Boyfriend has many issues
Q. I don't know how to stop him! My boyfriend, who is 20 has many issues like.. He smokes pot, drinks a lot, carries condoms and has sex with loads of prostitutes, been in trouble with the police for assault and shop lifting- I just don't know what to ...
A. 15 March 2009: Get away from him. What he is doing is abuse. NEVER see or talk to him again and if he bothers you, tell your parents and the police.
This is not a stable person and DEFINITELY not boyfriend material.... (read in full...)
Baby names...
Q. My bf and I were talking about baby names we want something unique and different but still cute. What do you think of the following names? BOYS: Flynn Owen (Owen is my bfs dad) Sloan Owen Makai (Ma-Ki) Owen Girls: Makenna Joy Arizona Jo...
A. 15 March 2009: Are you pregnant? If not, it's a wasted endeavor. Your child will be unique, and the first time you look at him or her you will know which of your favorite names (or something that just comes to you!) will be best.
Just remember, kids can be c... (read in full...)
I can't seem to find that special someone
Q. I am feeling frustrated about my singlehood. My last relationship was 8 years ago and after that relationship, it seems like I can't seem to find any nice guy who wants to be in a relationship with me. I have been to single activities, go for casu...
A. 15 March 2009: Livia is bang on. You don't find love, love finds you. ANd only when you are a whole, healthy, confident, happy person. Relax, it will happen!... (read in full...)
My online guy wants me to fly out to his state and met him
Q. I have been talking to this guy online for almost a year now. We talk daily and seems like a great guy. He wants me to fly out to his state and meet him. I really want to but im a little nervous. I'm 21 and he is a bit older he is 30 and is divor...
A. 15 March 2009: Just another thought....why doesn't he fly out to see YOU?... (read in full...)
My online guy wants me to fly out to his state and met him
Q. I have been talking to this guy online for almost a year now. We talk daily and seems like a great guy. He wants me to fly out to his state and meet him. I really want to but im a little nervous. I'm 21 and he is a bit older he is 30 and is divor...
A. 15 March 2009: My husband and I met online and we are completely happy (for almost 10 years now)
BUT. This could get strange. Where would you be staying? Can you go back home anytime you want to? I would only do this if he's going to pay for your hotel ro... (read in full...)
Friend not acting the same and won't talk about it
Q. My friend robert is not acting the same. When I ask him if hes mad at me he doesn't answer. I thought we were close and now I don't know if he likes me anymore. This kid is making me confused. He likes me then he doesn't talk to me. Did I do ...
A. 15 March 2009: Exactly what Hopeful said. Go out for pizza and talk about this. If he won't go, then unfortunately there nothing more you can do but move on. But I'd give talking a shot.... (read in full...)
I don't feel the love for him I once did
Q. I met my current boyfriend in the 7th grade when I was dating his older brother. He has liked me since then(i'm now a senior) well we started dating almost a year ago and he from the first week has been telling me he loves me and wants to marry me. ...
A. 15 March 2009: Time to move on. He's got issues that really don't have anything to do with you and he's being a d*ck. Enjoy some time on your own, get used to your new place, then if the opportunity arises see other people. And I'd just let this guy go--not ... (read in full...)
How can we convince her parents that she is ready to get married?
Q. Hi, I'm 19 and my girlfriend is 18. We have been dating since we were 16 and know that we will be together for the rest of our lives. We want to get married this summer but I don't think her parents will approve of it. We are moving into our ...
A. 15 March 2009: YOu guys are not ready for a marriage or a baby. Live together awhile, but don't bring another life into the picture for at least two years of living together.
YOu don't need her parents permission to marry, but it would sure be better if they ... (read in full...)
Let it blow away or continue?
Q. Hey So Ive been seeing this guy off and on for about 3 years now, he has been married before but he got married right out of high school and he is 25 now. But im not so sure if I want to stay with him or not I mean he said he still has feelings for ...
A. 15 March 2009: He may not actually have feelings for HER but rather for the loss of the relationship. My first hubby and I have been apart since 1990 and sometimes I still cry when I talk about him even though I am now VERY happily married. You are lucky he ... (read in full...)
She's acting very strangely... can anyone help me understand this girl's behaviour?
Q. Okay my question is this a big problem waiting to happen? There's this girl I decided to become friends with at work. She's a major sweetheart and we have a lot in common.Well recently she told me she doesn't have any girl friends because ...
A. 15 March 2009: You have one very messed up new friend. I'd tread VERY lightly on ANY sort of friendship with her. She sounds like a psycho time bomb.... (read in full...)
What are the signs of a true female orgasm?
