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writes: I can't stop comparing myself to other women. I hate the way I look, just because I see other women daily who have the body I wish I had. I don't know, I just can't. Especially because I see how men react to these women so positively.I'm not fat. I have small breasts and wide hips, and cellulite. I also hate my face. I even compare myself to celebs.I always feel down and not confident. I hate seeing myself in the mirror. I know I look normal, I'm not gross or anything, I just wish I was hot. I wish men would drool over me like they do over these girls I see daily.Again, it's not a weight problem, so diet and exercise won't fix it.How can I start feeling better? How can I stop comparing myself and hating my looks?
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reader, Liza999  +, writes (22 June 2010):
 How can you stop comparing yoursef and hating your looks?
....just stop it!
easy.
Spend some time looking into your eyes, seriously stare into them in a mirror and ask your own eyes to show you your beauty over the next few days. This is a great meditation and will help you see the magnificense of who you really are. We all compare ourselves and wish we had better bodies better faces etc. even those that are typically what we consider beautiful do this as well So you are not alone in this comparison, inadequate thinking.
Focus on what parts you do love! Notice women around you that may not be particularly attractive but because of their confidence and their inner beauty they give off such an attractive energy about them! Work on giving off beautiful vibes to people recognising and appreciating their beauty this will help you recognise and appreciate your own! p.s Your honesty about this is pretty darn beautiful! p.ss I wish I had your small breasts :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): If your not born with it then realistically your not going to have it, you need to understand that looks aren't that important and by constantly judging others even In a positive way you are going to make yourself belies you are constantly being judged and make yourself really self conscious. It's a hard thing to do but you just have to make the best with what you have and if there is somethig you don't like about your body then change it, don't like your celulite then go on a run, siting there moping around will actually make you less attractive. Work on the things you can.
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reader, lovebaby126  +, writes (21 June 2010):
 hey sweetie,
Okay i understand completly how you feel. You go around wishing everyone would look at you and be jealous somedays instead of the opposite.
The thing is the guys who drool over girls don't have a clue in the world what is good for them. They just think that since everyone else thinks that way they need to also. i will admit i am not a skinny minny. and not one guy ever wanted to date me because i had a little chunk and you know what they were all jerks. And when i got to high school i met the love of my life that loved me the exact way i am.
you need to understand that there is one boy out there that will see you and drool over you because you are so gorgeous to them that they can't stand it. he will want to show you off to the world, kiss you in front of everyone just so they know your taken. And that is all that matters and remember that. the ones that just get guys to look at them probably are very lonely inside because people can't look past that.
you are beautiful! and you need to accept how you look and be more confident in your self!
always here,
lovebaby
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