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writes:This may be strange or maybe this is common...You tell me. I can not stand the smell or taste of sperm! I freely give my husband (of 25 yrs) BJ when he wants, let him cum on my chest and he has even rubbed it on my face BUT it makes me gag! (silently) HE tells me that its not normal.....We have an active and healthy sex life. I dont carry on or make a big scene about it or anything and I am not a prude and am pretty much up for anything he wants "except swallowing" AND you know he says all the wives of the guys at work swallow and LOVE it.....and you KNOW how much all the porn stars love it, just watch em...(watching them can make me gag too) its not a big issue with us, but he would love it if I would...I never have. Am I the only one?
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reader, poetrygoddess +, writes (6 October 2010):
I love it from my boyfriend in every way possible. And yeah he respects me. We love each other. Don't judge me.
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reader, Cupid Boy  +, writes (25 September 2010):
 Maybe few will agree with this but... as far as "facials" go, as outrageous as those are, I don't think they are necessarily degrading or disrespectful as many people say. It depends on the individuals. A "facial" between two loving people could be an act of intimacy, while just a look from a creep could be far more degrading. Just depends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): Thanks to everyone for your replies! I just want to clear up that my husband has never made me feel cheap or degraded by any of our/his "activities" He would never do that type of thing. Now don't get me wrong he would love for me to swallow, but I wont so I encourage him to do the next best thing... and then hold my breath. He is a great guy that just feels a little cheated! I feel better for your comments.... Thanks guys!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 Brilliant, Miamine !- you know I had never heard, or thought ,of what you suggest ? You should trademark it:)
Anyway, in ref. to this swallowing issue - everybody is fully entitled to have their own dislikes and hang ups, but- come on ,guys. You just have to swallow it ! It's not like you have to swirl it around your palate as a fine French wine making the appropriate comments : " Uhm...yes...full-bodied....fruity...tangy,with a hint of citrus ..."You just swallow, it's a matter of less than 1 second !
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 As I said a sperm is good for the skin. A good compromise if you can't swallow, is to keep a mouthful, spit it out onto his back, shoulder or body and take time to massage it into his skin. Men feel accepted, loved and cared for when a woman LIKES to swallow. Feeling forced and sick isn't the same thing. Massage is good for the body. By touching the sperm, making nice sounds about how good it looks and how pretty he is, should solve some of the problems, and make him feel worshipped and adored.Good compromise for women who CANNOT swallow, but still want to please their guy. That's should be good enough for him to know he is loved and you accept him.Men on the whole prefer body fluids and biological things like the body and all it's products a whole pile more than most women who often have a lot of hang ups. Best to find some way to make you both feel loved and respected.
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reader, soul  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 you better discous your view with him try to make him understand your point of view but please choose the right time to talk to him
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): women should just get over it. when men do oral on women we are getting your vaginal fluids and smell the whole time.women only have to deal with the end results. men do for women all the time so just suck it up
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reader, Miamine +, writes (23 September 2010):
Smearing sperm on the body and face is much older than porn, and goes back far in human history, For those who are interested it once was a form of Christian worship before the Catholic church managed to formalised it's many texts and sects that developed after Jesus had died. Sperm has been credited with cell rejuvenation properties for centuries.We knew about sex long before pornography existed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): it all depends on the individual. i like swallowin yet a lot of girls dont so yeno it just depends on urself and how u feel and tbh babe if i were u id stop givin him head till he starts to respect ur choice, maybe hell realise wat hes missen ;)
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (23 September 2010):
 Of course it's normal to not like certain tastes and/or smells. He'd of course prefer you like his "production" so as to fulfil the male fantasy so well portrayed in porn flicks where the female lover can't get enough of the male's ejaculate. But reality bites doesn't it?
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reader, Miamine +, writes (23 September 2010):
Everyone is different. Many women don't like the taste of sperm, many women do. There is no point comparing yourself with others, or imaging anyone else is exactly like you. Porn stars are paid to act, they are not paid to make faces when they see a penis or sperm.
You don't like it, that's all that matters. Don't let any man blackmail you, by making you want to pretend to be someone else, or be like everyone else. Also don't feel upset if you hate something and everyone else loves it.. who bloody cares, it's your body, it's your life, your the one in this position, your the one who is feeling forced to do this sex act.
Tell him, to stop his noise about the sperm thing, or you'll stop giving him blowjobs at all.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (23 September 2010):
 I've barely encountered any women who don't mind/will do it and I've only heard from one who "kinda likes it, I guess." Obviously a lot of women will do it, but many MANY won't. You are not abnormal and it's extremely insensitive of your husband to claim that you are to manipulate you into doing something you don't want. How could he possibly know the other wives will do it? And to elaborate on Cupid Boy's insightful comment about hardcore porn being at fault. Yeah porn stars are shown doing it and smiling, but they're paid to do it. Furthermore, why would he want to smear it on your face? It's not that it's gross, but it's something to do to someone you don't respect. Don't base your reality off of porn or compare yourself to them. Just because they can like, it doesn't mean you have to or that most women like it. He should be happy you're giving him oral at all. You've told him you don't like it, now he needs to respect your wishes and stop pushing for this. The fact that he wants to rub semen on your face and is trying to pressure you/manipulate you into doing something you don't want isn't pointing to someone who is respectful of you sexually. I think you should talk to him about why you don't want to do this in a non-sexual setting, and if he tries to push you into it after you've talked to him, then stop giving him oral until he respects your boundaries.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): In my experience, which is not at all vast, about 30-50% of women swallow, and I've only been with one who loved to. Although now I've converted her because I'm the first to cum inside her, and now she is addicted to it.
