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writes:Dear friend i need some good advise from you all... I had make up my mind to leave a married man that i fall in love with.. Let me tell you this story. I met someone a year and a half and we get alone so well... After half year dating ,he confress he has one kids. but never married. After one year. i recieved a call from who call herself the wife of this man.. I was so shocked i did not know how to respone.. cant imagine that someone i trust in taking avantage of my trust. in this one and half year of dating. and all the intimate moments we had. I do belived that he is in love with me . in his explaination He was over the relationship with his wife and he is ready to leave the married.... I did not want my realtionship born and grow up while destroying another,. and i do not watnt to responsible for his disvoice. I had never met his wife and dont know much about , I do like to think she is good women. And the man told me the wife didnt accept the disvoice, I found this was all wrong. seeing him still make me feel very guity. eventhough i care him so much and i know that he love me and are ready to leave his family for me.... I finally told him that I will step away from all this... and that breaking up the married is the matter between him and his wife ,i should not be involed. and i ask him to stop contact me unless things are clear. of what he decided in this married this is for him to choose. But i would not stop leaving my for him if one day he becomes a free man maybe life would give us a chance....... he told me to give him just a bit of time and be patience. he is ready to do anything to be with me.i dont know if that calls love, selfish love. I am confuse now. eventhough i left him in this moment. I am confuse and feel guity ,deep in my heart i feel that he will come back to me. and i do wish he will come back. How can i made this ok with my hear and i take away a man from another women... should i not take him back...?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2009): i am the spouse of the cheating husband. If she wants him she can have him. I'm thru with him. I have my daughter to worry about not his infidelity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): No! Absolutely not! Your whole relationship was based on a lie! He doesn't love you! Love is about respecting and caring about and looking after the best interest of the person your suppose to love! He made a vow, and a commitment to his wife and then broke the vow like it was nothing! My advise to you is stay away from that man and let yourself heal, find someone worthy of your love! I have been the wife,( that hurts!) Its one of the most painful of betrayals I've ever experienced!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): Sorry here are the stories from the wife's side. Married men are expert liars, they have to be, to hide the truth from their wives. He's lying to her, what makes you believe he's telling you the truth. Married men lie to everyone, they even lie to themselves.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-got-my-revenge-on-the-other-woman.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/will-i-ever-get-over-the-hate-for.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/his-affair-has-really-messed-me-up-insidei.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-wont-husband-admit-to-cheating-even-after.html
Nobody likes a liar, his poor wife is going to be totally devastated if she finds out about your affair with him. But even if she divorces him, how can you ever trust such a liar not to do the same thing to you. Can men who lie and cheat be trusted?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): The guy is probably lying. If he loves you, then tell him to stay away until he gets a divorce, and make sure you check to make sure they are signed a legal...
I love you, my wife doesn't understand me, just wait for me, put yourself on hold whilst I go home and sleep with my wife, and as soon as I can, in like 20years or so, I might just admit that I'm a liar and a cheat and never had any intention of leaving her at all... Married men seldom leave their wives.. Your story is so familiar, I've heard it many times before. Check out this link, and remember waiting around for a married man is a waste of your life, he probably won't leave and when crunch comes to crunch, it's you he will dump, and he will go back to her.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/in-love-w-a-married-man-how-do-i-cope-w-break-up.html
See if you can find your story on this link. To me it's only the names and faces that change, but the story always remains the same. Truly heartbreaking...
It's actions, not pretty words that count. If he loves you, then he can wait. Don't speak to him again until his divorce papers come through.
This is also a good link... or check any of the post indexed married men, or check out what the betrayed wife feels when she finds out.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-love-a-married-man-i-dont-expect.html
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reader, SoftlyCaress  +, writes (22 December 2008):
 Trust me you need to let him go if he hasnt left her by now he wont I went through this with a man did me the same way and made promises and never kept them. In the end I moved on and he lost her
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reader, Serenity1  +, writes (22 December 2008):
 im in same situation...only my guy isn't married just been with her for 10-15yrs...visit dearcupid.in love with a married man, how to cope with break up .com
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