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writes:Here is my original post from June 1 2010Dear cupid,I am a 28 year old SWM, recently a girl that i have casually known for the past 2 years who is a good friend of one one of my close male friends was in a situation where she needed to get out of the place she was living in, i work away from home quite often and have a dog and need a house sitter so i let her move in because my male friend suggested it, she is really happy with her new place as it is better than her previous place and told me that i am her guardian angel as well her dog and my dog really hit it off and she constantly says how much better her dog and her are living in my place as well her dog has a history of not getting along with male dogs very well. One of the first things she told me was that there is nothing going on between her and my close friend, so we have gone out together a couple times we both like doing the same things and get along really well we laugh together like old friends, i have started to like this girl and i dont know if she feels the same way i think she does, when it comes to calling each other she has been the initiator mostly as i have played it cool with her, we have some tentative plans made for when i return home and one booked plan, however i did call the other night (we spoke 2 days prior)and she was on her way to a show with friends and she asked me if i had anything important to discuss or did i just want to chat i said i just wanted to chat but told her to have a good night out with her friends and i would talk to her later she then told me the name of the show and where they were going i said have fun, i can see something happening in the future but would like to know if you think she is being friendly or if there is something there based on what i have said here. Also she mentioned that she was asked out on a date but does not see any point to going on the date as she really does not like the person who asked her out in that way. (end of original post)Here is what is now happening (June 10th)Dear Cupid,the situation has been going really well in my mind, we went on a horseback riding day together and have been hanging out, we get along really well and laugh allot together, so i decided to ask her out to dinner and live music next weekend she said yes however i talked to one of my best friends who knows her really well and tried to date her many times but she denied him, he told me that she is just being nice and that she probably wont be interested....it made me think about a couple events that happened, after we finished the horseback ridding she did say to me that I should have asked the guide for her number (she was really hot!! but only 23) because she thought we hit it off, the truth is I talked to her for the first 5-10 minutes of the trip she was just being professionally courteous in my mind and then they talked the rest of the way with me in the background so I was wondering if she was trying to get me to say I was not interested in the guide but in her but of course I did not bite that hook. To give some more information about the situation i am an engineer in the oil biz and work away from home she house sits for me while i am away and we are roommates she told me that when i get back we are going to hit the hot yoga hard together (we do this together)i am nervous about the intentions that i have versus what she is thinking and i dont want to ask her questions it may create an uncomfortable feeling, i do like her and am interested, i have never tried to kiss her or hold her hand but i want to....Please respond
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reader, Liza999 +, writes (12 June 2010):
 Gotta tread carefully here so not to make things uncomfortable between you two if she is just being friendly! I have the feeling that something is developing but being too premature about it may kill it all. I suggest you wait, spend time with her, go to yoga be good friends and look for more hints. You could casually throw out a comment her way that she could take as friendly or more depending what she wants to hear like, "your awesome" "your fun to hang out" with" etc.and see what her response is does she back away or return the compliment more signs we need more signs!!! Let us know how things progress!
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