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*harl123
writes:I previously posted a question regarding lack of sex drive with my amazing partner and how its been really getting me down. A few people have suggested it may be due to never having had an orgasm. Not even with previous partners. Does anyone have any advice? The only problem is, its hard to test drive the suggestions, because as said before, my sex drive is a NO GO.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (30 July 2010):
 ms honeypie has the right idea. you may also want to try masturbating in fron of a mirror. I'm told by women this is a fail safe method of arousal.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (30 July 2010):
 It could easily be hormonal. I think you should go get a GYN check up. TELL your GYN that you ave no sex drive.
Also. Have you never made your self come? I find that incredible. Does your partner "warm" you up first? You might be in dire need of a LOT of foreplay.
Some women sexually shut down because they aren't being pleasured. They get used to mediocre sex, and honestly if that's all you get, then I can understand why sex isn't such a big priority.
I think YOU need to do some research on the G-spot and clitoral masturbation for women. Once you can give yourself an orgasm, you can show your BF how to make you come.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (30 July 2010):
 Most women- I believe it's 90 percent- can only orgasm through clitoral stimulation, you don't have to answer- personal question I know- but have you guys tried that? It's unusual for a woman to be able to orgasm just through intercourse.
As far as your sex drive the other poster is correct. There could be a medical cause.
Or, it could be that you were just with the wrong person?
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reader, Kenj +, writes (30 July 2010):
 You need to try and access why your sex drive is low, is there a medical reason or emotional reason?
You could try using sex toys in the bedroom with your partner and take more control yourself of your own pleasures, your partner will learn more and it might spice things up more.
Good luck!
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (30 July 2010):
Why do you feel you have no sex drive. What do you think is holding you back?
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