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writes: I've been doing driving lesson for a few months .........the problem is I have started to like my instructor in more than just a friendly way.I told him this. He didn't exactly say - Oh no! We had a good chat about it. He is said he found me attractive too. He said that he is interested in me, and is tempted but he doesn't want to damage his reputation by 'crossing the line' professionally i.e.if word got out that he had been with a pupil. He said for sure if it was another time and place he'd go for it. He went on to say he had never got that 'vibe' that I would be remotely interested in someone like him. He has a partner - they don't live together and from what he said it seems to be an arrangement that suits him without the committment. We were very open when we sat down and talked about this............. he went as far as to say he had mentioned this situation to a close friend of his and that he advised him to go for it. When we were chatting I wanted to make a move. I later told him this by text and he has been texting me since.We've been texting back and forth and its not the kind of texting that you would send to a friend if you know what I mean.He has been seperated from his wife for a while. He is older than me. Not even the usual type I would go for really..........but we do get on well and there is just something about him!So then so we started chatting one day and I mentioned I was trying to get fit. He said that he had been training for years and that he could help me become fitter. We met up and he gave me some excersises to work on.I had a lesson a few days ago and it was the biggest nightmare ever - I nearly crashed the car - I couldn't concentrate.I totally clamed up and told him I wanted to quit. I am close to my test now and I just cannot stop thinking about whats been said between us.He has offered to help me with the fitness. are we becoming too familiar? Is he just being friendly or does he want more? I've seperated from my husband and he is aware of this.What should I do? i am certain he likes me but why is he holding back . Is he waiting until the lessons are finished. I know this sound silly but I CAN'T stop thinking about me. We're still texting
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. I should have said he is insiting I don't stop my lessons with him. I'm finding it difficult to seperate the 'chat' texting and concentrate on my lesson. I'm in my thirties and this is not a school girl crush. He is a bit older than me. Thanks for your advice.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (15 December 2008):
 I'ts one of those scenarios where we put people on a pedestal, like a pupil who is lusting after a teacher or someone who thinks they are in love with their boss. Because whatever job or situation there's usually someone in control and I suppose it's quite natural to look up to someone in a role like that. You said y ou probably wouldn't go for that type in a normal situation. He is in a relationship already as well. So near your driving test, you could always change your instructor and tell him you are finding it difficult to concentrate, take a step back from him, see how you feel. Driving lessons cost a lot of money and you don't want to throw it all away by failing your test because of this. He is holding back for a reason, he doesnt sound too sure of y ou. If he really wanted this and it was right for you both, he would not have been able to hold back. hope this helps.
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