Like what
he writes?
... Add *ark_25_ to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *ark_25_ a private message | | | *ark_25_'s profile:I'm 19 and I'm not qualified to help people, but I have been told several times that I am good at giving advice, and I like to try and help people out!
I am from the UK near Oxford.
I love photography and playing / making music, socialising with friends.
My two best friends are both girls - maybe that's why I'm good at helping with problems?! haha.
I'm happy to answer any questions sent directly to me, and will reply as quickly as I can.
I'm in a relationship |
|
| Latest articles: Meeting Online - Your Opinions?
This question has 4 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
16 February 2012: Hello! A bit of background: I'm 20! Being quite traditional with my views on most issues, it's not really a shock that I'm sceptical about the online arena when it comes to meeting people. I have always thought that it's not a very pure way of...
|
Guys: would you date a girl if you knew she had done nude modelling?
Q. I have been modeling for an online lingerie site. I was approached by a porn site for nude modeling... The money they offered was amazing! I told them I would NEVER do photos with a man or another woman... Guys: Would you date a girl if you knew...
A. 23 March 2012: Sorry, my girlfriends the shy, quiet and reserved type to most people, as am i. That makes our relationship far more special as we are the only two people that truly know everything about each other. I couldn't date someone the polar opposite of ... (read in full...)
He's too good for me so I don't dare ask him out! What should I do?
Q. I'm in love with someone who's too good for me. So I've been having feelings for him for over a year. We're good friends but I always feel a bit inferior when I'm with him. He's just so all-rounded amazing at everything. And because of that I could ...
A. 23 March 2012: I almost started this by saying my girlfriends name with dismay - she says exactly the same about me, which is total nonsense. I think you, like her, probably undervalue yourself by a huge ammount. You should never let your perception of yourself ... (read in full...)
Never so much as hugged a girl, and I'd like to change that
Q. Hey guys, well basically i’ve got a question regarding myself. It’s a bit embarrassing, but is it normal for a nineteen year old to be a virgin. I’ve never done anything with a girl, never been kissed, never even held hands with anybody. In fact now ...
A. 28 February 2012: Hey, hopefully this will make you feel a bit better. I turned 20 in the summer last year, at that time, I had only ever hugged and held hands with one girl. She was my one girlfriend and that's it, and that was 3 and a half years ago. I can compl... (read in full...)
Keeping Long-Distance Relationships
Q. Hi guys and girls, i've decided to write a bit on how to keep a long-distant relationship going or at least how me and my partner have succeeded so far :). There are a lot of us that go off to university whilst in a relationship, maybe just started ...
A. 16 February 2012: Hey! I really enjoyed reading your article, I too am in a long distance relationship, although compared to the time apart you have to go through I feel less qualified to say I am! In contrast, mine has always been long distance - we met onli... (read in full...)
Where can I meet people my own age to date?
Q. Hi there, just a quick question, when people say to meet new friends they should take up new hobbies i was just wondering where these things take place, i started college and met some wonderful friends but was hoping to find people worth dating, ...
A. 16 February 2012: Hey, Well, I guess you could look around for things in your local area, for instance if there's a leisure centre. There's all sorts of classes etc in the evenings. Without knowing you it's hard to know what to suggest. At the other end of the... (read in full...)
Should I be tested for STIs?
Q. ive just found out that my boyfriend has slept with 3 women behind my back, and now im worried that i could have an STI. what should i do? if i go to the doctor, what will he do?...
A. 16 February 2012: Your health comes first, go to the doctors to get yourself checked! What will he do?? Hopefully feel humiliated and embarrassed about what he's done! Please don't say that you're still with him?... (read in full...)
Why are you on DearCupid?
Q. Someone asked me via PM "well you are here to help people" And someone else and I got to talking in message about that and I wonder... WHY do YOU post to DC? Are you here to help yourself? (or did you come to help yourself and stayed to help...
A. 16 February 2012: I came across the site a while ago just browsing the internet, and I was reading through questions and there was one I felt I could really relate to so I set up an account and posted an answer. I've been told before by friends that I'm good at ... (read in full...)
