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writes:I was just on this dating website chatting to another user, everything was going fine and then he saw me on FACEBOOK, after that he just went cold and blokced me.I sent him a curt email telling him he was immature shallow and not all that attractive either.The guy had already givem me his email address earlier on cos he wanted to see my pics.I told him how silly this and said he was lucky I am a nice person and I would delete his email address.I just don't know if I handled it right but why would someone block me after a superficial chat on a dating site.
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reader, iloveblue  +, writes (7 July 2010):
 I know a guy who does that. The FB thing is just a way to make you feel like he trusts you and would allow you access to his personal details. Just a way for them to look like a nice guy, but the truth is, once they see a glimpse of your personal life on FB and decide they don't like you, then they hit the block button. No sweat.
Bottom line is, it's not you...he's an asshole and a user. The earlier he did that, the better..atleast you can forget about him, he's not worth your time. Next time you know people like him exist so be extra careful. And please don't forget to block him too in all connections you shared with him.
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reader, Pinkangelgirl18 +, writes (7 July 2010):
To be honest i would stay clear of dating sites from now on, but answering your question i wouldnt worry about him if he realli liked you he wouldnt care about your apperance. I would wait for someine who deserves you
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (7 July 2010):
 Meh, if it made you feel better to hurl an email at him then why not... its not like either of you are ever going to be meeting. It ain't the high road but meh...
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reader, romany +, writes (7 July 2010):
 I wouldn't have bothered telling him I'm nice and that i'd delete his email.
This guy is no one to you, one chat doesn't mean your attempt at making him feel guilty for being an a55hole was gonna work, he won't give a darn.
He is shallow, but it doesn't mean that just coz he is not attracted to you, others wouldn't be either, we all have different views on what floats our boat, also he may have gone thru your profile, and realised you were not the sort of girls who was gonna lay on your back with no commitment required. He's an a55 and dont need anymore of your thoughts, dont let him ruin your day.
If your gonna go on dating sites, you have to understand that alot of people on them, men and women are on their to get easy lays, not very many genuine ones, you really do have to sort the wheat from the chaff.
Good luck.
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (7 July 2010):
 Sounds like somebody you don't want to be chatting with at all. I would just tell him "Thank you for showing me your true personality early on so I don't waste anymore of my time on you.".
Or you don't say anything at all and be the better person. Clearly he was only "fishing" anyway. Try not to let it get to you. You're better off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010):
i think the best thing would of been to ignore the person- as im sure replying suggested you cared. just be greatful you found out sooner then later and was able to quickly remove him from your life. to be fair these sites do revolve around looks and the fact he wanted to see your pictures shows he too is concerned with that. some will like the way you look , others wont.
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reader, Chippy2 +, writes (7 July 2010):
Well I wouldnt give out my e-mail address on a dating site. I have and with icky results. Most of the guys on there and gals are not worth the time it takes to type to them.
Same with sending your pics.
If it were me I probably wouldnt have gone so far as to say the things you sent back, but you were upset at the moment about his actions and its done now.
Telling someone they are unattractive? Ouch - And why would someone block you after a chat on a dating site? Because many on those sites like the anonymity that they can be who they want there and you dont know the real them - maybe he felt scared or threatened. Yeh really.
Be so very careful on those dating sites. I truly think they are a total waste of time!
Good luck - don't take what he did personally -
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): Well since you didn't give him the pics earlier he just found them himself. Tis always better to be upfront
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reader, Liza999 +, writes (7 July 2010):
 Good for you! he sounds like a jerk. People dismiss what could be great connections based on quick judgments about appearance, having no idea who that person really is ....that's too bad, his loss . Good thing is you haven't been chatting for a long time so really no investment on your part. ....Next!
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