I like him but I am not physically attracted to him. What do I do?
Q. So i really like my best friend he's a guy lol and the only problem is that there is almost no physical attraction. i mean i love himm and his ways but there's not physical attraction and idk what to do??...
A. 19 October 2009: satindesire is 100% correct...i looked at this question particularly because I'm experiencing some of the same... i have a guy whole would do anything for me and does whenever i ask...BUT...im not physically attracted to him...AT ALL...so with th... (read in full...)
He said he'd contact me but its been 3 weeks
Q. I hung out with my roommates brother and connected with him incredibly. We both commented that it was creepy how alike we were. He lives 3 hours away and told me when we parted that he needed to get my number so we could go on a date. He was ...
A. 16 October 2009: you and i share the same situation...only mine is in the same town but works crazy hour...yours is in military or on his way to military...
point;;;
you two connected well and like each other...i say if he likes you the same way you like him... (read in full...)
How serious should I take it when he says we are not having sex, we are making love?
Q. Ok aunts...this is tricky...im curious how far am i suppose to go when considering the words that are said during sex...i know some talk sh*t when making out and it's just apart of sex...but this guy told me we weren't having sex we were making ...
A. 6 October 2009: it seems as though anonymous may think im insensitive...by calling me shallow that's what im assuming...well the truth is i actually do have feelings BUT i don't want them hurt...so in order for me to protect my feelings i do tend to be insensitive ... (read in full...)
How serious should I take it when he says we are not having sex, we are making love?
Q. Ok aunts...this is tricky...im curious how far am i suppose to go when considering the words that are said during sex...i know some talk sh*t when making out and it's just apart of sex...but this guy told me we weren't having sex we were making ...
A. 5 October 2009: Thanks aunts...I really appreciate your responses...you replied some of what I already knew...but just wanted confirmation...what he said was in fact due to the current situation being just sex...I'm going to assume for right now...and I will let ... (read in full...)
Do women in relationships still masturbate or have sexual thoughts about other men?
Q. My wife and I were talking the other day and the topic of masturbation came up. When I asked her the question I am positive she fed me with a bullshit answer. So basically I want to take a poll here. The question for any married woman or women ...
A. 22 July 2009: YES... (read in full...)
Need advice - Is my husband gay? Desperate for answers.
Q. I am posting this personal information in hopes of getting different perspectives on my current situation. I am a 39 year old married woman. I have been married to my husband for almost a year, with him for 3 years. I found out 6 months into...
A. 21 May 2009: my opinion: i think he's gay...it's not normal for a over grown man to want to put on womans clothes and be penetrated from the back...
i would of had a little of a reasonable doubt if he was looking at female porn...he actually has a desire t... (read in full...)
Boyfriend had male sex 15 yrs ago. Will this affect our mariage?
Q. Hi! I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we are planning to get married and have a baby. We love each other. He's been recently unwell, he had a little secret that was tormenting him so he told me eventually that when he was 16 he had sex with...
A. 28 April 2009: i just want to say that...my husband of 5 yrs had male sexual experiences (oral) as a teenager...he informed me of this...and as a young woman i really didn't think much of it...
to make a long story short he still had the experience in his mind... (read in full...)
Was I just a FWB or a Plan B only?
Q. It has been a while since I’ve been here at Cupid asking questions mainly because other than sorting out my life I haven’t been in any sort of relationship to have any issues. Its a bit long... But quite interesting... And there’s quite a bit of ...
A. 8 April 2009: ok...firstly this paragraph that came out of your post: My friends tell me I’m the guy girls meet before they meet the guy they settle down with. Wish someone else would do that job! is ridiculous. and if they are any kind of friends they wou... (read in full...)
I don't have low self esteem so why do I continue this affair?
Q. Aunts please help me... I still haven't left this guy alone that I'm being the other woman to... and the sad part is I would like to but haven't been strong enough to just leave him alone, because he's obviously not going to leave me alone. The ...
A. 3 April 2009: you all are right...maybe he does keep me from facing the mere fact that without him i will be alone except for my son and God...i WILL get past this...im confident in that...when?...im not sure...but God knows...if i hadn't let my feelings get so ... (read in full...)
I'm lost. Should I be happy I found someone who has an unconditional love for me?
Q. Alright. I have been with my fiance for a year now. He asked me to marry him about 3 months ago and I said yes. I wasn't really initially attracted to him but he became a rock. My father passed away about two months after we started dating and he w...
A. 1 April 2009: it really all depends on what you can/cannot tolerate...if you don't want an alcoholic husband then one of the stipualtions to your marriage would be that he'd have to slow down or stop drinking...
or just extend your engagement until you feel his... (read in full...)