Q. I want to know what the signs of a "true female orgasm" are. I know that there are some people who say that you can't tell but I don't believe that. So someone please help me by making this clear to me....
A. 15 March 2009: Sometimes (Id even go as far as to say most times) a man can't tell, especially if the woman is faking to make him feel better. And yes guys, it happens, but we don't resent it.
One thing you and every other man needs to realize is that you are ... (read in full...)
How can I make it up to him?
Q. I'm not sure how to word this so I'll just tell the story and hope for the best. Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now, and, up untill yesterday, everything was perfect. We only really see eachother once a week on a saturday...
A. 15 March 2009: Aww sweetie that is such a woman way to react LOL I did the exact same thing with my hubby on Friday night. We've been having some problems and set up a date and I cried through the whole dinner. I felt just like you--that I really screwed up.
... (read in full...)
Period sex days late
Q. dear cupid, my period is late normally i am late but i am now about 6 days late and i am worrying, two weeks ago i had a courseowrk deadline and i stressed out abit but i dont think it was that bad i would skip a period.also i starting m...
A. 15 March 2009: The first obvious question is Have you had sex?
If the answer to that is no, then I would bet it's just one of those freak things--caused by stress or hormones or whatever. If you miss again next month go see your doctor. He or she may want to ... (read in full...)
Is this what he really wants?
Q. This all started in December 08. Me and my husband had an argument and I got really mad cause he lied to me about it but then he told me the truth and said he lied to keep from arguing, and I did hit him 3 times. I dont know why but I did, I ...
A. 15 March 2009: YOu guys need counseling. Together and separately. And if either one of you will not go for help, then cut your losses, accept the divorce, and learn to be on your own.... (read in full...)
Is it automatically understood that I am his girlfriend since we date and kiss?
Q. hi i recently met this guy and we started dating we went to a movie 3 days ago we kissed and made out and we are still dating but i don't know if he sees me as a girlfriend or just a friend or just a date or maybe even a friend with benefits or d...
A. 15 March 2009: Nope. You will never be completely sure unless you discuss it. If you are going to have a good relationship you should be able to talk about anything, so just ask him! But try to do it without pressure and if the answer is no, don't freak out.... (read in full...)
2 days after abortion he dumps me by text! I want him back!
Q. I LOVED MY BOYFRIEND VERYYYY MUCH SOOOO. we had been together 3 1/2 months. when he dumped me. I have bipolar, and paranoia. so the relationship was always a bit strained with my constant downs, and ups, and constantly wondering what my boyfriend ...
A. 11 March 2009: You need to stay on your meds, that's number one.
You need to see a counselor--if you aren't already.
And you need to forget about this asswipe. He's useless.
THEN you need to invest in contraception because at your young age and with a men... (read in full...)
Husband who blames wife for anything & everything
Q. Hi, I have been married for 27 years. I have always been faithful and a good wife. For over 20 years, we worked for my Dad and were to inherit the business, but after Mom died- My Dad married a much younger quote golddigger who made sure that d...
A. 11 March 2009: The only thing you are guilty of is codependence.
You need to break free from your Dad and your abusive husband (yes, even if he doesn't hit you he is still being abuseive)
Get some therapy and support. And get out of that situation! Bei... (read in full...)
Gmail snoop
Q. Hi, I have been in a relationship for about a year now. We started out as roommates and are still living together. I now have a decent job over here, that I don't want to give up and plus I still have very strong feelings for him. The relati...
A. 11 March 2009: Oh dear...It sounds like you have a problem. But not with him, with yourself. If you distrust him, you shouldnt be with him. But to go through his MAIL? That is just horrific, no matter what excuse you have.
My honest advice is break up, lear... (read in full...)
Scared of pregnancy after my first time
Q. Oh god, and I thought I'll be safe when I do my first sex! It just happened, I wanted it to happen. I was worried because we didn't have any condom, I wasn't on pill either. Argh!!! I'm in a foreign country, and I have no health insurance, I also ...
A. 11 March 2009: If you have lived in Ontario legally for 6th months or more you are eligible for free health care. Message me if you need more information on that, I'm an immigrant too.
Shoppers has the tests right near the condoms and lubes. You don't need to ... (read in full...)
Why wasn't he willing to change for me?
Q. i broke up with my bf. we were only together for 2 months. but i had (and still have) really strong feelings for him. basically, even though i loved him as a person (and he was so perfect: funny, attractive, clever, caring..), i broke up with h...
A. 9 March 2009: Why on earth would you ask someone to change who they are just for you?
Obviously he wasn't "perfect" or you wouldn't have wanted him to change.
Good call on the breakup. Leaves him free to be with someone who appreciates him as he is.... (read in full...)
Blowing on a girl's neck?
