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writes:Been dating a man 10 yrs older than me (never married, no kids, engaged a few times) for 3 months now. I thought I was in love with him after a month or so, but now when I say it...I just don't feel it. I think it's because he's a bit odd. He's in his late 50's, no friends, doesn't visit family at all and they don't visit him. No cell because he has no friends. No TV because he goes to bed at 7 or 8. He pets me...like a grandchild or a puppy....it's starting to creep me out. He has to constantly touch me. At first I thought it was wonderfully romantic, now it just feels clingy/needy. I don't mind dating him but I don't see it going anywhere. I've realized I want someone who has an active life and he seems to just have and existance. He's NEVER been to a baseball, hockey, football game...I LOVE going to sporting events, it's exciting. What should I do? He's a nice guy. Any advice?
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (31 July 2010):
 he may be a nice guy he may noot, but either way he is not the man your are meant to be with and staying with him is just wasting both your time, dont be mean to him or hurt him, just let him down gentley and move on with your life, i wouldnt suggest been friends if he is the cliggy type. hope this helps some =]
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (31 July 2010):
 sounds like your first instinct is right on..a bit weird and creepy if you ask me. I'd like to see you go out and find a "normal" guy with cell phone, family,friends,job,hands that don't wonder so much. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): Girl you already know the answer so RUN LIKE HELL. He's not for you. Read your post to yourself. You will realize that relationship is not going anywhere. Good luck on finding love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): If you're not feeling comfortable with him and don't feel as if your relationship is going anywhere, you should probably leave him and find someone who's more suited to you. Just because he happens to be a nice guy, doesn't mean you have to stay with him. Especially if he's not making you happy. Go out there and meet someone new! Meet them whilst doing something you love doing. Go to a game!! Let's be honest, there's definitely lots of potential lover material there! :P
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 July 2010):
He may be nice, but he's not the man for you, and I think you know it. He's the introverted type who is quiet and totally reserved. You're the outgoing type. Sometimes this works, sometimes it doesn't. I think this is one of those times that it won't work out. You've still got a lot of life to live, and you shouldn't be going to bed at 7/8pm. You want an active man who will go to sports and all that with you! Find that man, and let this quiet man go.
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