A
female
age
41-50,
*itness_Vixen
writes:Dear Cupid, Why does my fiancee constantly complain about our sex life when we have sex just about every day? At worst, four times a week. He constantly complains about not getting enough sexual attention. It is getting REAL annoying and I'm on the verge of leaving this bottomless pit. Enough is never enough for him. But that goes in line with the rest of the relationship. He needs attention...all...of...the...time. I never seen a 46 year old man this needy, or any man for that matter. If we don't sit on the same couch, he complains about not getting attention. If we don't always hold hands in public, he says we're losing the bubbly feelings in our relationship. I swear to you if I stand a few inches away from him on line at a store, he thinks the relationship is falling apart! What kind of species of man am I dealing with?
View related questions:
fiance, sex life Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): Hello. I actually think it is because he is 46, and that is what is going on. A man reaches and starts to lose his sexual peak starting in his 40's. It is basically because our time is now limited and sexually we are going down hill and our instincts go crazy, and we feel this is our last chance to "spread our seed". I am 43 now and I almost as horny as I was when I was 18! I feel like my last chance, my youth (whatever is left) will be gone forever, and I just want to run out and frak as many women as I can. My wife and I used to have sex about once or twice a month, but now we are doing it sometimes twice a day.You should maybe talk to him and tell him that he is being a little needy, and that he should give you a little space. That would be the best way to approach it. Dont do it in a way that will hurt him though, because you might end up with the opposit effect. I hope that helps
A
male
reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (23 September 2010):
 My friend's wife complained to my wife that he was always trying to set up a time/date for the next encounter so everyone has different issues when it comes to sex.
...............................
A
female
reader, person12345 +, writes (23 September 2010):
 He sounds like he's extremely insecure in the relationship, probably just insecure in general as a person. Have you tried talking to him about it? You don't exist to reassure him that you're not going to dump him, and it's not your job to raise his self-esteem. If he can't relax a little and just "chill" about things, you may have to just say goodbye.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): Hello sis
I would love my hubby to have sex with me daily. it is all fine. he does only once in a month. when it comes to sex and relationship, there are no rule.
I have so many post here whose problem is exactly opposite and they are unhappy due to that. My advice is that happyness is only in your mind on how you see things. Another way to think is that he wants you certainly and does not have any affair. YOu have one more thing that is keeping you engaged.
you have one quality of his that you can always use to tease him with love. I do not have that.
It is all how you see the things. Frankly speaking i do not find it as big worry to break ur head.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): You're dealing with a very insecure and emotionally demanding man. Needy as hell.
He's not going to change either by the way. He's 46, this is who he is.
You need to put a stop to this behaviour immediately or walk away. When he says those little things, makes those little demands and implies your relationship is falling apart, tell him it is falling apart not because you're sitting an inch further away than he'd like, but because he's smothering you with this emotional blackmail controlling crap.
Because that's what it is, he's trying to dominate the relationship. He wants everything his way, he wants it to work in the way he has set in his mind and if it doesn't conform to this standard he gets in a huff like a petulant little boy who's mammy won't buy him a wowwy pop so she mustn't really love him.
Don't put up with this, not for one second longer. He's not a baby and you're not his mother, he can either accept an equal partnership based on mutual respect and act like an adult or he can take a hike. You're not there to cater to his every whim, you have needs too and one of those needs is space and the ability to relax. If he can't adapt to that then it's goodbye.
...............................
|
