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writes:I know this is a common problem and still I cannot seem to find the answer I am looking for.Are there any special techniques to help make me come during sex? I enjoy sex so much with my partner and feel fully satisfied after, yet I never climax. Friends all tell me they climax from sex multiple times (should I believe that?). I have only ever had 1 orgasm from a penis.I find the only way to make myself come is to cross my legs and tense whilst in my own privacy, I can make myself orgasm in about 2 minutes if I wanted to but I have to be alone. I used to be able to come from oral sex but now the more I think about it the harder it is and I cannot even come from that anymore, I feel so much pressure to climax as I don't want to offend my partner and that is what stops me from getting there.Now I know people will say "just relax" "tell him what you like" "play with your clit" I do all of this and still I cannot come aided. And even if I did mention to my partner that I can only come from crossing my legs, how could he participate? I need tips on positions and things like that that I can do whilst we are having sex. I hope somebody can help me :)
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (21 September 2010):
 You could do it while spooning ( him behind you) you crossing your legs.... he can still penetrate you.
Many women find it easier to climax while on top as well since they can control speed and depth.
And relaxing really does help ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010): Be sure that your mind is focused on your partner, and not the different things that need to be accomplished outside of sex. Distractions will interfere with sex also. Check to see if you are hiding anger against your partner. If that doesn't work, Check with your doctor to see if it's a medical problem.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (21 September 2010):
 My very first girlfriend was in a simalar quandry. What we did was place my fist on the car seat between her thighs while she moved up and down against the knobby portion of my wrist and I'd carress her bare breasts. She'd climax and that was that. we also found that talking 'dirty' helped a lot to intensify the orgasms. Hope that helps
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reader, Kenj +, writes (21 September 2010):
 You’re not getting enough stimulation to your clitoris through intercourse. You could ask your partner for more foreplay, stimulate yourself to a point of orgasm but don’t go over.
Try changing positions during sex and find the one that’s right for you. The "doggie style" position may help you more because it changes the angle of the penis.
If he can get a good rhythm going his scrotum may also hit your clitoris during each thrust causing an orgasm.
Not every woman does climax during sex, some only manage it once and others manage it twice or more.
If you’re enjoying it then chances are you’re already relaxed so it’s not that.
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