Follow up: My husband has impregnated a girl-twice in our marriage
Q. This is a follow up to My husband has impregnated a girl twice during our marriage! http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-husband-has-impregnated-a-girl-twice-during.html Thanks to all those who responded to my question i really vaue all your...
A. 31 March 2009: my husband did the same thing except both of his were with two different women and one he landed twins with...so this is a total of 3 extra kids...add my son and he has 4 total... we are in the process of a divorce...i will never trust him again.... (read in full...)
We had a big fall out and now he's sleeping on the couch and won't make up with me.
Q. I have a major boyfriend problem and need help. I've been with my partner for 4 years. On Saturday night we had a massive row and on Sunday morning we discussed it and in temper I told him it was over. He said fine. I didn't mean and I tried to tell ...
A. 31 March 2009: on one hand he may be being stubborn...and on the other hand he may just be waiting until it's convient for him to leave. in any case you've already humbled yourself and made the first move to reconcile...the thing is men take these types of t... (read in full...)
I'm alone in this universe
Q. Sometimes I feel like no one really gets me. I have a sincere appreciation for the friends that I have and new people I meet, but I feel like no one is really on the same wavelength that I am...does that make sense? I understand that all people are ...
A. 30 March 2009: I feel the same way...i've prayed for someone to come into my life that can relate to the things I do...this is past just friends, even my mother and I don't see things the same or similar...
it's kind of a hopeless feeling but i figure we're ju... (read in full...)
Why do women get involved with men that truly aren't free?
Q. Why do some women get into a relationship with a man thats either married or committed and settles with being the third wheel. How do they really feel about themselves. They would spend there last dime on this man and she knows that he will nev...
A. 30 March 2009: speaking from experience, im a woman who had an affair with a commited guy. and i can honestly say that i was vulnerable, low self esteem, looking for love in all the wrong places, desperate to be loved, and settled for a loser.
i can proudly ... (read in full...)
I need to feel loved and in a secure relationship
Q. Heres the situation. My ex boyfriend and i broke up 6 months ago cos basically we didnt spend enough time together and i felt that he didnt love me as i loved him. And i was gonna get hurt! Even though he tells me he does. I have thought bout him ...
A. 27 March 2009: i don't mean to sound rude...but it seems to me as though you're pressuring him into something he may or may not want...if you've already let him know that he needs to commit to satisfy you then he's well aware of that fact... furthermore, i... (read in full...)
Is he using me for a fun time at the weekend only?
Q. Dear Aunts, I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year - we both work hard and only see each other of a weekend (but all weekend). It took him a long time to say 'I love you' (said it for the first time last month, and even now I can see th...
A. 26 March 2009: girl...don't i know exactly what you mean...my guy is 40 and still doesn't know when he want to get married...or if he's going to get married...he'd been with another female for over 10yrs and still didn't marry her...what these guys are waiting for ... (read in full...)
I think he's a committment phobia kind of man
Q. I love my boyfriend alot and I know he loves me but...I think he might be one of those commitment phobic guys. He gets really close to me and then does something or says I do something that enables him to pull away for days or even weeks. He says ...
A. 25 March 2009: i don't think you're necessarily wasting your time but if marriage is what you want you may want to look else where...im with a guy who is with a girl for 10yrs and has yet to marry her...and have told me he has no plans on marrying her...
he sa... (read in full...)
Is it me he loves or this other girl? I need to know for sure.
Q. Me and my husband are having problems. He was having an affair ad now I can't trust him. I love him, he is from Morocco and I'm from Ireland. Is it me he loves or this other girl? I need to know to end this marriage. I still love him too much. ...
A. 25 March 2009: are you still with your husband? i can't tell you who he loves but all you can really do is go off of his actions. has he left this other girl alone?
me personally...im involved with a man who has a girlfriend...she just found out about us maybe... (read in full...)
How does anyone ever trust a cheater again?
Q. Many answers advise that if you have been cheated on, the cheater is going to lie to cover up the truth or to make things seem less serious than they actually were. I am in that situation and my question is, if the cheater is assumed to be lying, h...
A. 24 March 2009: i hate to say it but kellyxxx is right...they do this suicidal act to get you to forgive them...and then they let things die down...let you think everything is peaches and cream...then they're off to cheating again... listen im going to be hone... (read in full...)
I don't want to be made into an idiot..but I'm not sure I trust him!
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for over 8 months. About 4 years ago, I ended a relationship with a man who turned out to be married (I fully believed him that he was separated and in the process of divorce..it turned out that he was literally living ...
A. 24 March 2009: Im not taking any sides but if you don't stop snopping, you're going to run this guy away...
It's not he's fault you've been cheated on in the past...so don't blame him...
Just remember what's done in the dark always comes to light...If he fe... (read in full...)
