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writes:I'd appreciate any input about my situation.... I've been with the father of my child for about 4 and a half years... we've had rough times and good times.. we break up to make up.. he's made his mistake and I've made some too... only this time its different...we are together and though I love him I feel like I want to break it off for good... I don't quite know how to break it off so that we end up on good terms for our child... I'm bored with him... i want someone that is going to be romantic and caring...he just doesn't do it for me... plus his past mistakes, especially the last one, gross me out...what should I do..?.what should I tell him? its like when I do break it off we always get back together and nothing changes but the last time we broke up something in me did change... I hate of thinking of him with someone else... but its time I move on..
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reader, shy_sweetie +, writes (11 December 2008):
Hi. I have almost the exact same problem you are having. I also have a son, and I don't think I'm in love with his father anymore. But my problem is, we're engaged. And I'm completely torn. But like you, I can't stand to think of him with anyone else. Why is that! Anyways, you seem to have your mind made up, and I applaud you. I hope you can figure out a way, because I know, in the end, you'll be happy. There's no point in dragging our children in a family where all our smiles are fake. I hope the best for you.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (11 December 2008):
 You are holding a grudge and it is putting a damper on your relationship with him, you can't forget his mis givings and they will interefere with your life with him. Ask yourself 'is the grass, greener on the other side? or is it worth thrashing your problems out and making a good go of it. If you do decide to part then your son will definately be affected by it so you could think of a way to ease his pain by keeping regular contact with his dad. would you be able to do this easily? You are obviously still hurting by what he has done and trust takes time to recover if at all. If you really have questioned your reasons for wanting to end the relationship then you must find a time where you can sit down together with no distractions and explain to him how you feel and what you intend to do about it. I would suggest your son isn't around at the time in case there is voices raised etc. Maybe a break away from each other may create a clearer picture also of whats best to do. I wish you happiness what ever you decide. I'ts not easy making a break especially when you have a child on your own. hope this helps.
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