I don't want to start mothering him
Q. What should I do with an absent minded boyfriend? He's never forgetful about anything important or anything to do with our relationship, it's just little things - like this morning we made sandwiches to take to work because we're both really low on ...
A. 9 September 2010: I think it's natural for us to care and want to do things for the guy we care about and I know they appreciate it as well. I say acknowledge it lightly I love doing things for ya babe but lemme know if Im croosing the line here..and if you feel you ... (read in full...)
How to ask a girl if she wants to be in a threesome?
Q. My girlfriend is very open-minded sexually and said that we could have a threesome if I wanted. I said I did but I didn't know how we could find a partner. Fast forward a couple weeks, I met a girl who was flirty and obviously into me. Invited...
A. 9 September 2010: I think it would be best for your girlfriend to have a connection with the other girl rather than you first. This prevents alot of possible jealousy and ambiguity in the roles. Trust me, make it a plan of your girlfriends to find the girl and it'll ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to lose 10 lbs in 3 weeks?
Q. This isnt a relationship question but im just curious. Is it possible to lose 10 pounds in 3 week..?...
A. 9 July 2010: yes it is possible. Depending on the body weight. I have lost ten in 3 weeks by just cuttng out flour and sugar problem is losing it that quickly you can gain it back plus add a few more :( ... (read in full...)
How do I let her down gently without hurting her too much?
Q. So first off i am only 20 years old, and very mature for my age, and i have been with my girlfriend, who is turning 21 this year, for almost a year, at first i was sketchy about even dating her because she was so different in personality than i ...
A. 7 July 2010:
End her misery now. It is a great compliment when someone cares about you. All she really did wrong was love ya so don't drag this out talk to all your friends about it show her some respect whether over the phone or in person as long as she gets... (read in full...)
Did I handle this situation correctly?
Q. I was just on this dating website chatting to another user, everything was going fine and then he saw me on FACEBOOK, after that he just went cold and blokced me. I sent him a curt email telling him he was immature shallow and not all that attract...
A. 7 July 2010: Good for you! he sounds like a jerk. People dismiss what could be great connections based on quick judgments about appearance, having no idea who that person really is ....that's too bad, his loss . Good thing is you haven't been chatting for a ... (read in full...)
Should I try and forget about this girl?
Q. A month or two ago a co-worker and I started having a relationship. I am single and she has with a boyfriend whom she has been with for four years. At first we both felt very bad about the fact that she was cheating on her boyfriend but as time ...
A. 7 July 2010: Sounds like you really care and respect this girl! Stay supportive to what she needs to experience now. She will be doing alot of soul searching and figuring out her true feelings towards this boyfriend. I don't think he stands a chance considering ... (read in full...)
Did this married woman feel something for me too or have I been played?
Q. Hi, I am a bi-sexual divorced lady, recently I met a married lady online. Initially this was on the basis of no strings attached sex. We chatted and sent texts to each and over a very short space of time I felt really drawn towards her. This ...
A. 6 July 2010: You mentioned it was no strings attached situation are you sure this is truly what you want? I don't think you have been played so to speak, the first time I was with a woman it totally freaked me out. Don't take it personally and next time you are ... (read in full...)
How can I improve my self-image?
Q. I am a seventeen year old girl, 5'4'' and 118 pounds. I generally wear sizes 0-2, or x-small-small, in a variety of clothing brands, so I KNOW I'm not fat or anything, even though I often feel like I am. There has never been a time in my life when ...
A. 6 July 2010: I am sure if we polled every girl your age 99.9% would say the same I know I was horribly insecure at that age. your body is changing and will continue to change as you get older. it's your thoughts about it that need to change now. It is only your ... (read in full...)
How can I move on? I'm scared of being alone!
Q. My boyfried dumped me 2 weeks ago after an 18 month relationship because he says he doesn't love me. I am completely heart broken and don't know what to do with myself. Its affecting my behaviour in I can't seem to function properly and its ...
A. 6 July 2010: I am so sorry you are going through such pain right now! This will be a time of mourning and that is okay but this is also a good time to do some soul searching and asking for help from your own heart!
Rent the movie 'the Secret' start creating... (read in full...)
Should I stay in London now that things seem to be getting better?
Q. am a 43 year old female, childless and single - and not unhappy. I came to London 3 years ago. I had been struggling to find enough freelance work as a designer in Munich, Germany and it seemed there were more opportunities for me in London. So far ...
A. 6 July 2010: Life is always starting over and over and over again and never really finishing. its the process. and it's your perception of this process, that will bring you joy or not. I'd like to suggest you give yourself a time for how long you will stay in... (read in full...)
Any thoughts on what I am?
