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writes:i broke up with my bf. we were only together for 2 months. but i had (and still have) really strong feelings for him.basically, even though i loved him as a person (and he was so perfect: funny, attractive, clever, caring..), i broke up with him because it wasn't working for many reasons (i didn't see him much, he never took me out, only wanted nights in and sex and it felt like he didnt respect me that much...anyway, i really really miss him so much. we got on so well! he would tell me that he really liked me too, but then why wasn't he willing to change for me?do you think i made the right decision to end it?
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reader, triedit  +, writes (9 March 2009):
 Why on earth would you ask someone to change who they are just for you?
Obviously he wasn't "perfect" or you wouldn't have wanted him to change.
Good call on the breakup. Leaves him free to be with someone who appreciates him as he is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): YES!!! If a guy only wants you at home and in the bed then where is your relationship really? You truly have feelings for him but I think there more attachment and insecurity issuse. You sound like a confused person, but stop and think about what you just said and see if that's how you want to spend the rest of your life or take a leap of faith and believe that there is someone out there that has the same wants and needs as you. Everyone had "Wants" and Needs". Was he fulfilling your basic needs and if so, was her really fulfilling your wants? If you can honestly answer Yes, then go back to him... But I can tell you that a guy who doesn't consider your wants (going out for dinner,etc.) Just keep moving. You will find someone when you least expect it and remember I wasted 9 yrs with my ex, atleast you only have 2 months vested. Good luck..... KL
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reader, Ted-ster  +, writes (7 March 2009):
I think you made the right call: Sounds like you were his bootie call, and you probably sensed it, that's why you kicked him to the curb. Good decision. Move on.
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