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writes:me and my bf just started having sex, and we use protection and were really contious about it, but one problem, he cums like 4 times and i dont orgasm or even get close to one. Is there somthing wrong with me!? like it feels good, and it pleases me, but it doesnt PLEASE me! how can i make it more pleasurable for myself, because i know he thinks hes doing somthing really wrong, and i told him its ok, but i know he stil feels sad, cuz he really really wants me too. So really pls help, i really need some tips or postions to make sex more pleasureable for myseflluv,nikki
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2007): you are completely fine. Just give this letter to him:
Ok boy. You need some experience.Anticipation is a key word. Make her really horney. You have to touch a bit and wait make her really want you. Stimulate her. Learn about zones and try to give her only clit orgazm by masturbating for the beginning. When you make love try to take her from behind and masturbate clit while inside. when entering do 10 times shallow one deep. respect her. Pay attention on what she says,does feels. Listen carefully. think about how it would be if you are a woman and have somebody bigger and stronger penetrating you.
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reader, rcn +, writes (11 October 2007):
 There is nothing wrong with you. There are many women who go through life and don't have one. Around a year ago I had a friend, she said at 40 years old she'd never had one. That's all I have for you. I'll tell you like one of my kids friends that asked more technical how to questions. I'd love to go further, but not until I have parent permission forms. lol
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reader, Miss_Oz  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 There's nothing wrong with you. He finds it so easy to orgasm because the simple back and forth friction on his penis is enough stimulus for most men to reach climax. Women take a little more work. Is he arousing you before actual penetration, is he stimulating your erogenous zones? Your clitoris, your breasts, any where else that you might find a turn on to have touched? If he has time to manage to orgasm so many times, then it sounds like he's not focusing much attention on you and his lack of attendance to your needs may in fact be the problem. Don't kick him while he's down and tell him that but you need to suggest you both spend a lot more time getting you excited before intercourse and during as well; his hands don't need to be idle while you're having sex. Your problem could be because you're so young; you could be 15, you could be 13, the age bracket isn't specific but if you have only just become a teenager, then you're too young for sex and your body is maybe telling you that you're simply not ready for the act of intercourse. If your boyfriend is 16 or over (or maybe 18, depending on where you live) having sex with him is illegal; not that that stops most young couples but just so you know, he could get into a lot of trouble if he's older than you. I'm so pleased to hear you're taking precautions though; don't let that practise slip into decline. Just remember that communication is the key to satisfying sex and whatever you both are feeling or thinking, share.
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