Q. Hi, I'm 17, male, i've been going out with this girl for about 9 months now, and we're are having sex. its great. Getting to my point, as much as i enjoy to look at her naked, i think i'm weird, and worry about what i like. For instance, i...
A. 6 July 2010: What you like to think about and watch to get aroused does not depict your sexual orientation. You are exploring what you like and that doesn't mean your weird. I like to watch two men as well just cause it's tabboo doesnt mean I'd want to see it in ... (read in full...)
My man is defensive
Q. my boyfriend i have been together for two years now and we just recently just moved in everything is good.i have problem with hem every time i ask hem why he gets so defensive whenever i ask somthing about hes exwife he gets realy mad he doesnt want ...
A. 30 June 2010:
Maybe it is time to let that go ...after 2 years of being with someone they don't want to have to keep reassuring you. I know we like to talk, as girls we can talk too much
We want to know every detail and especially we want to know that our guy ... (read in full...)
I refuse to be a walking doormat!
Q. I been dating a guy for almost 2 years. We had a lot of problems because of him. Recently, a friend of his asked him to let a girl from another country stay with him for a few days. She came here looking for a career, and it turned out a scam. So, ...
A. 30 June 2010:
Something sounds a bit suspicious in all this but I am just going on the info you provided. I am not trying to be cynical but is there any way that he could have lied about the reasons this girl is staying with him? Could it be possible that he m... (read in full...)
Is she just using me as a comfort provider?
Q. I am a 66 year old male married to a woman 15 years younger,our relationship is becoming more and more strenuous.The main reasons are money and our sex life when it comes to money I feel that she spends way beyond her means.For exsample $2200.00 on ...
A. 30 June 2010:
Of course your not being unreasonable to question her lack of restraint and suggesting more of a love life. What you received as your answer to this seems to be a bit of a let down. Money and sex are the 2 main issues in most relationships rega... (read in full...)
He's separated but wants to know about her, should it concern me??
Q. My live-in boyfriend is separated but not divorced. He speaks to his daughter daily and he sometimes asks to his daughter what his wife is doing and where she is and usually ends the conversation with, tell her I said "goodnight". Does this mean ...
A. 29 June 2010:
I think that it is really important for the daughter to feel that her mom and dad are friendly and that he can wish her a good night. He may just be saying this for his daughters sake. I am sure he does still care but that does not mean he want... (read in full...)
Need some advice on how to be affectionate??
Q. hey guys i dont know what to do. im 19 and never been kissed, on a date, etc. its not like im ugly or weird. im 6'2", pretty built, i play football and basketball, i go out and everything. I think my main problem is 1. i get extremely nervous ...
A. 29 June 2010:
This may sound too simplistic but the key to stop feeling anxiety around women is to stop caring so much. Let go of the outcome. Your only 19 and many women will be coming into your life over the next few years. Don't pressure yourself there is l... (read in full...)
How to break up?
Q. The break up between me and my boyfriend is inevitble. We are on a break, and at the end of the break i'm fully convinced he will break up with me. Should I wait til then and just let it happen, or should i call him before the break is over and just ...
A. 29 June 2010: If it is inevitable, as you say then it really doesn't matter who says it. If you know it's over I would just make that contact and end it now rather than dragging it out that is of course that you wish it to be done as well?... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him? And if I do how can we get over this?
Q. I just found out that my boyfriend of 5 years cheated on me for two months. Sorry this is extremely long but we have an unusual background to our relationship. Let me start by saying that we don't have a typical young relationship, we met in a pro...
A. 29 June 2010: It sounds like you two have been through alot together and that you truly love him and do not want to see this relationship end. It also sounds like he is truly sorry and sometimes people make mistakes, find themselves in situations that they need ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend bi? Should we break up?
Q. Help! I'm a seriously confused, stressed teenage girl. I'm 13 years old, mature for my age, and I have a 15 year old boyfried. Let's call him... Alex. Well, Alex thinks he's bisexual, and has considered kissing a guy to see if he is or not. I on the ...
A. 23 June 2010:
It sounds like you two have a pretty solid relationship!
He has chosen to confide in you about this which is pretty huge! I don't think he should be punished for trusting you and expressing his thoughts.
I may be wrong but I think most people ... (read in full...)
Whats the best way to break up?
Q. i'm in a relationship with someone. the relationship is almost a year old now and i am not sure how to end it. I would like to not hurt her to bad but i can't quite bring myself to just say "This isnt working out." Her family is well downhome ...
A. 23 June 2010: Break ups are always hard to do and unfortunately she will be hurt no matter how you say it but the point is that you do! There is really no way for you to make it clear it is over unless you ...well make it clear :) This may be bad advice but I ... (read in full...)
Is this really cheating, I feel cheated in my marriage.
