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writes:Me and my boyfriends have currently been going out for 6 months, we first had sex about 2 months ago (both virgins) and i really do love him. I made the mistake of telling my mum that we'd had sex and she said that condoms werent safe and i'd need other precautions. I've been to the clinic to get free condoms before, but i really cant make up my mind whether i want to go on the pill. On the upside i know i'll be safe, but on the downside, it just makes me feel insecure, like i'm going to have sex all the time.I've spoke to my boyfriend about it and he's completely supportive, basically saying whatever i decide will be fine by him, but i really cant decide on anything. My dad doesnt know i've had sex and i dont really want him or anyone else knowing, and i suppose i'm just a bit scared to go on it. What should i do?Many thanks...
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reader, Loz_7 +, writes (7 December 2008):
 All I can say is that if you went on the pill, you wouldn't have to worry to much, say if the condom split you would be happy knowing something else is protecting you! However the pill does have side affects, not always bad but there worth reading up on! Go to your GP in confidence and ask them for advice as thats there job and there will not tell anything to your parents unless he/she thinks your in danger! Hope this helps! Good Luck!
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (7 December 2008):
 Sweetheart I think you need to go and talk to a female doctor if possible.
Your mum is just trying to keep you safe from becoming pregnant as condoms are not ultimately 100% certain.
Knowing all of your options is better than just going with the first thing that is suggested.
When you see a doctor they will tell you all of the options as I know that you can have an implant under the skin so that you don't always have to remember to take the pill daily, however I don't know if there is an age restriction on this and I do believe that it can affect your periods in all sorts of ways. The pill can regulate your periods so that you know for certain when they are going to come and also the different makes can either give you higher levels of certain hormones.
Coils are normally suggested to women/girls who have had a child so this would not be an option for you.
I don't even know if the cap is still something that you can get as this used to be a form of contraception as well but I am now showing my age I guess.
Talk it through with a female doctor and get leaflets and do your homework first before you make your decision.
At the end of the day this decision HAS to be yours but I can understand where your mum is coming from OK.
Keep us posted eh!
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, petina1 +, writes (7 December 2008):
 Condoms are safe if used properly. The pill would make you feel more secure in case sex happens when least expecting it. It's good that you have spoken to your mum about it, thats nice when you can be open like that with her. There are many types of the pill and if one doesnt suit you theres always others to try. You sound sensible anyway because at least you are thinking of contraception where some young girls don't even give it a thought and have to live with the consequences. Condoms also give you protection against many diseases and cervical cancer so that could be used alongside the pill if you want to go that far. Don't see it as a stigma it gives you more choices in your life ahead, like if you do want to start a family later on, then you can make a more informed decision. You won't feel as if you want sex more that will always come naturally, so don't look at it like that. hope this helps.
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