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writes:HI.. well were do i start, about a year ago i met this guy we kinda hit it of but just as friends over the phone he stoped by once we talked for about 20 min and that was it he had a girlfriend and i respected that i didnt even see him like that whats so ever so i didnt care, we would talk once in a while and i started getting a little crush on him but i didnt put much mind into it cause i respected the idea he had a girlfriend and he just didnt seem like my type he was just a good friend that we would talk on the phone and he would always make me laugh. his girlfriend saw me on his myspace and would get really jealous so he just told her we knew each other from high school (which was a lie). About 3 months after meeting i left out of the country for about 2 months we really kinda lost touch after i got back we started talking again just like friends but i guess one day he got the nerve to try talkin to me a little more and he kept saying he couldnt believe i didnt have a boyfriend and all that i just told him the truth i didnt want to be with anyone,so he asked for a sexy picture i asked him whats sexy to him and we just joked around i send him a normal picture nothing bad but the shirt i had on had a little clevlage and i guess his girlfriend saw the picture in his email and made him call me and leave a message but him being the goof that he is he just made it a big joke and left a funny voice message anyways after that she started grabing his phone and calling my phone private and i just told him he needed to tell his girlfriend if she needed to say something to just say it and after that i didnt hear from him for a long time which didnt matter. But out of know were one day he calls and we started talking again but i was leaving out the country again for a month but a few weeks before i left he called we started talking like nothing just friends he told me he had feelings for me and that the day he saw me he started believing in love at first sight (which i know was just a pick up line) and he just texted me a bunch of times telling me that he care about me and all of that good stuff, then one day i was out with friends and he text me telling me he had a dream about me and that we were laying together and that he said to me that he had to leave his girlfriend already because he wanted us to be official from there on we started getting attached but everytime we got close he would start getting distant (which i just realize writing this) anyways I left the country for a month and when i got back i wrote him saying hey am back how you been? he never wrote back so i just left it at that. But one random day i got a text from a computer number like if someone went on the u.s cellular website and send it saying "I hope your having fun over there dont forget about me I Miss You Come Back To me your Destiny"(he would always say we were each others destinys cause of the random way we met n a bunch of weird things tat happen)so that was pretty weird to me out of no were i got a restricted call and it was him he though i was still out the country and i told him that i had wrote him a few weeks back but i guess his girlfriend deleted it so we just talked and catched up he started telling me how well i was away he kept calling my phone and its true i had a voicemail from him and all he just kept saying that he missed me. So we left it at that and kept talking we got to0 close, months past he was still with his girlfriend but called me everyday we got a little to close but didnt take the chance to see each other, then it became to much we seemed like we had been together for months but just over the phone i got to attached even tho he had a girlfriend then we finally saw each other and it was awkward then a few days later he stoped by my college and we spend about 2 hours together without knowing that that same day was his 1 year annivarsity with his girlfriend wow what an asshole right.. anyways that day i let it be known that all i wanted was a friendship thats it i kept telling him we were good as friends so we spend a few hours together didnt kiss nothing he droped me back of at my college and that was it the next day we talked and i told him i didnt think we should talk for a while cause i had feelings for him and even tho i kept saying we should just be friends i wanted more and i knew it wouldnt be so whatever he started tellin me how much he just wanted to hug me and kiss me but he just kept hearing me say we just friends that he got scared to try something.. so from there on we were just on some i love you i truly fell for him he says he did to but i dont know, about 2 days later before i was going to go out with friends he stoped by and we made it official (( even tho he had a girlfriend i no)) i was the OTHER WOMAN for about 2 months it was the hardest 2 months of my life i had some tuesdays//wednesdays//thursdays he would come over and spend about 3 hrz with me ((the first weekend was all mine i felt like a queen he was always tryin to be with me)) then the weekends were just for her and if i would see him it would be for an hr and thats it he wouldnt lie to me tho he would tell me am going to be with her or he would let me know