I feel that my association with this girl is just screaming 'pedophile' even though it's legal
Q. Hey, In a weird situation right now regarding a girl's age. So the backstory is, I was out at a club with my friends, ended up talking and dancing with a few girls. As standard, try the whole 'are you coming back to mine thing' haha to whic...
A. 15 February 2012: Hey, well as I'm 20 and my girlfriend is 16 (although she's 17 next week and doing A-Levels) I feel I might be able to offer a bit of insight. I think it entirely depends on the situation, the background between the two people as to whether it's ... (read in full...)
Do men find it more attractive when their partner swallows ??
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for ten month and a half :) we are really happy together...we have been sexuallt active together for almost five months now and i went down on him last satyrdsy for the first time. He said he really enjoyed it ...
A. 14 February 2012: For me, the idea is quite sexy, and as others have said, it shows that my girlfriend wants every part of me. However, I don't know if it's because I'm a guy or whether it's just me, but the thought of swallowing cum myself isn't a pleasant thought ... (read in full...)
I'm usually shy, but with her I feel just fine. Should I go for it?
Q. Alright guys, so I'm a freshman at my school, and I was at a cross country meet, I'm not the fastest but oh well. Anyways, The fastest girl in my school saw the place I got and was being nice and this happened a couple of times. Then I starte...
A. 14 February 2012: Ask her out! Don't worry about the fact she's in the year above, it doesn't make any difference. Likewise, just because she's popular it doesn't mean she doesn't like you. She sounds genuinely nice, and she probably likes you because you're quite ... (read in full...)
Should I go out with this guy even though everyone thinks he's weird?
Q. I just moved to a new school and i like this guy and he likes me too. Everyone says hes really weird but i don't see it and everything they say is bad about him it doesn't bother me. I know your probably saying just to go out with him and see where ...
A. 14 February 2012: Basically I think you need to stop thinking about what everyone else would think, and actually take into account what you want. And from reading what you've said you want to be with him, so go for it! As for the player thing, that did make me smile. ... (read in full...)
Does romantic sex appeal to men ?
Q. we women mostly (at least in my case) want slow sensual sex that lasts un hour or more with steady rythm and cuddling ,kissing ,sweet words and mutual participation but my experience showed me that men want the opposite , has i always chosen t...
A. 14 February 2012: Personally it depends on the mood, I love the close intimacy of slow sex, and that builds a much stronger bond. But on the flip side, I also like the opposite. Fortunately, my girlfriend is the exact same, we both like both, so it just comes down to ... (read in full...)
Why does he get an erection every time we kiss? He says it's not usual for him
Q. What does it mean when the guy I'm dating, who is 29 and I'm 19, gets and erection every time we kiss? And he says this has only happened to him once before in his past long term relationship....
A. 13 February 2012: Well I always get an erection every time me and my girlfriend kiss, from the very first kiss. I can't really offer much insight into it not really happening for him with ex's, as before my current girlfriend it was only ever "pecks" and I never had ... (read in full...)
I want to watch porn with him, but can't get comfortable enough!
Q. I used to be dead set against porn when me and my partner first got together. That was 7 years ago. Now that I have grown up and gotten older, I realize it is not so bad, and that I actually enjoy it. i dont obsess over the peopl in the movies, ...
A. 23 January 2012: It's just a case of you getting the courage to do it. I can only speak from my point of view, but I would be in the same boat as your husband - watching my girlfriend completely let herself go in that situation would be incredibly sexy for me. ... (read in full...)
How can we overcome conflicting schedules?
Q. I do not want us to fade. Basically, me and my gf, who lives 1hr 30mins away from me have been dating for over a year, we chat all the time, calls last 2hrs a night. We meet every fortnight and dedicate/spend the whole day with each other 10hrs...
A. 17 January 2012: Hey, Firstly I understand where you're coming from, my gf and I live an hour apart and we can only see each other weekends. Originally once every fortnight and now every weekend. It also makes it harder as she can't drive. Likewise we spen... (read in full...)
