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writes:Ok,I'm a 18 year old guy and I've been wanking about 3x daily since I was 14. It used to be just when I was bored or in my room, but lately I have been feeling horney all the time. I've tried wanking more often (in school even) but that did nothing. I've started going online and broadcasting my masterbation sessions. I find that I really enjoy peoeple watching me (even guys and I'm straight) and tha I have a show at least every day.What I want to know is:• is me liking being watched normal?• if not what can I do to stop it (I feel kinda addicted to it now)• are there any other ways to better satisfy myself?Thanks in advance! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2015): I'm afraid at 59 its a grim outlook for me, However it started with the perseption of doing on cam as a harmless secret I could enjoy, I have done it so many times I can not give a precise number of times, it is an addiction I new before starting what my consequences to it would be and excepted this in my mind as being normal persay, but this was my vindication that all was well and what is wrong with it, morally I new it was wrong, but excepted this as one consequence I would have to live with, and felt I could. And the story goes on as you get older your body and mind become less closley related I think and the sin's of the flesh can become stronger or weaker whatever the case maybe, marriges become distorted with ill-health in the bedroom making normal sex a non entity so with the advent of tecky lives I at least resorted to my computer the story very much seem's to end with my passion for feeling like I once did as a young man. Just one thought for the young of mind and heart if you are in a postion were by you have no need to use extremities to feel that sence of well being that orgasm's bring dont go the route I have or you will feel very sad with life in genral, even while still feeling addicted to the cam I know at my time of life what the consequences most surley are I must stop not because I want to but because my life eternally will soon be over... Which of course is another thread so here I end... Good luck everyone Andy
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reader, StrayTogether.com  +, writes (2 August 2010):
 Addiction, according to dictionary.com is, "the state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming, as narcotics, to such an extent that its cessation causes severe trauma."
If it's something that you feel you are UNABLE to refrain from doing, it prevents you from doing other things in life that you need to be doing, you hide it from your loved ones and friends, or affects you adversely otherwise, then I'd be concerned and seek counseling.
In and of itself I don't think that masterbating, liking being watched, or even broadcasting it is a problem. While most wouldn't consider it "normal," it's not as unusual as most people think. Many things that society don't think are "normal," are perfectly harmless, accepted in some groups, and done all day, every day. They are far more TYPICAL than some NORMAL people want to think.
As far as porn being "normal" and "healthy," I disagree with the writer saying neither is. I feel that both are and it can be enjoyed without interfering with one's life. But, again, if you're ADDICTED, then that's another situation and you need help.
Are there better ways to satisfy yourself? If it's NOT an addiction and you're satisfied, then why do you need a "better" way? If you ARE addicted, counseling will help. You could also consider a good diet and exercise program which will help with both your physical and mental well being.
Fondly,
Jill
StrayTogether.com
P.S. For the one that says, "just think of all the other things you could be doing like amassing a fortune for your retirement years instead of pulling on yourself," consider broadcasting on a site that would pay you for the broadcast. And consider keeping it anonymous, so it doesn't come back to haunt you. But again, if you think it falls into the realm of addictions, you need help. You shouldn't even try to stop an addiction on your own, when there is help out there.
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reader, cocoqueen88 +, writes (2 August 2010):
 I dont think that there is anything wierd or strange about you. so what if you wack off a bunch. and people watch porn all the time. I don't know why the posters are acting like you're going in the middle of a crowded subway and waxin it. if people didnt wanna see they'd just turn it off... duh
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (2 August 2010):
 just think of all the other things you could be doing like amassing a fortune for your retirement years instead of pulling on yourself
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reader, Kevin.st1 +, writes (2 August 2010):
Kevin.st1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust so that everyone knows, i DO have a gf and we have great sex often. However, she doesn't know about this...
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (2 August 2010):
 You really need to direct your energies toward getting yourself laid.
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reader, rivi +, writes (2 August 2010):
Masturbation once or twice a day fair enough. But more than that plus the broadcasting really is an addiction which has to stop.
Main defect is it is stopping you from inter acting normally with others [ both males and females ] and finding a gf.
If you can't on your own kick the broadcasting habit and reduce the masturbation to max twice a day then really you need to see a doctor with a view to referral to a psychiatrist.
What do you do work / study wise ? You need to concentrate on that plus get some leisure activities where you have a chance to meet with girls.
And it's a cliche' but maybe some vigorous sport 2 or 3 times a week would be a more healthy channel and take your mind off your pants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): Masturbation, perfectly normal, 2, 3, 4 or however many times you feel the need, desire to masturbate, it's healthy, nothing to worry about, you're a young guy, hormones raging without a girlfriend to share this with.
NOW with reference to ' broadcasting masturbation sessions' LIVE on webcam, ask yourself, does that seem a healthy habit to become accustomed to? I find it hard to comprehend, that just because WE CAN do something, and the technology is there to do it, or there are sites for females dedicated to flaunting themselves, does NOT mean that it is healthy??
Of course this is adversely effecting your life, otherwise you wouldn't be posing the question. If you reflect on the fact, that once you were content with masturbation 3 times a day, but that has increased to whenever you can, even in school...NOW to get a high, to get real pleasure from it, you have stepped it up to broadcasting your masturbation, so where do you think this will stop???
There are more issues here than I feel, than you just being horny, evidently, as you have taken a healthy horny habit into the virtual world. Ok they're people who will watch you, girls that strip and flaunt themselves on webcam, they're are porn sites for whatever fetish anyone can have, and I will repeat again, just because they EXIST, does not mean it's healthy...
Pornography is so called, because it's porn, it's NOT shown at the local cinema, for good reason, society has drawn the line on what it constitutes as normal and healthy. And what you're doing may seem harmless enough now, but where will you take it next, as I assure you, once on a path that is not leading YOU to a healthy, horny sex life, which is emotionally satisfying too, like many I've seen, become more and more distant from the real and enter the virtual world more and more - Nothing ever stands still!
Lastly how would you feel about your family knowing what you do........How would you feel about a girl you were really keen on, knowing you did this, or perhaps she was on some webcam flaunting her body for ANYBODY to view her? I suspect the answer would be NO.
And please, let me tell you, people that watch on these dedicated sites, are NOT all desirable people of society, far from..as this brushing it off, as though it is, shows how desensitized society is becoming, and looking upon it a normal pastime like taking a walk in the park!
A different viewpoint for you to reflect upon, I hope you give it some thought!
Jilly x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): If broadcasting your wanking is considered harmless I wonder what will be found on TV in a few years.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (2 August 2010):
 If you feel addicted its bad in my opinion... it means youve lost control...
secondly it may not be healthy to do it that mutch your body needs time to repair and recuperate,,rejuvenate etc..
the whole being watched online thing thats in my opinion weird... but never the less lots of people do it... its just sometimes these things can come back to haunt you one day.
My advice get control of your self you have power over your body and your actions.
as for if your normal that would probably depend on who you ask im gonna say yeah sure why not... whats normal anyway
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