Ready to leave my wife for my 1st love
Q. I am looking for some perspective on my situation. From age 19-27, I was together with someone but due to our religious upbringings, age difference, etc., and the fact that both of us didn't believe in premarital sex, we never had sex with each ot...
A. 19 March 2009: im experiencing some of the same...and personally i don't think you should let this opportunity pass you by...
i do have one question though...were these feelings of emptiness present before you reunited with your 1st love? if so then you know you... (read in full...)
Finally got the strength to walk away from a cheater
Q. UPDATE After finding out about my husbands affairs just over a year ago (3 over our 20 years of marriage)and all the lies and excuses i have finally LEFT HIM,i tried to make it work i love him with all heart but can not be with him any more. I...
A. 10 March 2009: I really envy you. Not only am I trying to do the same, but the man I'm involved with already has a gf, and she knows about us, and still haven't left him. she said she's fine as long as she's #1, and im not fine at all with being #2, so im trying... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend is trying to push me away.....Is he trying to get rid of me?
Q. The relationship I have with my boyfriend is slowly falling apart and I don't know what to do. We have been together for a year and in the beginning it was wonderful, he was so affectionate, loved to just talk to me about anything, so interest...
A. 10 March 2009: men tend to act like this when they know we're vulnerable to them...ignore him for a couple of days and act as if you don't care. if he cares any about you he'll start to show it. by calling, texting, etc. just don't contact him for at least 3 d... (read in full...)
Can you really get over your soul mate when you're both still in love?
Q. I'm asking if everyone has the ability to 'move on' and get over a deep love they share with someone? I believe I am grieving, and I know some people will judge me, however I am just hoping that there is some hope, which sounds a little dramatic I ...
A. 5 March 2009: i feel your pain through your post...im currently experiencing some of the same...i actually meet with my guy to get my key today...he's been holding off for days...i told him to just put it in the mail slot and we didn't have to see each other, but ... (read in full...)
Will he call? Or never call again?
Q. Hello, I just got out of a 2 year relationship. The guy I was with claimed to truly be in love with me and even proposed to me this past October. We have gone through ALOT during those 2 years. 2 weeks ago we broke up for 3 days and he tells me ...
A. 4 March 2009: he'll call you. trust me. they always do. i admire the fact that you REFUSE to call him. keep it up! don't call him whatever you do. he'll then think you are wide open for him. let him call you. im actually going through the same and it's taking ... (read in full...)
He finds it so difficult to move out because of the children...
Q. Myself and someone I work with fell in love with each other about 5/6 months ago... we both told each other and things progressed in to a "love affair". There was one problem though. I had a boyfriend, who I ended with because I had no feelings for ...
A. 18 February 2009: Yes, I do think it will last. For one he's obviously willing to work out regardless of you and his feelings for each other. Its sad and probably not what you want to hear, but it's reality.
If they seperated and you and him didn't connect ... (read in full...)
I can't be told I am wrong for wanting to know?
Q. I want to make this as short as possible for someone to understand. I don't live an easy life. I know my dear husband loves me a lot and I do love him. We been together for over 13 years and in the beginning it was more downs than ups. I married my ...
A. 13 February 2009: Yeah...you're right...you're not wrong for wanting to know, but in MY opinion your going to regret dedicating all of your life to a man who has been in jail most of the time and still associating with his ex wife the entire time. from what i ga... (read in full...)
Doubts about a lasting relationship without christ...
Q. Hello everyone my name is Feeljoy please my question is: is there really a lasting relationship on earth without christ in your life?...
A. 30 January 2009: i agree very much with shortstuff4789...you do need the Jesus in your life to have a lasting relationship. yeah people can stay together without Jesus, but in order for their relationship to be meaningful and have a purpose they BOTH need Jesus. ... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid or should I read the signs and listen to my instinct?
Q. Because of my past, I am aware and working on some insecurities I have. My husband is loving and understands this. However, he persists to do and say things that intensifies my fears and lack of trust. He is secretive about alot of things, hides ...
A. 20 January 2009: listen to your instincts hun...there's no reason to hide texts and emails...NONE...if he is aware of your trust issues he should be more than willing to show you any text and/or email...
i'm sorry but it sounds as though he may be cheating... (read in full...)
I want him to know that I will be wherever he needs to be
Q. Got to go back in time a bit first. 14 months ago I lost my mum and a few weeks later I met a lovely man, who was just what I needed. We loved each other, my family liked him and I got on with his family and friends. We spent lots of time ...
A. 15 January 2009: first i just want to ask do you trust him?...because im thinking that the thought of him leaving his mom and sister had to cross his mind in the beginning when the thought of moving surfaced. im wondering does he still deal with his wife? or ano... (read in full...)
Cheat, cheat and cheat again?!!
