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writes:Sometimes I feel like no one really gets me. I have a sincere appreciation for the friends that I have and new people I meet, but I feel like no one is really on the same wavelength that I am...does that make sense? I understand that all people are different, and chances are you'll never meet someone exactly like you. My whole life I've just felt like no one really, REALLY understands me. I'm not antisocial, I'm not depressed, I'm not a wierdo. In fact, I'd say that I'm a sincere, friendly person, and I'm told all the time that I'm very beautiful and bla bla bla...Its just that no one gets me I feel like. Does anyone ever feel like I feel sometimes?
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reader, Serenity1 +, writes (30 March 2009):
 I feel the same way...i've prayed for someone to come into my life that can relate to the things I do...this is past just friends, even my mother and I don't see things the same or similar...
it's kind of a hopeless feeling but i figure we're just unique...that's the good part...but on the other hand it can be very lonely...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): Welcome to life, kiddo. It sounds like you're very in touch with yourself, more than most people are, and that can make it more difficult to establish the kind of connection you're looking for. Keep trying -- the variety of people out there is staggering, and one day you might just stumble upon the right one. In the meantime accept that, while your relationships might not be perfect, they can still be satisfying on some levels.
Keep in mind, too, that no one will ever really "get" you until you fully let them in. Of course you have to be incredibly choosy about who you let in, but if you get it right, well, it might be the payoff you're lacking.
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reader, SweetSerendipity  +, writes (30 March 2009):
Exactly in what way do you feel that no one is on the same wavelength that you are? It sounds more like that even though you have a lot of friends, none or very few of them are not interested in deep thinking discussions. When I say "deep thinking" I don't necessarily mean academic philosophical analysis on the existentialism for instance, but it could also be short witty remarks or even one liner jokes that can be "analysed" or "interpreted" in so many different levels using so many different "-ism". Be it about relationship, or about art, or about politics, or even about the mundane things around you. Like, why do we need to have a kitchen in the apartment, when we can call a delivery service 24/t anyways. LOL
If that is what you mean, then perhaps you need to look at what your interests are and start joining clubs for that specific interest, or regularly visit events that interest you (art houses, festivals, etc). If you are a regular, you will see that the world is not that big because you will run into the same people who have those same interests.
I have different circles of friends, each special because each group "feeds" my different [professional and personal] interests. This is both great and fun! But it is also interesting to see that none of "members" of these groups can "cross over" as easily as I can. Go figure.
So go out there and meet people with similar interests who can spark and challenge your paradigm and still have a good laugh!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): I feel like that all the time. I have a very close bunches of oats, a couple of which are considered my brothers to varying levels of connections. However, no matter how they connect with me on those varying levels, they just cannot connect with the thought process core of my internal mechanics.
Like you, I go out every week and even manage the communication between our outdoors club members, but I often find myself just listening and smiling and filling in surface material, sometimes, maybe skin-deep. I have given up on the aspect of ever finding someone to connect with on that level. Most people just cannot decipher the multi-variables of what I see, feel and formulate inside here. Most people I've interacted with are either too shallow in their perception or unable to naturally in-tuned with themselves, as if they need to socially become their personality, rather than simply be.
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