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writes:I don't know how to stop him! My boyfriend, who is 20 has many issues like.. He smokes pot, drinks a lot, carries condoms and has sex with loads of prostitutes, been in trouble with the police for assault and shop lifting- I just don't know what to do. I'm 13. I'm very tall for my age and have big breasts and wear alot of makeup. I could pass for sixteen. My boyfriend- call him... James?- well james thinks I'm sixteen and treats me like it- even though I've told him I'm only young and can't take it. We've been seeing eachother for a month now, I met him through a friends older brother's party, they didn't know eachother that well but we met at his party. So anyway, he thought I was about 16 so was hitting on me and we ended up making out in the bathroom with his hands down my pants and my hands up his shirt. He wanted to get inside me but I said sex was too far. We started seeing eachother and he knows I'm 13. When we'd been going out for a few days he came over when my parents were away for the weekend and we had sex. I liked it- don't get me wrong but now hes going too far. Hes putting his whole hand up there instead of just fingering, and hes been cumming on my boobs and face and been hammering me and making me have sex for hours and hours once we went on for five hours. We use protection but it's just going too fast and hes going to far and I want to stop it even though I like it- because I know hes only in it for the sex. And I love the sex but I know it's wrong...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): You won't change him. This is reality. You can wish you could, hope you could, watch sappy movies about people who did, read articles about doing it, and it doesn't matter one bit. You won't change him. If you stay with him then you are tolerating it. If you leave him you are not tolerating it. If you don't want to be in this position, then don't get hooked up with someone that you know is like this already. It's not easy to get out of it, but it's MUCH easier just not to get into it. Who you are attracted to sometimes has nothing to do with who is good for you.This is not what you want to hear, but this is what you need to learn. Tons of normal decent people spend most of their teens and 20s in terrible relationship situations because they can't get these simple facts through their heads.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): A boy becomes the man. What this guy was at 15 or 20 means that he is this way for good. He is a criminal, and he is sick and using you for sex. In the US, if you prosecuted him he would go on a national register of sex offenders. He is a pervert....I don't care if you look 16 and have big boobs, you are a CHILD of 13 and I feel very sorry that you have chosen to have sex at such an early age let alone sex with a perverted criminal.
He is going nowhere, you will read about him in the papers someday, he will do jail time if he hasn't already. Your brother needs better friends, this guy is dangerous, you need to get away from him as fast as you can, and if I were you I would report him to the police for sexually molesting you. He is forcing you to have sex for hours when you don't want to, he is abusing you by forcing his entire hand up you? And he is obviously a porn addict a sex addict and a pervert who likes sex with babies.....
Wake up, get some help, you don't have the intelligence or the forsight to know what you are doing is putting yourself in danger and hanging out with the wrong kind of people. Stop it now, tell your parents or someone what he has been doing to you......this is sick, sweetheart.
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reader, triedit  +, writes (15 March 2009):
 Get away from him. What he is doing is abuse. NEVER see or talk to him again and if he bothers you, tell your parents and the police.
This is not a stable person and DEFINITELY not boyfriend material.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (15 March 2009):
 YOU ARE AN IDIOT! What are you doing with this guy? And lying about your age too...
Come on sweetheart even you must realise you are better than this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): Wow, where to start. Why would you want to date or have sex with a guy who is having sex with hookers? He is 20 years old and you are a child. There are laws against what he is doing. And you are right he is using you for sex. Get out of this relationship before it gets any worse. Tell your paretns a teacher or the police.
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reader, mr41  +, writes (15 March 2009):
 i think that you should tell him that you only 13 and that sex is just too much for you.... plus why are you with such an older guy??? take your time...your young.... trust me there is no rush in getting older
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