be chased just a bit, because how can we miss someone who offers us nothing back? I sure would lose interest in men who showed nothing back to me after I have showed them genuine interest. Its been only 2 months and he's travelling, let him travel and focus on having fun by yourself. Meet your girlfriends for great food, go out dancing, watch movies, kiss your cat and nieces/nephews, and when you guys meet again he will feel your ENERGY, your VIBRANCE, your FUN and feel amaze every time he sees you and he will keep coming back =D. Men find it irresistible when a independent fun loving girl can have a life and allow him in. Remember girl, you're the prize here =)
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reader, wrathykins  +, writes (11 June 2016):
 Well he seems like he's made quite a bit of effort. It doesn't seem one sided.
Ask him out! Just text him, Hey do you want to hang out or whatever! Maybe he thinks you're not interested?
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