Q. What does it mean when a guy makes kissy faces at a girl and blows on her neck and is always like copying her or making fun of her [in a funny way, not to piss her off kinda way]??...
A. 9 March 2009: It means he's a young boy who doesn't know what to do with new feelings he has about you.... (read in full...)
I tried to break it off with this married man but he still flirts with me, what do I do?
Q. I began dating a guy at work a few months ago. He is married and I knew it from the beginning. (I know it's horrible). For the past few months, we've gotten relatively close. We emailed several times a day, went out on a few occations, (no sex, ...
A. 9 March 2009: If you guys changed your behavior at work, somebody is going to notice!
Likely he is a flirt by nature. THere is really nothing wrong with flirting. But you have to accept that is all it is ever going to be.
He's married. Strike 1. You w... (read in full...)
I had a dream about the PE teacher and now I am always thinking of her
Q. Ok. I am a 17 year old sixth form student. A few weeks ago I became really attracted to one of the female PE teachers at my school. I'd say she's in her mid twenties and she isn't the sort who makes herself look provocative. She has never taught me ...
A. 9 March 2009: You are definitely NOT in love with her. Nobody can be in love with someone they really don't know.
Your dream felt good. Now when you see her it still feels good. But lets be honest here, she's a teacher. You're 17. Where would this really b... (read in full...)
Where did it all go wrong?
Q. I have been dating a married man for two years. He always told me he was preparing to divorce his wife but he wanted to make sure his kids would be okay (ages 10, 14, and 18). He finally got a divorce about two months ago. He stayed at his house for ...
A. 9 March 2009: Where did it go wrong? When you started dating a married man. Why would you think a man who can't decide between two women in the first place would feel differently when you are the primary and not the mistress?
Tell him good riddance and find... (read in full...)
Ready for exclusive relationship!
Q. I have been seeing this guy for 3 mths and I'm ready for an exclusive relationship. I don't think he's seeing anyone else but I can't be sure. What do I do? I don't want to scare him off. Is it too soon to get to this level? I've been playing it ...
A. 9 March 2009: I think you should tell him you are ready to commit to seeing him exclusively. And just leave it at that. Don't ask him to make the same commitment. Make sure he understands you are just talking about YOUR OWN feelings and that there is no ... (read in full...)
It was just getting good what is his deal?
Q. Things were progressing so well with this new guy. We met online. Emailed back and forth for a while, talked on the phone and have been on four dates. Our dates have been great and he called me several days in advance to plan the first three and he ...
A. 9 March 2009: Your best bet is to just ask him. Tell him his behavior is confusing and you just are trying to figure out if he still likes being out with you. And don't do it via text. That is SO impersonal. ... (read in full...)
He just won't take the hint that I'm not interested, what do I do?
Q. Hi there, I recently went away on vacation for a week to another city about 2 hours way from where I live. I stayed with my best friend, and the frst night I was there, I went out clubbing and met her cousin. I was completely drunk and ended up ...
A. 9 March 2009: His weirdo feelings are not your fault. Tell him once and for all you want nothing to do with him then just ignore him. Whatever he does after that is his business and has nothing to do with you--ie if he chooses to move to your town it's not your ... (read in full...)
What should I do if the baby isn't his?
Q. I am a mom of 3 little girls and yesterday I found out I am pregnant again. When I became pregnant with my oldest daughter my boyfriend was delighted. She was a ray of sunshine. 4 years on and I became pregnant again but my boyfriend wasnt the dad. ...
A. 8 March 2009: If there is any chance whatsoever that this boyfriend isnt the father of yet another child, you need to tell him. And then he needs to end the relationship. What a horrible way to treat someone you're supposed to love. Sorry but that is the truth. ... (read in full...)
Husband not interested in me but mailing photos of himself to a guy?
Q. For the past few weeks, me and my husband's sex life used to be very good, but now it's gone from red-hot to zero-passion. My husband doesn't seem to show any interest in sex with me any more - I even wore sexy lingerie one night to try and get h...
A. 8 March 2009: Honey there is no reason a man would send photos of his private parts to another man other than something sexual. They may not be able to admit it yet, but there's attraction there.... (read in full...)
I want to squirt!
Q. I'm 21 and I am really feening to squirt. I know it might sound crazy or nasty, but I'm sick of hearing about girls squirting, and I'm not. Is it me or is my boyfriend supposed to make me do it? Can every girl squirt or is it just some? I'm ...
A. 8 March 2009: I think it is rather UNnatural actually. I wouldnt feel any pressure to do it. Cripes I bet even half of the girls seen on porn are not really doing it. And I always wonder if they aren't just screwed up in some way--like actually being a... (read in full...)
