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writes:Okay so ive decided to start dating but the problem is women wont even go on a date with me where I live because i am a virgin. There was a incident a year ago when everyone found out I was a virgin and now it has kinda ruined me here in my city. Once word gets out about something everyone will know by the end of the day. I know this has to be the problem because when I went to another city this week I had no problem getting numbers and women liked me. I really cant just go out of town to another city like Austin every week just to date and a long distance thing is not what im looking for. Is there a way I can help my image?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (7 July 2011):
 This is crazy. Maybe you're so paranoid that they don't/won't like you, you're giving off vibes. I find it so hard to believe that they won't like you! Personally, if I found out that some cute, nice, single guy was a virgin - I would have the opposite reaction that you seem to think. I'd be seeking that guy out!! Not every girl wants some guy with a bunch of exes, flings and baggage. There are girls like me, who like an untouched fella!!
I don't think you have anything to worry about. In fact, it may be your worrying that is getting in the way of your prowl! Relax, I think that the concern isn't necessary. Good luck, sweet!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2011): This is the dirty little secret of women when it comes to sexual pasts - they can have just as big of a "double standard" as guys can.
The female double standard just happens to run the other direction. They might have zero romantic or sexual experience and yet still hold it against a guy for not having any.
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reader, Mark_25_  +, writes (6 July 2011):
 Hey,
The people in your city, are they all on silly pills?? There's nothing wrong with being a virgin, in fact, it shows maturity that you haven't just gone out there for sex. Is being a virgin somehow frowned upon in your city??
I honestly don't know what advice I or anyone else can give you. I find it hard to believe that every girl won't touch you because your a virgin. You've just got to find them. The fact of the matter is, the loud girls are going to be heard over the quiet nice girls, so it may give the impression that everyone is sharing the same opinion, when in reality it's just the girls that can't keep their mouths shut.
So yeah, I'd just try and find a nice sweet quiet girl as they do exist, they're just harder to find. Anyone that won't go out with you because your a virgin is incredibly shallow.
Hope that helps :)
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reader, CHV +, writes (6 July 2011):
Well if the girls there wont date you because of that, its THEIR loss, and they hvae a really stupid reason to not like you. Something that i might reccomend, is move. Not too far away from your hometown, but enough where noone really knows you. Your young enough to, so it'll be a whole new adventure and perhaps a cool new life, instead of just a way to get women.
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