Q. Two friends, a man and a woman, both married in their late 40s, the marriages are sexless and in trouble. We became sexually attracted from the lack of any intimacy at home. We talk often and sex is a hot topic between us. She asked me to have sex ...
A. 22 June 2010: I lied in bed with my bf for the 4th month without him touching me I said to him "if this keeps going on like this I am going to stray, just being honest" he jumped out of bed fuming but it opened ourselves up for a great conversation... ... (read in full...)
Do women keep it honest or do they have grey areas like men do?
Q. I am really curious and need women to be honest here. I've been dating this girl for about 4 weeks and we are starting to talk about making it exclusive. She's amazing, and I am pretty sure she thinks the same about me. So she asked me the ...
A. 22 June 2010: Can't speak for other women but the number changes depending on who I am talking to (I am also 36 so my number isn't around 2-5) but my guess is, if she said three, it is three or at the very most 6. Pretty hard to tell someone it is three when its ... (read in full...)
I know you can't tell me WHO to choose, but HOW can I choose between two great girls?
Q. Alright, so I've got a "happy" problem; there are two girls who like me. Some time ago I asked a girl out. We'll call her Brunette. She couldn't go on our first date; she had work. She couldn't go on our second date; she had to babysit. And she coul...
A. 22 June 2010:
why choose now? These are just the beginning stages with both of them, you haven't even been on a date with brunette
I think you can see redhead guilt free as well? there is nothing wrong with cessing the situation out first before making y... (read in full...)
My ex doesn't return my calls. Should I just let go?
Q. I had been dating a guy. we broke up almost four months ago and will he drinks a lot and parties to much. His 10 years my senior and he gets really crazy when he drinks. I have been there through everything and when he was in jail and he has a ...
A. 22 June 2010: yup!... (read in full...)
Am I overly sensitive or is my wife's behaviour with this friend inappropriate?
Q. I have been avoiding asking this but I am up to my bald spot with this! My wife car pools with a man, about her age, with no one else, just the two of them. Five days a week for 45 minutes to 1 hour 15 minutes EVERYDAY. They meet at our house, (...
A. 22 June 2010: You have every right to feel the way you do about this. It bothers me that you have brought this up with your wife that it hurts you emotionally and she was so defensive instead of reassuring.
This man is not being honest to his own wife about who ... (read in full...)
My friends and family never join the events I plan!
Q. I am feeling really down. One of the main reasons is that 99.9% of the time that I ask friends/family if they would like to go out somewhere with me they have an excuse why they can't go or else I don't even get the courtesy of a reply. I have ...
A. 22 June 2010: This is just a response from one of those people that has been on the other side and has lost some good friends because I didn't respond to invitations, return phone calls or make it to their bithday.
Sometimes the planner can get a little s... (read in full...)
Dating, Age, Time, and Celibacy...Recipe for being Alone Forever?
Q. I have been alone- without being on a single date- since 1997. When I was younger, out of college I worked 8 years, 7 days a week, year round, 10-24 hours a day. The only time I had off was extremely rare and I was normally mentally exhaust...
A. 22 June 2010: agree with C grant completely... You are brilliant and this is what may be causing you this stress.. Are the thoughts that are roaming around your head always quick and analytical? I'd like to make a few suggestions to help you get out of your... (read in full...)
How can I stop comparing myself and hating my looks?
Q. I can't stop comparing myself to other women. I hate the way I look, just because I see other women daily who have the body I wish I had. I don't know, I just can't. Especially because I see how men react to these women so positively. I'm not f...
A. 22 June 2010: How can you stop comparing yoursef and hating your looks?
....just stop it!
easy.
Spend some time looking into your eyes, seriously stare into them in a mirror and ask your own eyes to show you your beauty over the next few days. This is a... (read in full...)
How can I overcome this fear of being close with people?
Q. Hey, I really need help to overcome a fear I have. For some reason it only started about a year ago and I just do not like people in my space if you get what I mean. I don't mind if we're just friends but if I know they like me or I like them I just ...
A. 19 June 2010: I will just give some ideas as I work with energies of the body and your energy seems a bit out of balance...Download some guided meditations Paul Mckenna has some great hypnosis cds and Kelly howell has some guided visualisations that can help you ... (read in full...)
Been together 3 months and he's starting to irritate me, should I just call it a day?
Q. I'm in a real dilemma and don't know what to do. I met by boyfriend 3 months ago. We get on well although we have never been out on a date. He just comes to my house and we hang out. He calls/texts each day sometimes we talk for ages. The probl...
A. 19 June 2010: hmmm I dont think you have given it enough time! Firstly you need to get out of the house! He may be a little inexperienced and shy and feels that your place is a comfort zone! You can always teach him how to touch you eventually but this ... (read in full...)