Husband not interested in me but mailing photos of himself to a guy?
Q. For the past few weeks, me and my husband's sex life used to be very good, but now it's gone from red-hot to zero-passion. My husband doesn't seem to show any interest in sex with me any more - I even wore sexy lingerie one night to try and get h...
A. 8 March 2009: Hayley he is either lying to you or lying to himself. There's a sexual thing happening between him and this man and it likely is the cause of your loss of sex. Give this some real thought. Likely this is a fantasy he will never actually do, but ... (read in full...)
Road trip, bereavement and cancer advice wanted
Q. Dear Cupids, At last my question for you all :D. Very soon i am of to America on holiday with my friend and his wife. We are going to be road tripping around LA – Phoenix – Flagstaff – Vegas areas. However, it isn’t just a holiday, there a...
A. 8 March 2009: I think all your friend and your cousin really need is for you to be yourself. You don't have to be knowledgeable, just kind. Be a listening ear, don't promise things will get better, and just allow them to say what they feel or not, and be there ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend beats the hell out of me
Q. My boyfriend beats the hell out of me when I get him upset (he says I'm "getting fly.") He choked me when I was 8 months pregnant (outside), and he beat me up in front of our 2 daughters and my lil sister. I have been kicked, punched, slapped, head ...
A. 8 March 2009: Of course the simple answer is to just leave. But that is sooooo hard to do, especially with children involved.
But ask yourself if this is what you want your kids to think is normal for relationships.
What would you tell your daughter to do i... (read in full...)
I think my teacher wants to have sex with me!
Q. I'm so confused. I posted a question on here a year ago about being in love with my teacher. I came to realize I was trippin. I have her again this year and I don't think I'm in love with her again lol but I am lusting over her. I don't want a ...
A. 8 March 2009: Sexual attraction is a strange thing. Certainly she may be attracted to you. And if that's the case she's got to be really stressed out about this--struggling between what she wants and what is the right thing to do.
But the bottom line is that ... (read in full...)
His comments really pissed me off!
Q. What would you say to this? On getting up this morning i put on my lovely black silk dressing gown over my gorgeous black lace cami and matching knickers. Granted some cleavage was showing (so what!). My other half turned around and after he took ...
A. 8 March 2009: Is it possible he thought you were dressing up for someone else? If you looked great and he had to go off to work Im sure he was sexually frustrated and wondering why you would dress like that knowing he had to leave.... (read in full...)
I dumped her and she lost her grandma at the same time. I feel terrible but am still angry.
Q. Ok, so my girlfriend's ex-boyfriend grabbed her butt yesterday. I have asked this guy nicely to stop messing with her in the past. I have also asked in a mean way. It's obvious that he's not going to stop. When i found out on friday i was looking ...
A. 8 March 2009: THere is never a good time for a breakup. And your timing may actually have been better this way. The loss of her grandma will be foremost for her and ending the relationship with you will be on the back burner. It's nice that you are concerned ... (read in full...)
I am obsessed with my senior colleague!
Q. I am a 26yr old gay guy. not out n dont intend to be out as it is going to affect a lot of lives adversely. i think i have a deeply infatuated with one of my seniors. i am just too obssessed with him and cant stop thinking about him. i work very...
A. 8 March 2009: This is indeed a sticky situation. Workplace relationships are usually a very bad idea, and the two of you have other things to deal with as well. I think perhaps you should leave this guy to your fantasies and keep it professional.... (read in full...)
Is going on the pill at 16 normal?
Q. ive been married to my wife for over 20 yrs. She was engaged to a guy before she met me, she also went on the pill for him at the age of 16. This is crucifying me after all these yrs. Can someone help me? Is this a normal age to go on the pill? I ...
A. 8 March 2009: Im in your age group and even "back then" it was quite normal for a 16 year old girl to go on the pill.
It doesn't really matter now though. She is who she is, and you fell in love with who she is! Let it go and don't let it ruin your relation... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time with all these trust issues or should I move on?
Q. So Im not sure what to do. I am a lesbian in a relationship with a girl whom I love very much. However I just cant seem to trust her. We start dating in April of 2008 and afer about two months I started getting the feeling that she was cheating on ...
A. 8 March 2009: Trust is crucial in a serious relationship. She has proven she can't be trusted. Time for her feet to hit the pavement...... (read in full...)
He texts his ex's about me!
Q. For the last few months my guy has been textin his ex's more and more. It's not this that bothers me its the fact that he never defends me to them and he tells lies about me to them and agrees with them over me. Recentley he started to delete his ...
A. 8 March 2009: Why are you with this guy? He's a loser. Find someone decent who isn't still trailing around after the women he couldnt make it work with.... (read in full...)
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