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writes:My live-in boyfriend is separated but not divorced. He speaks to his daughter daily and he sometimes asks to his daughter what his wife is doing and where she is and usually ends the conversation with, tell her I said "goodnight". Does this mean he still cares for her or just being concerned as a friend. They've been separated for awhile.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): I have been separated from my daughter's father for 20 years and she is now married herself. Every time I see or speak to my daughter I ask after her father and say 'say hello from me'
As parents we can't pick and choose which parts of our children's lives we show interest in. We have to be interested in every part. I think he is being respectful of his daughter's feelings for and relationship with her mother and behaving appropriately. Would you rather he said unkind things or worse, ignored her mum's existence? He is also modelling adult behaviour for his daughter. I don't think you have anything to worry about and if you speak to him about this I'm sure he will reassure you.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (30 June 2010):
Does he ask her first with out her bringing mommy up? if so yea hes still hooked on her and who left who.
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reader, raiders +, writes (30 June 2010):
 my parents are divorce have been for 15 years but they both still ask me for one another. I think it is normal, they did have a life together but this doesn't mean there still inlove with other. Just my example hope it helps.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (29 June 2010):
 He might care for her, but it's to be expected. He has had a relationship with her and it's natural for him to be curious about her well-being. He is probably not stll in love with her though.
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reader, malibuutay +, writes (29 June 2010):
 My parents have been divorced since i was 7, they have tried and tried to get back togather and make things work. They were highschool sweethearts and loved eachother very much. He may very well still love her and miss her (depending on what happend in the past) and the longer someone is apart the more respect goes towards eachother. He and she may have come to terms and are tired of the arguing and fighting, and yes he could just love her as a person, he is most likely trying to keep the child happy by making he/she feel comfortable in the situation of the seperation (i know i was very upset) best thing you could do is have a talk with him, and let him know what is on your mind. If you dont, it could escalade depending on his feeling towards his ex..
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reader, Liza999  +, writes (29 June 2010):
I think that it is really important for the daughter to feel that her mom and dad are friendly and that he can wish her a good night. He may just be saying this for his daughters sake. I am sure he does still care but that does not mean he wants to be with her. He is with YOU now and I think it will help you in the long run to support the relationship with his ex and his daughter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): I've been separated from my daughter's father for 20 years. She is married herself now but I still ask after her dad every time we talk and say I said 'hello'. He is an important part of her life and therefore I can't pretend he doesn't exist. I am interested in her whole life, not just the bits I want to be. It's called adult behaviour and putting his child's interests before his own.
You don't need to worry
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