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I am obsessed with my senior colleague!

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Question - (8 March 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 9 March 2009)
A male United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I am a 26yr old gay guy. not out n dont intend to be out as it is going to affect a lot of lives adversely.

i think i have a deeply infatuated with one of my seniors. i am just too obssessed with him and cant stop thinking about him. i work very closely with him... the only saving grace is that he works from a different office in another city. else i guess it would have been more difficult for me.

he's in his mid-30s, unmarried n to my knowledge single. i suspect he's gay as well but not out. i only suspect. we email n chat with each other as colleagues. but sometimes the discussions go far beyond work... stuff 2 male colleagues would not talk about.

the matter of fact is that he's my senior n my having such feelings for him is not right. but i cant control them. i want to be liked by him. i want him to just work with me. am crazy about him. n i feel miserable. i wish i could get rid of these feelings i have for him. am too obssessed.

what do i do?

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A male reader, philipgifts United States +, writes (9 March 2009):

philipgifts agony aunt I think that in any work place it would be a bad idea for anyone to be together,but you already know that and I think you just really wont the reassurance to do this.Then do it,but (first) make-sure that he feels the same way,it may mean you'll have to ask some pretty intement questions. Think of all the veritables,repercussions of it cousing (secondly).See the wide range offects that it will make,if it comes out that your gay,then if your comfortable with that,then do it.If you wont any more thoughts about this come to my profile.

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A female reader, triedit Canada +, writes (8 March 2009):

triedit agony auntThis is indeed a sticky situation. Workplace relationships are usually a very bad idea, and the two of you have other things to deal with as well. I think perhaps you should leave this guy to your fantasies and keep it professional.

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