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writes:The guy I broke up with this weekend called 3 times last night. When I called him back, I asked why he called and he said, "just to say hi" and then giggled. I told him, "don't call just to say hi. Don't call me at all."I know he likes to mess with people. I know he says it's all a game. I broke up with him because he has a girlfriend, and he ignored me through the holidays. I also know he's cheating on the girlfriend and on me. I also know he will call again, which just upsets me. He is a well known letch, and a cad, and I want to leave him in my rear view mirror. I need advice that's out of the loop-what can I say to make him go away for good, and not humiliate myself? Just hanging up on him spurs him on.
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reader, pinkispretty  +, writes (20 March 2009):
So, someone else is having a parallel life to mine! Hello. I know that I do not want to be generic girl. He replaced me with a live in girlfriend and her son and yet he still calls me to profess his love. No more generic disposable love for me. I would rather just wake up with my cat curled up next to me than suffer through chaos and betrayal. I realize that my writing on here is very much to help me not to write to him- so thank you dear poster for giving me this outlet for my feelings. Let's try to keep never letting anyone disrespect us, let's love ourselves. Does that sound like a deal? If we believe strongly that more great love will come to us, we won't worry about hanging on to something that really was never there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSerenity-THANK you...it really stinks having to go through this....I've just gotta stick to it....
I told him not to call me ever again. I keep looking at the phone. My strength seems to wane at night. I will not call him, but I can only say I will try not to answer when he calls....part of me wishes he would....part of me breathes deeper thinking he won't...
Mostly I wish there was some sort of pill that could wash away all thoughts of him forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think you're right, Emily. His number on my phone sends me into an angry orbit. I can't restrict his number, cause it's already restricted.
I'd like to text his current girlfriend and warn her that he denies he's in a relationship with her...she's crazy about him-cleans his house for him etc...
Half of me says let it go, she'll find out eventually. The other half says I'm sick of this motherf***er getting away with it.
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reader, samsmommy +, writes (7 January 2009):
 Don't answer his calls anymore. Better yet block his number on your phone then you won't be bothered anymore.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (7 January 2009):
You are only fun to play games with as long as you react.
Don't answer his calls, don't call him back, blank him completely.
If you don;t play is games then he will find someone else for toy with.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Serenity1 +, writes (7 January 2009):
 you know what I'm experiencing some of the same. i've been seeing this guy for about six months and he has a gf also. although he did spend x-mas with me and tried to spend new years but i chose not to, he is the same. as soon as i decide to cut him off it's like he's enticed by that.
i've actually managed to not answer his calls for about 3 days and at the end of that time i called him back and started all over again...
i love this guy but i know he's not the one for me...i actually cursed him out and told him i will not bring 2009 in being a secret and this is why i didn't spend new years with him...he didn't like that but oh well...i know what i have to do and that is cut him off...but its very hard because im not only emotionally attached but also physically
i've tried to see other men but it doesn't work...because im not fully over him...i know doesn't answer your question but hopefully it'll be good to know that you are not alone...in the pool of women that date men with girlfriends...
stay hopeful...i believe with all my heart that you and i will by pass this season in our lives and learn from it
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