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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:This all started in December 08. Me and my husband had an argument and I got really mad cause he lied to me about it but then he told me the truth and said he lied to keep from arguing, and I did hit him 3 times. I dont know why but I did, I guess I was just really upset, I know I should not have and I feel really bad. We have been together for 8 1/2 years, married almost 5 and we used to get along great. For the past year we have been trying to have a baby but I have a tumor on my pituitary gland and it is getting better now but I think that is a lot of my problems but he doesn't believe that. It has screwed my hormones up. He says I fuss at him for everything he does and want to argue all the time and never want to have anything to do with him in the bedroom. What is wrong with us? On January 16 he filed for divorce and were are still living together and did until we went to sign the divorce papers on February 6 and then he moved out. The day we signed the papers we were together that night.At first he was keeping the house and I was staying there till I found a place then I changed my mind and wanted the house so then he stayed there there till he moved out to his mom's. I guess what I would like to know is, is this what he really wants? We have talked a few times over the past month and seen each other too and he took a chance of not wearing protection. He says that I'm not happy with him but then he also said he didn't want to let go and was afraid things would go back the same way, and not get along after a few weeks and I don't feel that way... I love him so much and want to be with him, cause I'm still in love with him and I think he feels the same way too. I can't let go, I think we were meant for each other. Any advice?
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (15 March 2009):
 Talk to him. Meet him in a neutral place, and just straight out ask him, and tell him exactly how you feel. You'll know exactly where you stand then...
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reader, triedit  +, writes (15 March 2009):
 YOu guys need counseling. Together and separately. And if either one of you will not go for help, then cut your losses, accept the divorce, and learn to be on your own.
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