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writes:hello everyoneIm feeling very lonley at the moment, i seem to be the only one out of my group of friends that hasnt got a bf, married or has a child, and im begining to feel really down about this even my younger brother has gf and am jealous when they are togehter most of the time ive only had 1 bf and recently found out he has got engaged its driving me mad I woudnt say i was ugly but would say there are better looking girls out there I have slept with 2 more guys since my bf but they seem just to like me more as friends The one guy i do like well im not sure if he likes me, we do talk sometimes on facebook where he sometimes says rude things to me, like few weeks ago he said come round for some sex then asked if he was serious and he said dont know he been split with his gf nearly 2 months ago we do get on just not sure if he feels the same way about me Anyway what can i do to feel better about myself will there eventually be somone out there for me lol
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (22 September 2010):
 Feeling better about yourself begins with self image improvement;
A. your looks are not all that important..your personality is- work on that if you must.
b. having a bf is not the secret to feeling better about yourself. most of us(guys)probably don't deserve you anyway.
C. Stop the pity party. Life is a good thing!Get on-line if you're lonely...there's billions of us lonely folks out there
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): What you can do to feel better about yourself is to just start feeling better about yourself. Realize that you don't need a man in your life to define who you are or if you're successful. You're still very young. Instead, take this time to discover who you are, what you believe in and what you truly love to do. Pick up some hobbies or take a couple of special-interest classes (kickboxing, pottery, painting, dance, whatever you like), learn about the world around you, etc. and eventually you'll find a good guy.
The guy asking you to "come round for sex" doesn't sound like someone who's willing to commit to much of anything beyond friends-with-benefits. If I was you, I wouldn't even consider him as dating material.
In order to love someone, you have to love yourself first. If getting involved in activities and improving your life doesn't help, maybe try finding a counselor to talk to. If you live in or near a college town, you can usually find ones with cheaper rates because they're working on their PhDs in psychology or something. If you don't have the funding for that, I've found writing down my thoughts and feelings and sorting them out (why I feel that way, if that seems illogical or not, brainstorming ways to fix it) helps me to understand what's going on in my life.
Best of luck!
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reader, AlliMayMe  +, writes (22 September 2010):
First thing i would say is this guy on facebook may just be after one thing and knowing you are vunerable is preying on you. I know it is difficult to be alone seeing everyone around you getting on with their lives but nothing is ever really perfect behind closed doors and they could very well be wishing they were single lol, enjoy your time alone, once you stop looking for that relationship it will more than likely come to you when you least expect it. I also think from your question you may not have alot of confidence in yourself, its not all about how one looks, beauty is from within. Why not join a class, salsa yoga anyhing you may be interested in, you may be amazed at how it could make you feel or the people you could meet, i wish you lots of luck xx
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