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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi thanks for the kind reminder. I will make sure I won't regret what I have done. This is my acceptance level and engagement in my country means that we are lawfully husband and wife. So I think it we have already meet a mature level to engage in sexual activity
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 September 2010):
 Be warned that an engagement is not as good as married. An engagement can be broken off. And then you will have to tell a future husband that you had sex with someone else. And being conservative as you are I think you will regret it. Being conservative is fine, but you said you wanted to wait until marriage. I think you are allowing him to ignore your morals when you lower your morals from "no sex before marriage" to "no sex before engaged".
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your replies. We have decided to wait until our engagement before we engage in sex. Maybe I am too conservative about it. I always feel that after having sex together, the guy won't find enough excitement in the girl anymore. And many a times such things happen. But now I feel that until we have achieve financial stability, as we are both students now, we should not have sex. But guys really thank for all your replies. Feel really appreciated.
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reader, slimfish  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 would it be the end of the world if you had sex?.
i understand all about your wanting to remain a virgin and all that but sex is a two way street.
you can continue to explore sex together and then if the time is right, go for it...let it happen.
if your'e right for each other then having sex will only strengthen the bonds of your love.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (22 September 2010):
 Torture is maybe a too strong word, because he does not feel physical pain. But of course it must be very very frustrating !
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (22 September 2010):
 Eventually, the hormones will win the battle.
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reader, xX_Kitty_Xx  +, writes (22 September 2010):
Perhaps it is encouraging him a bit with you being there as he clearly does have feelings for you and usually the human body reacts to the feeling of when someone elses body touches it especially if they have emotional feelings for that person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): Well, just because you have "sexual activities" doesn't mean it will lead to "sex". So for example you could do oral or mutual masturbation. What he does is a hint for sex. I think you are better than what he can provide. he wont be able to wait until after marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd can I add a question to all? Issit really tortuorous for a guys not to have sex when he always sleeps with the girl he loves?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really appreciate your honest replies over here. Yes I got to admit that I am curious about sex and I do enjoy his sexual company whenever I stayover in his room. Thanks for letting me know what I am doing perhaps I am the one who is worried about it. As in I am the one who is worried that one day I will not be able to control myself.
Perhaps its true that I should stop going to sleep in his room as this is a torture to the guy? As he always say I am too much as sometimes during our petting sessions he told me he has difficulty controlling himself.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (22 September 2010):
Some are able to control themselves. But it sounds like he doesn't want to control himself, the way he keeps rubbing up against you shows that all you need to do is have one moment of weakness and he will gladly take you.
Ask him to stop rubbing up against you and prove to you that he actually can wait, if not then do not sleep over at his place any more.
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (22 September 2010):
The way you're doing things now,you'll come back a month later and tell us you did it.If you're serious about keeping your virginity until your wedding then you need to have social distance from him.Sleeping on the same bed with him will slowly break down your defences and you will end up doing it.If you're honest you will tell us that he's doing some things that you initially didnt allow him to do.Its a slow thing,and where you're heading to,you wont achieve your goal of chastity unless you make some deliberate steps in looking after your virginity.
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reader, xX_Kitty_Xx +, writes (22 September 2010):
Cindy has a good point... Are you going to be able to keep saying no and Isn't it a bit harsh sleeping in the same bed with your boyfriend and not letting him do anything :/. I dont know if he does see it this way but he could see it as you testing/teasing him. he is obviously very attracted to you and loves you dearly as he has made a big promise. And I'm sure he will not rape you while your sleeping.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (22 September 2010):
I think the real question is, will YOU be able to control yourself.
I hope you don't mean that your boyfriend could go out of control and rape you , right ? Penetrating you without your consent ?...
For intercourse to happen, you need to say yes. So the question is , are you sure that you are willing and able to keep saying no.
If you are not that sure, yet you really want to keep your virginity until your wedding- then I'd stay away from that hostel room. Less temptation for you- and less stress for the poor boyfriend :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): Frankly, I think you are also curious about it. Else you won't be staying over with him.
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