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anonymous
writes:Hi there, I recently went away on vacation for a week to another city about 2 hours way from where I live. I stayed with my best friend, and the frst night I was there, I went out clubbing and met her cousin. I was completely drunk and ended up kissing him most of the night. Ever since then it's been awkward. I've since come back home yet he seems to think we have a thing, although I never did anything else with him at all. He constantly texts me and if I don't reply he gets angry. He told all his friends that I hooked up with him and told others that I was his girlfriend. He's a really nice guy and I don't want to be mean, but how do I let him know that I just want to be friends and that's all? He's considering moving to my town to be near me, when he knows I don't like him in tht way! I've tried to say it nicely, but he just won't get the hint. I don't want to be mean if I don't have to be.Thanks (:
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reader, fuglyone  +, writes (21 April 2009):
 Maybe try sending him some videos that can say it better than you have.
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reader, Tomas +, writes (9 March 2009):
Answer is in the question. Guys usually don't take hints, so don't hint.
Say what you mean, clearly and directly. Works like a charm.
You can dress it up with, "I feel terrible saying this because I don't want to hurt you or be mean, but ..."
The main thing is that what comes after the "but" be simple and clear. "I was drunk, this is uncomfortable, and I'm not interested in dating you."
Not "I'm not in a good place for a relationship now" or that baloney. You're not interested in dating him. Period. It's fine to tell him you don't think he's a bad guy, and you hope he has better luck with other relationships. But you and him, ain't gonna happen.
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reader, tux +, writes (9 March 2009):
 You need to just tell him that you are not interested in him.. and ignore all the rest of his communications. If he continues, you can always change your number. Other thing, i'm debating on, is maybe send him a link to a website that tells you what to do if you have someone stalking you.. but that may anger him..
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reader, kaylagal +, writes (9 March 2009):
 Guyz don't get nice sometimes. You don't have to be mean about it but be firm. Just tell him "hey, I DON'T WANT YOU, leave me alone." And also add that him not getting it is really freaking you out.
Good luck.
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reader, triedit  +, writes (9 March 2009):
 His weirdo feelings are not your fault. Tell him once and for all you want nothing to do with him then just ignore him. Whatever he does after that is his business and has nothing to do with you--ie if he chooses to move to your town it's not your fault.
If he won't leave you alone though, you need to think about going to the police because he's a stalker.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2009): Hi well if he doesnt get it i think you should not reply to his txts msgs or calls. He should know better to understand that it was just a drunk kiss[es] & that anything can happen when someone's drunk. Try telling him once more and if he doesnt agree on letting you alone then tell him you'll do it for him and dont txt him or reply to his conversations. Sometiems is hard to be mean to someone who's nice but sometimes you have to if you've tried everything and still he doesnt get it.
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