Should I tell the truth about having sex with my exboyfriend before or after marriage?
Q. hii... i had sex with my ex bf...that was just the biggest mistake in my life... now im worried about my future relationships when i get married...is it right to tell the truth before mariage or after marriage?...
A. 17 January 2012: You should be completely open about your past relationships from the start. If you didn't tell him until after you got married it would completely break the trust and faith he would have in you when you did tell him. Also, it may not be something ... (read in full...)
Getting frustrated with his lack of proposal.....how long were you together before you got engaged? What is the average?
Q. I am rather depressed of late. I am 28, and I've been with my partner for three years, he's 26. It seems that everyone around me is getting either married, or engaged... But me. I am starting to feel left behind and frustrated with my partner's lack ...
A. 10 January 2012: To be honest, it sounds like he's getting ready to ask you! For instance when he was wanting to make sure you'd say yes a couple of weeks ago. If I were you I think I'd be patient, as has been said, there isn't a rush. I know you want to get ... (read in full...)
Is my size normal for my age?
Q. i want to know if my penis size is normal im 16 and my penis is only 7 and a half inches...
A. 7 January 2012: "Only"?? haha, most fully grown men would be jealous of that, on average, the male penis errect is between 4.5 and 6.5 inches. ... (read in full...)
What are guys thoughts of shy girls?
Q. hey here is my question: what do guys feel of shy girls? cause i am really shy and i dont know how to act around guys :/ i could really use you help and advise...
A. 6 January 2012: I'm going to echo what other people have said, it's true! I would always prefer shy over outgoing. Shy girls are usually the most caring and loving and just genuinely nice people. Quiet shy girls usually tend to atract the really nice and genuine ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriends jealousy going overboard? Or is it ok?
Q. Okay so me and my boyfriend were at my house in my room just listening to music. and than His friend comes over and jumps on my bed next to me. i just rolled my eyes and said what do i own this great honor to? he gave me a smirk and said you can be ...
A. 3 January 2012: Well for once on here when it's a jealousy question I'm on the side of the person that's jealous. I think the jealousy on your boyfriends part is completely justified. If a friend of mine tried to take off my girlfriends top I would be furious! ... (read in full...)
Does Male Pride get in the way of having a relationship?
Q. Do you think a mans pride (being mr tough and never showing his emotions, always being mr. tough guy) can stand in the way of him having a relationship? Does that affect the way he feels or lets himself feel about a woman?? ...
A. 30 December 2011: I think is does, because if it's at the stage where he won't do things because he's worried about how it'll affect his appearance to others, or somehow show him to be weak. For instance, kissing in public, he might think it shows too much emotion ... (read in full...)
UPDATE What can I say to get a conversation going?
Q. Hello again, everyone. I posted a question on here on the 5th July this year. Briefly, I was running into a woman on the journey to work every day and did I think she was the most beautiful woman that I'd ever seen? Yes! The question I asked was, as ...
A. 6 September 2011: Loved reading this! Thanks for sharing, I have a smile on my face after reading your story! :)... (read in full...)
How can I stop talking to my guy friends? My boyfriend gets really mad.....
Q. How can I stop talking to my guy friends? I'm still in high school and my boyfriends in his first year of college. He doesn't talk to girls at all in college because he says he loves me too much to talk to them but I talk to two guy friends and he ...
A. 5 September 2011: I think you need to stop breaking your back trying to please him and realise that what he's asking you to do is completely selfish and immature.
It sounds like your boyfriend is under the impression that you can't be friends with someone of the o... (read in full...)
Why do people cheat? why be unfaithful? what's the payoff to be the "other woman"?
Q. I have a question for all the unfaithful and the homewreckers. Why did you cheat!?!? Or help someone cheat!?!? I see so many questions about cheating..and they're the cheaters!! Doesn't anyone know cheating is wrong? And the only acceptab...
A. 14 August 2011: I'm with Kyle on this, your not going to get an answer from a cheater. (I'm not a cheater). You're right in everything that you say, and cheating is wrong, regardless of the situation. Trying to understand someone that has cheated is quit... (read in full...)
