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writes:I'm in love with someone who's too good for me.So I've been having feelings for him for over a year. We're good friends but I always feel a bit inferior when I'm with him. He's just so all-rounded amazing at everything. And because of that I could never pluck up the courage to ask him out or anything. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Mark_25_ +, writes (23 March 2012):
 I almost started this by saying my girlfriends name with dismay - she says exactly the same about me, which is total nonsense. I think you, like her, probably undervalue yourself by a huge ammount. You should never let your perception of yourself get in the way of achieving something you want. It's a well known fact that everyone looks at themselves in a critical way - people look in the mirror, and rather than look at things they like about themselves, they go straight to negatives. Likewise with personality etc. As you're friends you can always test the water, bring it up in conversation, if it's on that topic, you could say something like, "so would you ever go out with me", that way you're not actually asking him out, and you are going to get the answer. But I wouldn't do that, I think you should tell him how you feel, I wouldn't just ask him out, explain that you've liked him for a long time, say how you feel, I know that's scary and means you've left yourself open, but if he knows how you really feel at least you can look back without regret that you didn't explain yourself properly.
I hope that helps, and good luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 March 2012):
 NO ONE is too good for you. Get that thought out of your head.
You have a mad crush... aren't they overwhelming???
I promise he is not as perfect as you make him out to be in your head.
IF you are good friends, don't you talk on the phone and do things together?
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reader, Chapche  +, writes (23 March 2012):
Be friends with him, at least you can learn from him much if he's so all-round a man. That you feel inferior to him is not good. Does he notice that? If not, don't think about that, be what you are. If you compare yourself with him so try to concentrate on your best qualities (what you think your best qualities are), they justify all of you. You don't need to be better than him or try to be like him. If you let the sense of inferiority go away and find out that you're amazing too but in the other way you'll be sure enough to ask him out. If not, so the guy is not for you and you shouldn't sorry for that.
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