My ex wife HATED to swallow. She would even gag and stop oral if even a drop of pre-cum shot out. I've even tasted mine (a little) and I don't see what the big deal is. However, she gave me the best head of my life...go figure. I was with her for a long time, and swallowing remained a fantasy, but we compromised and that was just fine. Still, I am a confirmed lover of swallowing, and I have a special place in my heart for women who do. For me, it is an acceptance thing and is the most satisfing act for me sexually. Not every woman will do everything in bed, and you are not a better wife for giving in to things that you dont enjoy sexually just to please him. Sex is only part of a healthy marriage, and specific acts are only a miniscule part of the art of lovemaking...so he needs to be happy with cumming on you. And hell, that is pretty satisfying to most guys anyway.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (23 September 2010):
 By all accounts, you're in the vast majority. Most women can't stand the taste of it (though such a strong reaction to the smell is less common). Even in porn, several of the leading pornstars (Krystal Steal and Silvia Saint come to mind) never swallowed if they could help it. And of those that do, also, a lot of them are just better actresses than we give them credit for.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (23 September 2010):
 I think the taste of a man's sperm has alot to do with his diet. My first husband had horrible tasting sperm, it was bitter and smelly and I only swallowed it once. After that I would never go down on him if I thought he was going to erupt in my mouth. My husband was a meat-and-potatoe guy, didn't like fruit or veggies and never drank alcohol. Since that time I've been with 2 other men who both had better tasting sperm. Both men had better diets (more fruits, more veggies, less meat) and both drank at least 1-2 beers a week (or slightly more). When I met my fiance I discovered his cum was very mild-tastiing. Same thing; he eats alot of fruits, veggies and drinks a few beers a week. Just last year he had to stop drinking beer due to problems with gout.His cum now has a salty taste, that is borderline bitter (Though not as bad as my husband's) So I do think it has alot to do with what they consume and beer seems to really mellow out the taste. Also, when a man has been "cut" the smell is greatly reduced and so is the volume. Something to think about....
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): porn is just acting...those women get paid to swallow, get it in the bum,get it from 2,3,4,5,6 guys...you get the picture. My girlfriends and I love to talk about sex and there is only 1 out of 5 that swallows, I'm thinking that's probably closer to representing the real world. I can't swallow, but I love to give head and never get complaints from my boyfriend. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): 'he says all the wives of the guys at work swallow and LOVE it'...yeah, right. How on Earth does he know, has he seen them?
If you don't like the taste, you don't like it. And it sure ain't champagne. Some of us get to like it or at least find it acceptably neutral, but I'm sure you're normal. Don't worry about it.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (23 September 2010):
 You are NOT the only one! I'm not keen on the taste of cum, so I don't swallow. I don't even take it in the mouth. But, like you I give my fella every other option and this is a good compromise for both of us. I avoid getting a mouthful, and he happily releases elsewhere without bounds. Plenty of my friends are not nearly that generous!! I have girlfriends who really HATE it.
You are not alone. You are not a freak of nature. Your husband is wrong to accuse you of not being "normal".
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): Everyone is different in this respect. I don't know if I would go so far as to say that, "I love it" but I do swallow and without gagging.
With that said, I really don't think it's unusual for someone not to like it! I know many girls that are repulsed by it, the smell, the taste, the texture...whatever!
I know some people that will even make their partner cum in a kleenex or whatever because they just hate it so much. So I don't think you're alone at all.
I think your husband should atleast appreciate that you let him cum on you and not try to make you feel bad about not liking to swallow. That's just my opinion though. I don't think he's a bad guy...I just think he might be a little mixed up about how much women really like doing that.
If it's something you really want to try, then go for it! But if you're really just not into it, I think you should just talk to your husband about it and let him know that it's not something you like/or are comfortable with.
Good luck!
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reader, missjones118 +, writes (23 September 2010):
well i dont know if you want to hear this but the man im messing with (hes married )but i swallowing him sperm (sometimes)and he love it. he said that his wife doesnt give him head!!(oral sex)but hes 33.and his nut doesnt taste anything like the father of my child.... swallow it one time to please him..
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): Very interesting question. I'm a man so I've never tasted it but now that I read your question I realize I have never known any woman who complained about swallowing. I've known a couple who didn't want to give head at all, but of the ones who did, they all swallowed. Interesting.
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reader, Cupid Boy +, writes (23 September 2010):
No, that's not abnormal at all. Sperm was never meant to go in someone's mouth or on someone's body or face! It's only the spread of hardcore porn that has made those things seem normal. If couples enjoy it, fine. But no one should expect someone else to swallow that if they don't want to.
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