Any tips or advice for someone who hates going out?
Q. Hi everyone. I’m wondering if anyone’s got any tips/advice for someone who hates going out. This weekend, I’m off out with a bunch of girls for my friend’s birthday. It’ll be a clubbing/heavy drinking sort of night but I hate that sort of thing. I...
A. 11 August 2011: To be honest I'm pretty much as you've described yourself. I hate the whole clubbing and getting drunk mentality, I much prefer going to a friends and being able to talk properly and having a quieter evening like that. To be honest, the fact... (read in full...)
Thoughts only why I'm called a slut and 19 months along enough time to wait to loss virginity?
Q. okay well i lost my virginity to much boyfriend of 19 months at the time. he was a virgin also. i was just kinda wondering was that a good about of time to wait. i thought so but just wondering. also why do you thik people call me a slut when ive ...
A. 5 August 2011: I guess it kinda depends on your actual age. Ordinarily if it was just sex 13 - 15 is too young. But considering you've been in a 19 month relationship, if your 15, I'd say that's fair enough. You've waited for a quite a while (correctly at your ... (read in full...)
Baby dreams at the age of 16?
Q. Hey I'm 15 and i really want a baby I'm an honour student and I'm responsible.I have thought about this so many times before, about how am i going to work with school. My friends say that I would make a great mother because I'm caring and sweet ...
A. 1 August 2011: Again, why the rush?? I know you don't feel like it now, but honestly, you would regret the decision to get pregnant now when looking back on your life. - If you got pregnant now, you wouldn't have a life of your own. I think you probably knew what ... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you ever approach an average looking girl?
Q. I am wondering if there is anything that an average looking girl could do to grab a guys attention? Is there a (non-slutty) way she could dress? A specific perfume? Any behavior? Something she could say? Have you ever developed an attraction fo...
A. 29 July 2011: Heyyy,
I think at our age guys tend to prefer wild / attractive / confident girls, likewise, girls prefer similar character traits in guys, which puts the more average / quiet / shy like us out of the picture.
To answer your question directl... (read in full...)
Beautiful woman extremely friendly to me at first meeting. Red flag?
Q. Right, so my mate and i were at a pub couple of nights go, and im sitting at a table, and i notice a drop dead gorgeous woman sitting with a friend. Friend goes up to go the ladies room, so gorgeous lady is sitting alone. I whisper to my mate to ...
A. 8 July 2011: Hey,
I think your taking your mates opinions far too seriously. They are fairly rare things, but there are really attractive and genuinely nice girls out there. After a 15 minute conversation it's quite feasable that if she thinks your nice she... (read in full...)
Help me out of the 'friend zone'!
Q. The guy I like I have known for around eight years, our parents are best friends and I have practically grown up with him. I have really strong feelings for him but i'm worried that he only thinks of me as a friend, help me get out of the friend ...
A. 6 July 2011: You could do a couple of things. Either, you could just ask if he wants to do something, like, go to watch a film, or you could just tell him.
Obviously if you ask if he wants to go and see a film you can always cover your tracks with "I meant as... (read in full...)
Being a virgin has ruined my chances at love in my home town...
Q. Okay so ive decided to start dating but the problem is women wont even go on a date with me where I live because i am a virgin. There was a incident a year ago when everyone found out I was a virgin and now it has kinda ruined me here in my city. ...
A. 6 July 2011: Hey,
The people in your city, are they all on silly pills?? There's nothing wrong with being a virgin, in fact, it shows maturity that you haven't just gone out there for sex. Is being a virgin somehow frowned upon in your city??
I honestly do... (read in full...)
How do I make the most of our time together, without letting my strong attraction to her get in the way of enjoying what we have?
Q. Hello, I wonder if anyone can help. I met a wonderful girl in university with who I have the most amazing friendship, and I consider to be by far the best friend I have ever had. For better or worse though, I am very attracted to her. I di...
A. 5 July 2011: Well you've put that you have overcome your problems with depression and anxiety, firsly, well done for that, I've suffered from both and it's without doubt the hardest things I've had to come through. So going back to the start of that sentence, ... (read in full...)
