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writes:Me and my son's mother have been apart for 2 years, we both have not been with anyone in that time, it was a messy breakup but a necessary one, I've changed 180 degrees in this time, and she has come a long way also, but still carries resentment of when we were together, even though she won't admit it, we get along and every once in a while hangout, especially lately, my question is this, I want to have a long sit down talk with her and air out the past and our diffences, good or bad idea? Second is it worth me trying to get us back together, start new etc., I can see it in her eyes that she wants me to, but won't put myself out there to get hurt again unless I know there is a realistic shot, do I really got a lot to lose? I've shown her I can live without her and can continue to do so, but I do find it encouraging to try. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): if you know what you had was good and you both still feel something for each other,then i say resolve your differences taking it slowly and listening to each other then you have a good chance of being truly happy together
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reader, petina1  +, writes (11 December 2008):
 when I divorced my husband, the father of our 4 year old child at the time, it took us nine years of 'talking our differences out', He played an active part in our sons life all those years, we both took him off at weekends etc. What I'm trying to say is, it took him a long time to sort out all our problems and I took him back after nine years. I'm not saying you should wait nine years, but it took me that long to be able to trust him again (he had a gambling problem, no one else involved). So don't rush, do a lot of talking and sorting out before you suddenly decide to take the plunge again. She may back away if you have not resolved every one of your differences. hope this helps.
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