Can pressure on a pubic bone give him similar pleasure as to what I feel?
Q. I have always wanted to know... if this is a good sensation for men as well? So if your going down on a girl and she is about to cum if you press your palm down just above her pubic bone it creates such a fantastic pressure that can create ...
A. 19 June 2010: Thank you!!! I was wondering if I was crazy since no one had responded :)Loved your response and can't wait to explore more secret spots ;)... (read in full...)
How can I deal with this breakup?
Q. Hi! I feel in love with a guy this last spring. He broke off with me and I thought he was afraid of commitment. Maybe he was so I wrote him emails without any answers. He finally mad me angry so I told him off! Then I decided to let him have his way ...
A. 19 June 2010:
yes, letting him go was the right thing. The way you stated "let him have his way and gave him his freedom" is a bit disturbing and may indicate why he wanted out of this relationship. Did he feel trapped? Were you being too persistent, too inte... (read in full...)
I love him but he neglects me, we have a daughter and I want her to have a mum and a dad, but this relationship is making me miserable!
Q. how do i tell him it's over? we've been together for 3 years his daughter was born one month when we started dating and he told me he didn't know he was having a kid with his ex...that she lied to him about the abortion.. we have a 3 month old ...
A. 19 June 2010: I think the best thing to do is give this relationship a time limit, so that you feel that you are for sure making the right decision. I would like to see you just try this little experiment...Decide that YOU will be the best girlfriend for 2 ... (read in full...)
How can I handle my girlfriend's trust and anger issues?
Q. my girlfriend of 8months appears to have trust and anger issues.I am a photographer.i mostly shoot with models or i used to.after 2 months and me moving to her city,she tells me she hates me knowing these models and hates their pics.Ive NEVER ...
A. 18 June 2010: Unfortunately there is not much you can do as her insecurity issues have nothing to do with you! It sounds like you care for her and as long as you are making her feel special, giving her attention and reassuring her that you only have eyes for her ... (read in full...)
My best friend's boyfriend...
Q. This past weekend i just met my best friend's boyfriend and oh my is he a cutie, But i realized that he was thinking the same thing about me, He started to text me the following monday after we first met... he told me "Your gorgeous, your eyes are ...
A. 17 June 2010: o darlin this is not a good situation! If you really consider this girl a good friend don't hurt her like this!
This guy is a piece of work he did not respect your friend by flirting with you and he could care less about you and your friends frie... (read in full...)
My girlfriend seems to have feelings for another woman! How do I handle this?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over 2 years now im 25 and she is 21 recently shes been acting a bit weird lately being distant from me and didnt want to get close to me or anything i came home early from work one day she was in the shower and had ...
A. 17 June 2010: my answer to your situation may be completely off and not what you want to hear but it is just coming from my own experience...I think the meaning of truly loving someone is supporting them in whatever they want to do or experience. You showed her ... (read in full...)
How can I get his attention again?
Q. I need help yet a second time, im in love with this boy lets call him Casper, and i love him very much, i want us to be together, and he says he wants that too :) and we have been talking for over 4 months now, and we are very fond of each other. at ...
A. 17 June 2010: Don't call him or make contact until he does I know this will be hard but just see when he will come around...Who knows what he is up to or if he just needs to be alone for a few days if he cares about you as well it wont be long until your call is ... (read in full...)
What should I write in my message to her???
Q. Hello Everybody, So about two weeks ago at my brother's prom in Mexico I met a girl and we hit it off really well. She is 22 years old, like me. As it turns out, she actually lives near Los Angeles (where I live), and visits there frequently...
A. 17 June 2010: my vote is for the second message you wrote think it's nice to comment on her eye operation but I think you should put yourself out there a little by saying Im heading back to L.A on Friday and would like to see you before I go, are you free? ... (read in full...)
Help!!! Does she like me or is she just being nice?
Q. Here is my original post from June 1 2010 Dear cupid, I am a 28 year old SWM, recently a girl that i have casually known for the past 2 years who is a good friend of one one of my close male friends was in a situation where she needed to ge...
A. 12 June 2010: Gotta tread carefully here so not to make things uncomfortable between you two if she is just being friendly! I have the feeling that something is developing but being too premature about it may kill it all. I suggest you wait, spend time with her, ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to match up with me in the sex department?
Q. I've been going out with my girlfriend for two months now, and we really really care for each other. She is my first real girlfriend and means a hell of a lot to me. We've got to second base, although it is pretty much one way, i.e., I give her...
A. 11 June 2010: Next time she starts to touch you encourage her ....tickle her ego a little ...."That feels so good baby" "I love the way you do that" Do you know why she is stopping? Is she worried that you will cum and that'll be the end of it? Does she know ... (read in full...)
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