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writes:Hello! A bit of background: I'm 20!Being quite traditional with my views on most issues, it's not really a shock that I'm sceptical about the online arena when it comes to meeting people. I have always thought that it's not a very pure way of meeting someone, that in some way it's almost cheating. It skips out those moments when you first see someone, or meet them without knowing anything of their existence beforehand, and to me, those moments are magical.Those views have been warn down though due to developments in my personal life over the last 12 months. This is mainly because I've met my first serious girlfriend, online. We didn't meet through a dating site, but through youtube. A mutual interest in playing and making music. She emailed me just asking about a song, fast forward five months and we met for the first time. Two months after that we started an official relationship, five months later she is making me the happiest I have ever been.It occured to both of us that we have an awful lot to thank the internet for, almost certainly we would have never even been aware of each other, being seperated by a 30 mile drive makes it quite hard to believe that we would have met by any other means. Which is quite a scary thought, it's certainly not an eventuality I like thinking about.I have never met anyone like her in my life, nobody even comes close. So much so that she's better than I imagined anybody could ever be. If it wasn't for social networks, youtube, facebook, msn, I would have never known her.I've consequently thought a lot more about when people meet online. I think certainly it gives you the ability to find and meet people that are like minded and better suited to yourself. It gets rid of some of the trial and error relationships you get when you meet someone and know nothing about them. It also allows people that aren't so confident in person to be heard and not shouted down by bigger personalities. But is missing out on a "genuine" first meeting worth it? From my experience it is, I've met the person I spent my whole life dreaming of thanks to the internet, even if we somehow had met in person, we wouldn't have found out our shared love of so many things, both being shy it's unlikely anything would have ever developed.So, does a genuine first meeting matter in the whole scheme of things? I don't think so anymore.
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reader, Wise_little_elf  +, writes (13 March 2012):
 I met a guy from the internet, we chatted for about 2 months before we decided to meet up, we really clicked, i actually felt like i knew him for years! And have to say, the excitment leading up to the actual 'meet' was brilliant, and being honest we were both so delighted to finally have met each other it ws one of the best feelings ive ever experienced!
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reader, Jonnyt +, writes (26 February 2012):
Hi
I met my partner online and we have been together 3 years to date. As long as ou are careful and take our time. There are loads on weirdos online and some nice people too who are genuine - just be weary bu it's a good avenue of getting to know people. You get to know ppl better online and coffees after that someone in a nightclub
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2012): I have dated guys whom I have met online, some good others not. I am in a very happy and loving relationship with a guy I met on an online social networking site, and have been for over 18 months. I just think that as long as you are safe and sensible then there is absolutely no harm in it. I mean you could meet someone in a bar and they be a complete nutter-you never know. Happy dating.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 February 2012):
 Nope it doesn't. I have to remember and remind myself that I met my current partner at a gaming convention in real life not online... I'm so used to meeting people online.
I've met other friends online that are local and have become some of my best friends in the last two years...
it's just a new twist on an old thing... personal ads....
which have been around since newspapers were invented...
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