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*unshine1
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for a year now in the beggining when we meet i was not really interested in him because of our age difference he is 23 and i am 31 although i look alot younger than him he told me he did not care about the age difference and he wanted to settle down for good cause he was tired of all the partying i believed him so i gave it a chance it was all wonderful in the beggining he would take me every where he went, did not want to leave my sight at all he always took me around his friends and family althought i would tell him to go and hang out with his friends at times he didnt want to he would tell me that he thought that was not right for a guy that has a girlfriend to go out with out her because all that would do is cause problems between them.well about two months ago that all change now he wants to go out with his friends all the time he is always acusing me of cheating and telling me to go out with my friends i have caught him talking to 3 girls and texing them in the pass he told me he was never with any of them he was just flirting since then i have tried to trust him but i cant i try talking to him to tell him how much all this is hurting and also i try to ask him why the change but he doesnt listen and it always leads to an argument if i tell him im leaving he tells me go ahead go be with someone else he dont call me like he use to before he would call or text me now hes calls are not as often and texes very short and when i do call him he makes me feel like im bothering him well and even though he acts this way he still tells me he loves me when he sees me. this pass friday night he insisted he was goin to a friends so he did i found out a girl he was with before me was there cause she text him that night and i saw the text so on sat he said he was going out again i told him there was no way he was going not after what happen the night before he said i never give him space and he is tired of this relationship so i told him i was leaving he said he loves me but he thought that was better for both of us he didnt even try to stop me that night i returned to his house cause i had forgotten some of my stuff he was there getting ready to go out i heard him talking to that same girl in the restroom when he came out and saw me he told me he loves me and he wants to make things right with me but to please allow him to go out that night so he can release some stress i told him no if he really loves me he would stay home with me he got mad and said he was going so i grabed hes keys and put them away he was so mad and had no way to go finally after a while he told me loved me and wanted to start all over i told him if he feels that way then he would text that girl and tell her he no longer wants to talk to her because he is trying to work things out with me at first he was mad but finally he did it. but now even though we have agreed to start all over i cant trust him when his phone rings i want to know who it is when hes texing i want to know were he is at at all times and when i ask him it bothers him i dont know what to do im really hurting in this relationship but i love him so much i cant leave please someone help im so tired of crying. what can i do..
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reader, sunshine1 +, writes (17 December 2008):
sunshine1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want thank u for the answers they are helpful but the only thing is that its so hard for me to let go I tried but I can't! I find myself very depress!!
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reader, petina1  +, writes (16 December 2008):
 Let him go. The relationship has run it's course. He still isnt mature enough for you and wants to see other girls. It sounds like he has already been messing about behind your back and starting a new life without you. Don't let him straggle you along, make the choice for him as if it was your decision all along and then you can hold your head up high. I can not see a future for you with him and I think he is using you.
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