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writes:I'm 13 and I just started to masterbate last week, but whenever I do it, I feel dirty and wrong. How can I not? Reply to this Question
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (30 November 2009):
 The question you ask is about your moral feeling, that you feel something bad and dirt for masturbation. This is justified feeling, everyone in their teen felt. Somehow, it is tendency amongst modern scholar to blame religion vision which inspire such feeling, but this one is not correct answer, because teen or even early young age do not understand religious vision, they do not bother what religious thinker thought, but quite naturally feeling of shame and dirt inspire from within. And, religious thinkers form their morality on basis of such natural feeling, and influence the way of life of mature aged people is really very danger, which required careful thinking.The reason, why most of teen boys and girls, and many in their twenties also felt shame and dirt for sexual experience is simple: It is ignorance. it is immaturity which begin to mature...but, in mature stage generally sex is begin to value as something important, and search for knowledge start. and, exactly at this stage, religious thinkers misguide by giving them ascetic vision, which no one accept but also no one can found real and objective vision on their own...is real reality behind our life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2007): Yep. Agree with last answer. Both sexes masturbate. It is a good way of relaxing your body, experimenting what you like for when the time is right to "make love" with your partner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2007): Mastubating isn't wrong. It's normal. Whether you got that idea from get that out of your head rightaway.
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reader, Miss_Oz  +, writes (21 July 2007):
 Masturbation is normal and healthy and something everyone does; we even do it innocently when we are small children. Our bodies are ours to explore, in any way we choose to. Some people (particularly those of strong religious belief or extremely reserved upbringing) will tell you it is dirty and wrong and sinful, though it is simply a healthy way of discovering more about your body and making yourself feel good. It is a very common form of sexual expression and also a way to prepare you for having sexual contact when you're older. Your family life may have made you feel this way; maybe from living in a religious household, or a home where sexual matters are never mentioned. Some people simply feel it's wrong because it's such a private thing, that it must be bad or 'naughty' because no-one else should know about it. I assure you, there is nothing bad or disgraceful about masturbating; especially at your young, typicaly curious age where your body is coming into it's own. Relax, enjoy yourself and just remember that millions of other people enjoy what you're doing as well.
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