I like this boy and can't get him to notice me!
Q. Well I like this boy and I can't seem to get him to notice me .. I have his number and the first day we texted and it was good but as time passed I try to text him but he's barley replys.. We don't know eachother like that but I have a crush and i ...
A. 5 July 2011: I'm sorry to say, this probably means he's not that interested in you. If he liked you in that way he would probably be texting you all the time. I know if I liked a girl and she sent me a text I'd always reply, as well as texting her first too.
... (read in full...)
Can a girl like me just because of my personality, please help me
Q. I've always thought that looks are perhaps 90% and personality is just there like bonus points, so I never thought a good looking girl would ever seriously like me. To break it short though: I met my cousin's cousin (my age) and she seemed to like ...
A. 4 July 2011: Don't feel down about it, I'd say she liked you from what you've said. So do something about it. As has already been said, ask your cousin for her number, or her full name so you can add her on facebook. If she does like you, she's probably really ... (read in full...)
Do you think we could get married someday?
Q. so what if im only 15...i have been dating this guy for over a year ALMOST 2 years. he is my third boyfriend. i love him so much. none of my other boyfriend were like him. he is original. he loves me. he proved it to me so many times. we're not like ...
A. 3 July 2011: I think your the only person your age I've really actually believed about being in love. It's not even a problem your on here about. It made me quite happy just reading about your story, it's really sweet! I wouldn't think about the whole marriage ... (read in full...)
Teenagers and sex--the stress is almost unbearable!
Q. I have some thoughts I’d like to share with you guys about the sexual pressure young people are under. I appreciate that I’m only speaking for myself, and most of my points will be drawn from my personal experience, but any opinions and feedback ...
A. 17 June 2011: You really are an amzing person! I've never heard someone your age speak so maturely and have such strong (not to mention correct) morals. It is so nice to hear someone your age refusing to go with what everyone else thinks is right. I'm exactly the ... (read in full...)
Does my fiance fancy my daughter???
Q. I don't know if I am crazy or not. Sometimes I just think I am paranoid due to my own past issues. Sometimes I think I should listen to my gut. I've been with my fiance for 5 years. We've lived together for 2 years. I sometimes feel that he has been ...
A. 17 June 2011: I know this goes against what everyone else here has said, but I don't think that anything is going on. That's my personal opinion from what you've said. I would still keep an eye on the situation, but rather than going straight in and confronting ... (read in full...)
Should I apologize to my religious friend?
Q. Well...I made an offensive joke to my friend who is trying to be religious now. Sometimes I'm a bit harsh and so I made a joke and I told her she cannot watch a movie with Witches and Wizards if she believes in God. (I said that because she told...
A. 14 June 2011: Haha, I like the sound of you - I'd have probably said the same thing about religious people being hypocritical. I don't think you should apologise to her, espeically as she's trying to take a moral high ground now that she's all of a sudden found ... (read in full...)
Teacher added everyone but me on Facebook
Q. Hi, my name is Rach and I'm 14 years old... thing is, I have a really huge crush on this teacher and yes, signs are there that he likes me back. Every time I'm near him I catch him looking at me, and there was once my two friends confronted him and ...
A. 14 June 2011: You really need to open your eyes here. Most people at some point have a crush on a teacher, but next to nobody thinks of it as anything more.
You really need to forget about him, as anonymous123 outlined, you both could get in a lot of trouble ... (read in full...)
I can't make her cum with fingers or oral, and I've got no rubber for sex...how do I find her G-spot?
Q. i can't seem to make my gf cum by my fingers... she doesn't let me touch her clitoris cuz she says it is too sensitive..we can't do oral either cuz she isnt comfortable yet and we have no rubber for sex.. any tips other then the g-spot because i can'...
A. 25 April 2011: I'm with N91, stop trying to be mature and do what you should be at that age. Your kids, don't pretend otherwise. ... (read in full...)
| *ark_25_'s friends
These are mutual friends, so *ark_25_ has
added them and they have added *ark_25_!
|
