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writes:Hey, I really need help to overcome a fear I have. For some reason it only started about a year ago and I just do not like people in my space if you get what I mean. I don't mind if we're just friends but if I know they like me or I like them I just cant hug them or give them eye contact for some reason. It's driving me crazy because there's this boy I like and I'm terrified of kissing someone and so its holding me back from asking him out as I know we'll get to the point of kissing and I just cant. I seem to go really sick and nervous and my mouth gets dry, also a mate noticed I start to shake if the person doesn't back off. I have tried just hugging someone, and I did but had a panic attack later that day. I think my fear is of rejection or something but I just don't know how to get over it and don't want to date someone and let them down. Also if I tell them I'm worried they'll think I'm weird and leave.I'm 18 and so this doesn't help as all my mates have steady boyfriends and just think I'm being stupid. My mum has realised what I'm afraid of and tries to kiss me on the cheek everyday but I still get really nervous and go pale even with her. PLease help !!!!!
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reader, Liza999  +, writes (19 June 2010):
 I will just give some ideas as I work with energies of the body and your energy seems a bit out of balance...Download some guided meditations Paul Mckenna has some great hypnosis cds and Kelly howell has some guided visualisations that can help you relax. You are thinking too much about this situation and it is perpetuating itself by your focus on what you don't want to happen! Think about what yo do want to be like when soemone approaches you! Visualise yourself every night talking the way you want to talk giving the non verbal cues you would like to give feeling the way you want to feel Focus on who you want to be like! Go get a massage therapy treatment it will help you relax in a professional environment it will get you used to touch and being inside your own body without having to return the touch or having to think about what that persone thinks of you! One more suggestion ....look up emotional freedom technique (emofree.com) it is tapping on acupressure points of the body while releasing these thoughts that are not serving you right now ...try it?! Goodluck hugs hugs hugs!!!
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