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writes:Do you think a mans pride (being mr tough and never showing his emotions, always being mr. tough guy) can stand in the way of him having a relationship? Does that affect the way he feels or lets himself feel about a woman?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Mark_25_  +, writes (30 December 2011):
 I think is does, because if it's at the stage where he won't do things because he's worried about how it'll affect his appearance to others, or somehow show him to be weak. For instance, kissing in public, he might think it shows too much emotion and a softer side. I think that if a guy is more worried about how he looks to others than showing his partner how much he cares for them, then they aren't worth it at all. I would never snub my girlfriend because of how other people would perceive me, it doesn't matter to me at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2011): it does get in the way of relationships because it means he is not being genuine so it is a barrier to feeling close and intimate. you can't trust him because you don't know where you stand with him or where he stands on certain issues related to you. You don't know how serious he is if he says he will be there for you. You don't know if he's keeping his other options open and therefore you should too. Things like that.
people who hold back their emotions don't want to engage with you on an intimate level. so of course this gets in the way of intimate relationships. You can be great buddies like one of the guys to him, but that will be it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2011): Definitely yes. But I don't call this "male pride" because that implies it's (a) normal, (b) healthy. It's none of those things.
instead, I call it emotional baggage due to a dysfunctional and distorted view of reality.
not all men have this, because obviously many men do end up in happy healthy relationships and marriages.
basically if a guy is acting like this, it's not 'male pride' it's just low confidence and toxic shame getting in the way of behaving normally.
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (30 December 2011):
I'm currently dating a guy who has many walls up. It's been a challenge to get him to open up. But I told him he was being vague and aloof and he needs to share more. He's trying! He's also very macho.
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