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writes:I met my current boyfriend in the 7th grade when I was dating his older brother. He has liked me since then(i'm now a senior) well we started dating almost a year ago and he from the first week has been telling me he loves me and wants to marry me. Well I moved to california 3 months ago and he wanted to stay together. Since I left he has become depressed and we can't even talk anymore because he only wants to talk about sex or how much he misses me. He wont even talk to me about the things he does or his everyday life. Our mutual friends tell me he has become a complete jerk. To be honest I have lost the affection I had for him. I ask him if he thinks the long distance thing is working and he always says its hard but he will always love me and nothing can change that. I have met other guys here though and with the problems I am having with my current relationship I just don't know. What should I do? Should I stay with my boyfriend even though I don't feel the love for him I once did? Or should I tell him I don't think its working?
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reader, Olivia(Y).  +, writes (15 March 2009):
 Its not fair on either of you staying together.
Its not fair on you because you feel you have to stay with him to make him happy. Its not fair on him because he thinks you still love him when you clearly don't.
I think it would be a good idea if you talked to him calmly saying that you think its time for you to move on. Theres nothing you can do to not upset him but you will just have to get through it. Its horrible breaking someone heart but you don't want to lead him on and give him false hope do you?
There nothing to say you can't be friends with him. Just be nice to him about it, he will be upset but he will pull through it.
Good luck
Livia
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reader, triedit  +, writes (15 March 2009):
 Time to move on. He's got issues that really don't have anything to do with you and he's being a d*ck. Enjoy some time on your own, get used to your new place, then if the opportunity arises see other people. And I'd just let this guy go--not even talk to him after you explain what's going to happen--and hope he gets his act together so he can someday have a normal relationship.
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