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writes:Help! I'm a seriously confused, stressed teenage girl. I'm 13 years old, mature for my age, and I have a 15 year old boyfried. Let's call him... Alex. Well, Alex thinks he's bisexual, and has considered kissing a guy to see if he is or not. I on the other hand think I'm straight, but I'm not sure, and I am 100% anti-homophobic. I would prefer it if Alex broke up with me before experementing with some guy, and then taking me back, but Alex doesn't want to leave me in order to do this. We are both what you'd call emos, and we're rather open minded. I'm also alot more mature than Alex most of the time. My friends all think I'm going to end up bi, and I'd never admit this to them, but I think I might end up being too. I've thought about kissing girls, and if I was single, I'd probably go out with a girl, but I lean more towards guys. Alex is also going to college overseas in August, and I won't see him much until we both finish school. When I go to college, he'll be starting uni. So we won't see each other for months on end :/ We've been together for over 14 months (15 on the 28th June) and I love him more than anything Some of my friends think we should break up, and I don't know what to do. Alex means more to me than anything. Please, can someone help me or give me some advice? Thank youxoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2010): dump him. tell him to choose if kissing a guy means more then he really doesn't lovee you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice guys. I really appreciate it.
Just a quick note, he's going abroad for college (we live on a British overseas territory and there's no college here) and I won't see him from early-August til Mid-December, then from early-January until Easter or whatever the next school holiday is. During this period of time, I myself will be studying for my GCSE's, and he will be studying for his A-levels.
Something I'd like to point out is that 'Alex' told me that he thought he was bi back in January, and my friends think we should break-up, not because of his sexuality, but because we won't see each other for rather long periods of time, and because of the distance. We'll be 8,000 miles apart for 2 years at the least (I finish school in 2 years, he's just finished school).
I'd also like to say that 'Alex' is my first love, my first kiss, my first date, and my first boyfriend. We got together when I had just turned twelve, and he had just turned fourteen. Even if this relationship were to end (which neither of us want), we'd still be close. He's not just my boyfriend, he's also one of my best friends. He comes to me with his problems, and I go to him with mine. We're rather proud of our relationship (especially when you're our current age, or the age we were when we started dating relationships normally last 2-3 months at the longest), 15 months is a very long time.
Furthermore, I'd like to add, would someone please be so kind as to explain what monogamous means? I may be mature for my age, and an avid reader/writer, but it's a word that I have never come across.
And finally, I'd like to thank you all again for your advice, it's greatly appreciated.
Jess
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice guys. I really appreciate it.
Just a quick note, he's going abroad for college (we live on a British overseas territory and there's no college here) and I won't see him from early-August til Mid-December, then from early-January until Easter or whatever the next school holiday is. During this period of time, I myself will be studying for my GCSE's, and he will be studying for his A-levels.
Something I'd like to point out is that 'Alex' told me that he thought he was bi back in January, and my friends think we should break-up, not because of his sexuality, but because we won't see each other for rather long periods of time, and because of the distance. We'll be 8,000 miles apart for 2 years at the least (I finish school in 2 years, he's just finished school).
I'd also like to say that 'Alex' is my first love, my first kiss, my first date, and my first boyfriend. We got together when I had just turned twelve, and he had just turned fourteen. Even if this relationship were to end (which neither of us want), we'd still be close. He's not just my boyfriend, he's also one of my best friends. He comes to me with his problems, and I go to him with mine. We're rather proud of our relationship (especially when you're our current age, or the age we were when we started dating relationships normally last 2-3 months at the longest), 15 months is a very long time.
Furthermore, I'd like to add, would someone please be so kind as to explain what monogamous means? I may be mature for my age, and an avid reader/writer, but it's a word that I have never come across.
And finally, I'd like to thank you all again for your advice, it's greatly appreciated.
Jess (the person who asked this question)
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reader, Liza999  +, writes (23 June 2010):
It sounds like you two have a pretty solid relationship!
He has chosen to confide in you about this which is pretty huge! I don't think he should be punished for trusting you and expressing his thoughts.
I may be wrong but I think most people think of experiences with same sex whether they admit or not or whether they decide to act on it or not.
I am a bisexual woman but am in a monogomous relationship with a man and therefore wouldn't act on it and hurt him. On the other side if I was a young teen I would want to experience what I liked and didn't like, isn't that what growin up is all about?
I don't think you want this relationship to end so be his best friend stick with him, share your thougths with him about feeling insecure about it. get more information about his true feelings and take it from there ...
wow 13 you sound so mature for your age !
Bless,
Liza
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (22 June 2010):
 It depends how he feels. does he need to know hes bi-sexual? cause he has been with you for over a year and is suppposed to love you. its like saying he loves you but wants to be with other people as well as you to see if he likes them too :S its confusing.
You will need to state that if you feel better about him being single to expiriement with guys, then you should say that. If he says he doesnt want to break up then you need to tell him that you are not comfortable with him basicaly cheating on you.
Just make sure you are okay with the situation and not just settling to make his needs happy
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