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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I want to know what the signs of a "true female orgasm" are. I know that there are some people who say that you can't tell but I don't believe that. So someone please help me by making this clear to me.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (15 March 2009):
 You got great advice, just adding in...
Keep in mind that some women's contractions are more obvious than others. For instance, if your lady has been working on her Kegel exercises, she may have more noticeable contractions, but she also could have ones that are harder for you to feel. Every woman is different. So, if you don't think you felt anything and yet she's saying that she had one - believe her!! She will always know better that you.
Good luck!
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (15 March 2009):
 If you're inside her, most of the time you can feel her twitching inside, or gripping your penis with her muscles.
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reader, 1perrito  +, writes (15 March 2009):
 And oh yes, I forgot to tell you, let her get on top. Anonymous is right.
The only thing is, you must not control your urge to comme. It is harder for men to control when a woman is on the top.
THink about fussball (soccer), baseball, the bills, or something of that nature. And don't touch her breast- that will make you comme.
Just concentrate and let her lead. Take it out for a break until you calm down. Then try again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): Don't ask her! it sounds bad. Let her go on top during sex, not many women can orgasm through penetration.
As long as she is not faking it all the time you should be able to see when she is faking it or not as she will lose control when she really is, she may shake or quiver and breathing will alter.
Ultimately why are you bothered? She probably wouldn't continue to have sex with you if it was bad and if she does fake it it's because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings, she's probably just not in the mood.
Don't stress!
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reader, 1perrito +, writes (15 March 2009):
All women are unique. And, I recon, "true female orgasm" is different to every woman.
However, I can only ask you: when you are trying to get your partner to orgasm are you doing it through intercourse or orally?
In my experience, intercourse alone effects women differently. Some of my X's never climaxed. Some of them clearly faked it. Some came to climax with intercourse alone.
When I have tried oral with women, the results were always positive, though. You have to be patient, there's no need to rush to intercourse.
What I have noticed is that when a woman climaxes with oral clitoris stimulation (yes, going down on her) her body 'quivers'. Her vaginal entrance (at my chin during her eruption) contracts. My current lover gets goose-bumps all over her body and her nipples get firmer.
Just know, that this is not automatic, it takes a little work and time. Depending on her mood, the place, and her health, it could take 3 minutes to get her to climax or up to 10 minutes or longer.
Also, what I have noticed is that when the (clitorial) climax is occuring, there is a thrushhold or limit to how much stimulation a woman can take. She will most likely tell you to stop or push your head away.
Thanks for reading. Hope I did not offend anybody out there with what I just typed! LOL
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reader, Replacement  +, writes (15 March 2009):
 You can feel her vagina tightening/loosening around you. The contractions (at least for me) are really easy to feel. That's the easiest way to know she's not faking it, coupled with her heavy breathing/moaning/sometimes screaming.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): Pussy twitching, hard breathing, tense up and falling limp right after..
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (15 March 2009):
 Some girls find it hard to orgasam during sex so they try and fake an orgasam.
An orgasam is basically controlled by the involuntary, or autonomic, nervous system and is mussle contractions in the lower pelvic muscles which surround the primary sex organs.
You have an orgasm by stimulating the clitoris or the G-spot.
If a girl is faking an orgasam they won't have muscles contracting.
Livia
xx
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reader, triedit +, writes (15 March 2009):
 Sometimes (Id even go as far as to say most times) a man can't tell, especially if the woman is faking to make him feel better. And yes guys, it happens, but we don't resent it.
One thing you and every other man needs to realize is that you are not what gives her the orgasm. For women, it is a psychological thing, a feeling inside rather than a body feeling. Sure it CAN be done with just a physical stimulation but the satisfying ones happen when she's in just the right frame of mind (maybe because you've done or said something nice) and you add to that some sexual attention, ending by showing her what she does for you. There is nothing more stimulating than knowing you turn someone else on.
If you really MUST know if she orgasmed, ask her. But she may or may not tell you the truth. Best idea is when you are done, ask her if there is anything else she'd like you to do for/to her. THen do it.
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