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writes:How do I tactfully ask my partner to stop continually farting and belching in my company? He doesn't even seem to know he is doing this. I have talked to him about it and he thinks I am being unreasonable. Reply to this Question
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reader, Miss_Oz +, writes (8 May 2010):
 Men burp and break wind, women do too. Everybody does and it's normal. You do it too; do you hold it in or run out of the room? I'm inclined to think you do but you really shouldn't have to in a comfortable relationship.
The suggestion of dumping him or essentially making him afraid to do it in front of you by going off on one at him is unfair. You say he seems not to notice it, that could simply be because he feels comfortable enough in your company to be able to do so; it may not be a particularly pleasant thing but if it's about prudence, which is what it sounds like, couldn't you compromise and ask him to just say 'pardon me' or 'excuse me' when he does it?
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reader, Miss_Oz +, writes (8 May 2010):
Men burp and break wind, women do too. Everybody does and it's normal. You do it too; do you hold it in or run out of the room? I'm inclined to think you do but you really shouldn't have to in a comfortable relationship.
The suggestion of dumping him or essentially making him afraid to do it in front of you by going off on one at him is unfair. You say he seems not to notice it, that could simply be because he feels comfortable enough in your company to be able to do so; it may not be a particularly pleasant thing but if it's about prudence, which is what it sounds like, couldn't you compromise and ask him to just say 'pardon me' or 'excuse me' when he does it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2010): he certainly does not care how you feel and shows total disregards to your feelings
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (8 May 2010):
 when he next does it explain to him that you find it disgusting and a huge turn off, be firm with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2010): My husband used to do the same.
It's such a turn off and i kept telling him how much i hated it and how much it was turning me off.
I didn't give up but it did take a long time for him to stop berching like a drunkered and fart like an old man who can't control himself.
He still does it but not in a bad way, just a normal fart or berch and he tries to control his farting when am around.
My advice to you is not to give up on him if you love him . Tell him in a serious way and straight forward that it's a turn off and you don't like it at all. Keep telling him and you will be suprised one day.
Good luck!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 May 2010):
 You will have to get used to it or you will need to live separately.
Tact does not work. You will need stronger arm twisting tactics to stop his belching and farting.
You need to give him a piece of your mind and he will fear doing it again in your presence.
He will respect you and if you don't he will take you for granted.
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reader, Xtina356  +, writes (8 May 2010):
Does he have a medical issue? Acid Reflux? Then have him see a doctor. How about taking Beeno?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2010): I have the same problem with my brothers yet I am seemingly the unreasonable one ... hello, it bugs and annoys me thus stop it. If i was behaving in a manner which was annoying to them and they asked me to stop doing it around them ... do you know what, i would. Apparently its "human nature" but to me it is just plain rude. Sure accidents happen but is it too much to ask for a little bit of manner when around me?!?!? grrrr.
As for your partner - ask him how he would feel if you constantly picked your nose in his company and ate it, not sure he'd think you were so attractive and cute then ... thus his farting etc makes him unattractive and less than cute too to you so if he wants to continue in the relationship with you then he has to STOP IT around you. My brothers aren't allowed in my house if they do not behave in a manner that respects me ... they are shown the door. Personally i could not have a partner like this, he'd be dumpt ASAP cos it annoys me that much.
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (8 May 2010):
 I think you should just dump him. He is not going to change. You said you've already spoken to him about it, and he doesn't care what you think.There is no tactful way of telling someone this. He just has bad habits and he doesn't want to change them in any way.He sounds like a bogan. Sorry, I don't know what else to say.
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