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writes:I just moved to a new school and i like this guy and he likes me too. Everyone says hes really weird but i don't see it and everything they say is bad about him it doesn't bother me. I know your probably saying just to go out with him and see where it goes. But what if it doesn't go anywhere and we break up then i'll have a reputation as a player. But if i do go out with him then i'll get a bad rep cause hes "weird". I don't know what to do. I have a really messed up family life and i feel like i can trust him and he'll be there for me. I just don't know what to do. I'm just asking for some advice of what you would do if this was you. It would really help. Thanks(:
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reader, Mark_25_  +, writes (14 February 2012):
 Basically I think you need to stop thinking about what everyone else would think, and actually take into account what you want. And from reading what you've said you want to be with him, so go for it! As for the player thing, that did make me smile. To follow up what N91 said, it doesn't make you a player if you are in a relationship and however long down the line it doesn't work out, in fact, that makes you more mature than most people your age!
Go for it :) Don't let the way other people see things taint the way you do :)
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reader, oliviaclairex +, writes (14 February 2012):
 From experience, go out with him:)
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reader, N91 +, writes (14 February 2012):
 Serious? If you go out and break up with one guy, people will think you're a player? That actually made me laugh out loud. I have 2 mates thats life goal must be to literally have sex with a different girl everytime we go clubbing, that's what a player is. Not somebody who is in a RELATIONSHIP and then it not work out...
And so what if people make fun, if he's going to make you happy then go for it. It matters more what you think of him than anyone else.
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reader, laura021 +, writes (14 February 2012):
If you don't go out with him because other people think he's weird then you will regret it later. First off - what's so weird about him? If it doesn't bother you, then what's the problem? And secondly, if it doesn't work out then it doesn't work out, it doesn't mean you're a player. A player is usually someone that cheats - isn't it? It's been a few years since I've been in high school, but that's my understanding of the word.
These people that are saying he's "weird", are they even your friends? You did say you're new to the school, if you're just listening to random people then their opinions shouldn't be important at all. And if they are your friends then they should still be your friends regardless of who you date - if they're true friends, of course.
In the end you will choose - but just remember, sometimes what some people see as weird - someone else will see as wonderful. Your choice, sweetheart. Hope everything goes well. :)
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