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writes:Me and my boyfriend broke up and right after we broke up on wednesday we talked like 10 seconds later then after that 15 minutes later and then we talked Thursday, Friday, and Saturday about the break up. Well it's more like me questioning him about why it happend and ect. and I don't even know why we broke up, I keep hearing from everyone all these different reasons but he hasn't had the balls to tell me. When I ask him he says I don't know and all these other things. Everyone is telling me not to talk to him; give him time to think about it, he's confused he doesn't know what he wants. He hasn't realized what a mistake he has made. Yesterday I text him to tell him to bring my socks to school and then we started talking and he asked me how I was, I lied and was like I'm fine and he's like you're okay... like in a surprised way. Then I said I'm just gonna miss how much we talked and he said yea me too, I have to go bye.He compleletly cut me off and I got mad and told him that I lied and that I'm not okay and it's hurting me, how he's acting like he doesn't even care; and he's like okay and I'm like so you don't care and he says I don't know and I'm like okay don't try to be nice just say it and he's like I dont like you. I don't know if I ever did, I don't want to talk to you byeAnd that hurt me.I'm wondering, you think by bugging him about the break up 3 days in a row after we broke up is pushing him away? We used to talk on the phone every night and we got along so well. Do you think he will miss me?Now his mom says he can't date again until he's 16 which is in 2 years and in 2 years I'll be about to graduate, it's just like we had a connection. I know this sounds dumb because we are young and what not but it's just really bugging me. My friends keep telling me don't talk to him because the break up hasn't hit him yet, you haven't gave him the time to realize things have changed because you keep talking to him. He will miss you. He's just confused. But when he's talking to people he acts like he's fine. Me and his mom became really close and she said he doesn't really show emotion at all so it's like... do you think it's true when people say time will tell? Do you think me talking to him is pushing him away? Do you think he will miss me especially since he can't date again until he's 16? Do you think he will talk to me again? We have 2 more years together in high school then I'm gone.Do you think he's confused and doesn't know what he wants?
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reader, dt1213 +, writes (14 December 2008):
well it seems to me that your ex is the typical guy. he appears to have alot of confidence in himself, and sorry to say this but youre only making him hold his head higher. He knows for a fact now that he has the ability to hurt you. In other words, you just let him know that he has power over your feelings. Not good! I think what you should do is take a step back and actually give him time to miss you. Let him see that you dont NEED him to be happy, even if you really feel that you do. you could just be smothering him a little right now. Guys work in mysterious ways, i still havent quite figured it out completely but i do know that many of them have trouble with commitment. so maybe if you make yourself a challange for him, he will gain interest back in you. also, many parents have issues with their sons/daughters dating a young age. If he honestly likes you, his moms rules prob wont stand in his way!
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reader, hopelessthing66 +, writes (14 December 2008):
hopelessthing66 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionalso do you think its possible to like start over and be friends and see what happens?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): He might just be confused but it sounds like he really doesn't like you. I'm sorry if that sounded harsh but it's true. He just doesn't like you any more and you have to understand that.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (14 December 2008):
 Yes sounds like he is confused. Maybe his mum has seen another side to him at home, the real him being himself and hurt and confused and that's why she's said he can't date until he's a bit older.
It is very young to be having a full blown relationship. I would suggest you do give him a lot of time. By pressuring him when he certainly isnt ready you will push him away even more even to the point where he may hate you.
You had a good friendship/relationship, what changed? Was it taken further than one of you were ready for, that can sometimes lead to one trying to get away and out of it. I wouldnt discuss it with people you know at school, it sounds like there are too many people involved and mixed messages will pass back and forth. Just leave him alone now and let him make the next contact, you've done all you can at the moment. hope this helps.
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