Q. i been married 20yrs and found out my husband was having an affair with a girl at work.she is 20yrs younger when i found out he admitted everything he had been seeing her for a few months he even took her to a hotel where our son had got married a ...
A. 15 January 2009: LEAVE HIM!!!BEFORE HE LEAVES YOU
I believe that he has been getting his cake and eating it for to long. my husband has cheated on me several times.
the old saying says "you hurt me once, it's on you"
"you hurt me twice, ... (read in full...)
He shagged like a porn star in his affair!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 14 years, with 2 kids. He is 40 I am 37. For a long time (possibly always) our love life has not been right. He is very highly sexed, and would want to make love every day, and several times a day if ...
A. 15 January 2009: leave him...if it's meant, he'll come crawling on his knees back to you...
right now he's feeling his self, his ego is boosted up real high...
if you want to have any self respect for your self, or if you want anyone else (especially him)... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing? I gave up being the other woman!
Q. HI.. well were do i start, about a year ago i met this guy we kinda hit it of but just as friends over the phone he stoped by once we talked for about 20 min and that was it he had a girlfriend and i respected that i didnt even see him like that ...
A. 13 January 2009: yeah...you did the right thing...i've been playing the same game for about 6months...and it's not fun...i've tried to do what you've done by just ignoring his calls and not calling him but my love/lust for him overcame my efforts and i would end up ... (read in full...)
What can I say to make him go away for good, and not humiliate myself?
Q. The guy I broke up with this weekend called 3 times last night. When I called him back, I asked why he called and he said, "just to say hi" and then giggled. I told him, "don't call just to say hi. Don't call me at all." I know he likes to mess...
A. 7 January 2009: you know what I'm experiencing some of the same. i've been seeing this guy for about six months and he has a gf also. although he did spend x-mas with me and tried to spend new years but i chose not to, he is the same. as soon as i decide to cut him ... (read in full...)
Why do people believe - or not believe - in God?
Q. Im just curious here, I wanna hear from people who are and are not in anyway, religious. To the folk who to believe there's a god, why do you believe so? A personal miracle happened to you, or some sort of experience that has made you believe? Or ...
A. 31 December 2008: yes, i do believe in God. i wasn't raised in church but was introduced to God as an adult. He is real. He's not human but He's a Spirit and he died on the cross for me and you.
i ran to God when i was at a rough point in my life. i was 22 didn'... (read in full...)
In love with a man who is already married
Q. Dear friend i need some good advise from you all... I had make up my mind to leave a married man that i fall in love with.. Let me tell you this story. I met someone a year and a half and we get alone so well... After half year dating ,he conf...
A. 22 December 2008: im in same situation...only my guy isn't married just been with her for 10-15yrs...visit dearcupid.in love with a married man, how to cope with break up .com... (read in full...)
Do you think this married guy is trying to trick me? Please, I need your help!?
Q. I met a nice guy a month ago through a business, he offered to test it and it turned out he like it. He´s in the army, and the deal is for his place of stationed. He started helping me out spreading the word and all and told me he´s married with 3 ...
A. 16 December 2008: DON'T DO IT...Until you find out if he's married...i'm involved with a guy who has been in a long term relationship and is not even married...and it's very painful when you develop feelings for a person that is unavailable...DON'T DO IT...PROCEED ... (read in full...)
I am dating a married man. Can his wife sue me for loss of affection?
Q. I am dating a married man. Can his wife sue me for loss of affection?...
A. 12 December 2008: NO NO AND NO!!!! I DON'T KNOW WHAT THESE OTHERS ARE GETTING AT BUT TRYING TO SCARE/WARN/FRIGHTEN YOU.
MY HUSBAND HAS CHEATED ON ME SEVERAL TIMES AND HE IS THE ONE WHO WOULD SUFFER THE CONSEQUENCES, IF I DID DECIDE TO SUE.
THE "OTHER WO... (read in full...)
In love with a married man, but how do I cope with our break up?
Q. Hi, i hope you can help me out of this absurd situation. i fell in love with a guy i work with in the same office, he is married, with two kids. out of guilt we both called it a very close friendship, then he called me his soul mate and then his...
A. 12 December 2008: WOW! This post is amazing. I had no clue that so many women were experiencing these same feelings as I. I thought I would add my two cents to the post.
First off, i'm married but seperated. And have been seperated for over 2yrs. I'm in the proc... (read in full...)
Can she get in trouble for having an affair with a married man?
Q. I have a question. What are my options when I have proof that my husband is having an affair and she is living with him and he is in the military? What can I do? Can she get in trouble for having an affair with a married man?...
A. 5 December 2008: My husband is in the AMERICAN military and he has not only had one child out of wedlock but three. One with one girl back home and a set of twins by a girl he met in the military. He does pay spousal and child support. NO, she won't get in tro... (read in full...)
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