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anonymous
writes:Hi! - What is it about "bad lads" that some of us girls cannot resist?I am with a guy who only calls me now and then, expects me to pay for everything when we do meet up, moans alot and also has a criminal record!The fact is I LOVE HIM!! - I know he treats me bad but I just can't do without him!! - Why are us girls attracted to such men when there are much nicer guys out there? Reply to this Question
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reader, SallySoMe  +, writes (15 December 2008):
 I have seen firsthand what this sort of addictive behaviour can do to women. The feeling that only they can set men like this on the right path. Its delusional. You really do need the help of a professional therapist to conquer this pattern else it will consume you.
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reader, 48years  +, writes (12 December 2008):
 Build your self esteem by helping people...volunteer to help people.
Your bad lad addiction will fade once your esteem is high and only then will your ego shrink. Don't take this the wrong way, but with ego high and self esteem low (they are inversely proportional), you feel you can be the one to control your bad lad. You think you can tame him. The truth is that you are fooling yourself.
Meanwhile, he is busy telling the next girl he meets that only she can tame him. The problem is both yours and his.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008): Because bad men are adventurous.And eventually you will grow out of it and he won't. This is where you begin to realise that these men are a little pathetic when you think about it and throw his ass to the curb after realising you cannot change a person. You can help them along all you want, but unless that person chooses to change, then nothing will.Flynn 24
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reader, petina1 +, writes (11 December 2008):
 Bad boys do seem to be more fun than boring good boys. They love with passion, make you laugh, live life on the edge etc. Then there comes a time when children come along, and you can find yourself alone, cos bad boys don't usually take their responsibilities well and don't provide properly and you end up poor or thereabouts. So if it's just fun you want, enjoy. When the time comes to settle down and have a nice life then the bad boy needs to go. (unless you can change him of course). I changed my bad boy, but had a few years of heartache before I did. good luck, hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): I as you have the same issue. I for one am an Aries, and Aries loves a challenge, adventure and tend to get bored easily. BAD BOYS on the other hand are exciting and changleing. This could be one reason if like me, you are attracted to them. Just for the record I am 43, divorded. Iwas married to not such a bad boy for 7 years, got bored and left. Ended up w/a bad boy w/a substance problem and had to end that. Went back to nice guy who was cheap where I paid for everything but again bored me and ended that. Now I'm w/used to be bad boy, grown out of it and keeps me going but still looking for the in between. Good Luck hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): Are we talking about love here or physical attraction? Sometimes media stuff doesn't help. Ask yourself whether in the long run you wouldn't rather be happy and treated like a queen by someone who makes you laugh and sees the positive side of life.
If you want someone to look after there is plenty of voluntary work and one day you could have children, don't spend your life looking after lame ducks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): Usually, drama. My guess is that you like drama and a nice guy is just too normal and boring. Once you get over your need for drama you'll start to appreciate "nice" guys.
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