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writes:I been dating a guy for almost 2 years. We had a lot of problems because of him. Recently, a friend of his asked him to let a girl from another country stay with him for a few days. She came here looking for a career, and it turned out a scam. So, after a few day staying with him, he finally told me. My thing is why he didn't tell me when it happened, and why I was not allowed at his house when she was there. He told me nothing happened, and he was stressed that this strange girl was staying there. I don't know if he is telling the truth or not, and he could of hid it, and I would have never found out, but since then he has been acting weird. Need some advice, I do love him, but I refuse to be a walking doormat. Reply to this Question
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reader, SillyB +, writes (1 July 2010):
 I told my bf about this story. I agree fully with my BF
1. He kept a secret
2. a woman lived/lives with him
3. You're not allowed into his home
RED FLAG!!!!! HELLLOOO WAKE UP. At worst he's cheating and at best he is a liar who disrespects you!!!
If you don't want to be a doormat, see this situation for what it is - disrespectful to you. Walk away and do not look back. You deserve much better hun. This guy is treating you worse than a doormat.
If I found out my bf has a girl living in his apartment, without me knowing and without me allowed to visit - he'd get the boot without a second thought.
You're treated by people the way you let them treat you!!!!
Walk AWAY!!! Confront the woman, tell his family & walk away!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): If you are dying to find out you can spy on him, but that is usually never a good option. This is a tough one though, its nice that you still have hope in him and still want to be with him, maybe ask him straight out why he won't let you there, or ask your friend or see if you can hang out with this stranger and talk to her about it. And another thing is, do you really want to know? In a way you do but if you found out what is really happening what would you do?I am not sure what to do in a situation like that, see if you can talk to him as much as you can maybe and don't bring anything about the stranger up and see if he mentions something that might clue you in.Good luck hope you can get your answer if you want it.
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reader, meowmeagan +, writes (30 June 2010):
Sounds very VERY suspicious to me if he wouldn't let you come over while this other girl was around. I'd tell him to either get the girl out of his place or you're gone. It's not cool if another girl who "he hasn't done anything with" gets to live with him but you, his girlfriend, doesn't. Sounds really fishy. Confront him about it and make the girl live somewhere else. He is not her boyfriend. He's YOURS.
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reader, ladyjaye  +, writes (30 June 2010):
 it sounds like you may be his doormat... you are being to soft stand up for yourself and what you believe in dont think that because your not 21 that you have to settle for someone that isnt good enough if it was innocent then the truth would have been told from the beginning... dont let him pull the wool over your eyes... be strong if he isnt the one then there are many others im sure will meet your needs and more... good luck!
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (30 June 2010):
 I think you should move on to be completely honest. He isn't being honest with you, and personally, I can only think of one reason why he wouldn't let you into his house while she was there.
You deserve someone who respects you and is honest with you.
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reader, Liza999  +, writes (30 June 2010):
Something sounds a bit suspicious in all this but I am just going on the info you provided. I am not trying to be cynical but is there any way that he could have lied about the reasons this girl is staying with him? Could it be possible that he met her online wanted to meet her, didn't feel a connection with her so decided to tell you some fabricated story? Not trying to put thoughts in your head but it really does seem off! If she is still there I think you need to meet her and cess out the real situation!
Please give us an update would like to know what the deal is with that!
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