when they would be sexualy active which would kill me, It got to the point were he wanted me to get pregnant he kept saying he saw me in his life for ever and that if i got pregnant he would leave her and it would be us// or he would always tell me to move out with him but i didnt understand if he wanted to really be with me why not leave her// i finally started giving up but he wouldnt let me he kept telling me not to give up on us that i was forgetting how badly we wanted to be together and blah blah lol.. and to give us time we had only been together for 2 month and that he still needs more time cause he had been with her for a year and that he was in love with the both of us and he was all sad cause i dont pick up his calls like before i dont care no more but i was sick with being the other woman// So just to get to the point i got sick of the games i was sick of fighting everyday for 3weeks in a row and him telling me am going to be with her i'll call you when am done and only seeing each other twice in 3 weeks it wasnt for me i cryed for days and days but last friday he ripped my last hopes out, saying he was going to come see me knowing i didnt get out of work til 9:00pm and at 8:30pm he called saying he was by my house so we can talk ((which i no wasnt true)) i called him back and he acted like he though i was home and i told him he knew i was at work and he just said o0o i though youll be home already so i was like well were u by and he just said am going to see her right now and all i felt was my heart and last hopes get ripped out and i just said "bye" and hang up right after i got out of work i changed my phone number and thats it... DID I DO THE RIGHT THING? all my friends and family tell me i did i dont deserve to be but 2nd i have always been one to be 1st to get what i want and now i was letting a guy put me 2nd.. I miss him so much its killing me but he hasnt even tryed he hasnt even emailed me or anything and its been 2 days.. AM I DOING THE RIGHT THING..--Gave up on being the OTHER WOMAN
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reader, Colombiana20 +, writes (26 January 2009):
Colombiana20 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHii .. well its been 2 weeks n he hasnt tryed to get in touch with me i guess after all the things he did to show me he cared he really didnt care.. but now i caught myself being depress am still so young and in college and i just cant get out of bed to do lil things like fix my room or iron my uniform i find myself letting go i am not the same person.. PLEASE HELP
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reader, Colombiana20 +, writes (13 January 2009):
Colombiana20 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow.. Thanks you dont know how good it is to hear from other people that isnt my family or best friends cause i know that they just don't like seeing me how i was..
Its been so hard to keep myself from texting him and giving him my new number i almost texted him today i called all my close friends and none picked up but one did and made me think clear and i didnt but its driving me crazy when i was taking the train back home from college today i cryed just thinkin about him being with her i feel like i gave up but i know it wasnt good for me he wasnt treating me good, and its been 3 days and he hasnt even emailed me and am not goin to lie i emailed him saying tat i cared for him n that i just cant do it cause he killed my last hopes and never got a reply i guess his really mad but owell i did the right thing..
I hope that i can keep up with it tho i miss him so much..
=( i feel like i lost my self respect
but now am getting it back
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reader, Serenity1 +, writes (13 January 2009):
 yeah...you did the right thing...i've been playing the same game for about 6months...and it's not fun...i've tried to do what you've done by just ignoring his calls and not calling him but my love/lust for him overcame my efforts and i would end up answering his call...
you did the right thing...the catch will be sticking to it...good luck
no...i have yet to be rid of this guy all together...it has went from 3-5days out of a week to once a week seeing him (but we talk everyday and at the least every other day)...so i tell myself it will be completely over soon...with you going in and out of the country I don't see how you haven't rid this guy yet...use that to your advantage girl...on one of your 1-2months out of country use that time to clear your mind of him...i wish i had that opportunity...im for sure it would work...i've done it before...the guy didn't have a gf but he wasn't good for me...and believe it or not i stayed in AZ for 3-6months and now he still calls me and I have no desire to be with him at all let alone talk to him...time away works!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): Hi...
Yes... you did the right thing. I was in the similar situation like yours may be for a longer duration. He needs to fix his mind and decide as to who he really wants to be with and rahter not to play with ya feelings. Its not like if you there she is not there and vice versa. You have made a wise decision girl.
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