Is he developing feelings for me?
Q. Ive been friends with a guy for just over a week and its a friends with benefits thing, we've seen each other most nights and he has stayed the night a couple of times. He says things like we should go away for the weekend and offers to take me ...
A. 7 January 2014: You're offering sex of demand. Men will tell you anything they think you want to hear if you're free sex; especially with no strings attached.... (read in full...)
Do I ignore married co-worker? I know I shouldn't act on my feelings!
Q. Hi. Well..I am in a strange situation and I'm not sure how to deal with it..I am in a long therm relationship but started to develop feelings for a married colleague and he has feelings for me for more than an year...we never talked about it ...
A. 7 January 2014: Give him back the jewellery and keep your distant. Be firm and tell him that kissing you on your neck (or any part of you for that matter) is strictly prohibited. You are fully aware of his being married, so any type of inappropriate relationship ... (read in full...)
Change to a bad boy, or stay the same
Q. Hey, so what am asking is can a man be to nice, like opening car doors, helping with her coat on an off, saying nice things to her every day,asking her how was her day, you know like at work, taking her to nice places to eat, poems, flowers, just ...
A. 6 January 2014: " is a man suppose to change, an act like he doesn't care, treat them like sh t, cause that's how a lot of women fall for guys"
That's how psychologically unstable women fall for men. Most mentally stable women want men that treat them right, n... (read in full...)
Invited out for a drink, but what to drink when I have to drive!
Q. I'm going on a first date with a guy I met at a party and we're going to get a drink. I'm not a big drinker and we're both driving there separately. I've maybe drank 5 times in my life. I really don't drink a lot. I already agreed to get a drink so ...
A. 6 January 2014: How about you order something non-alcoholic e.g. a non-alcoholic cocktail like a virgin mary or a virgin mojito. Just ask the bartender or whoever is serving the drinks for a list of their non-alcoholic drinks.... (read in full...)
He met his ex behind my back and now I don't feel like I can trust him!
Q. I've just found out my bf of a year has met his ex behind my back. He's been split from this girl for 3 years and has had 2 relationships inbetween, both of which he cheated on them with this girl. He told me about it when I was getting to k...
A. 1 January 2014: You will keep questioning his actions. You should have a talk with him and tell him that you can no longer trust him because he kept his meetings with this particular ex-gf secret. Usually i'm one to say that friendships with exes are not a big de... (read in full...)
I am ready to end this relationship! I'm tired of being alone!
Q. I am sitting here in tears as I type this.... my so called 'partner' has given me no time at all this Christmas and the final blow...he has just told me he is apparently going round to his mums tonight instead of spending it with me the way he usual...
A. 1 January 2014: Doesn't he spend the rest of the year with you? I'm sure you feel horrible, but if he decides to spend 3 or 4 days of the year with his family that he probably doesn't see most of the year, it shouldn't really bug you much as long as he spends t... (read in full...)
I have never had a "G-spot" orgasm.
Q. Please excuse the graphic details!! I have never had a "G-spot" orgasm. Only ever clitoral orgasms. My boyfriend of two years says he really wants me to have one. I think he misses it and feels he can't satisfy me sexually. But I can only really ...
A. 31 December 2013: If you're paying your therapist money, they have the responsibility to listen to ANYTHING that you want to talk about; even if you murdered someone in the past. If she is incredibly uncomfortable with her patients talking about sex, it's as easy as ... (read in full...)
How can I cope with the pressure to marry?
Q. How can I become immune to the social pressure from family and friends to get married and 'settle down' already? I'm in my twenties, in a happy longterm relationship and still studying. We have a three year plan regarding starting a family. I ha...
A. 31 December 2013: You need to grow up. Long-term life choices like marriage and children (children are there forever, you can't divorce them) are not frivolous things that you should be in "competition" with anyone. If you don't understand that, you are most likely ... (read in full...)
I finished the job, now can I ask her out?
Q. Not so much a problem, more a dilemma. I am a single self employed tradesman of 25 with not to much confidence/luck in the lady department. I have recently been doing a bit of work for a lovelly girl who seems about the same age and from what i ...
A. 31 December 2013: The worse thing she can say is "no". Go for it, you'll keep kicking youself and wondering "what if" if you don't ask her out.... (read in full...)
Cheater Cheater!!!
Q. My husband bought another woman clothing and jewelry for Christmas I found the receipt in his truck, I know he will deny it, should I ask him about it or leave it alone? ...
A. 31 December 2013: How do you know it was for another woman? He might have bought it for you or even if it was for another woman how do you know that it was not for a family member or just a platonic friend? I think you should ask, but not in a confrontational manner; ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend spends no time with me!
Q. Hi there iv bin seeing this boy for bout 3wks know and he has said we are girlfriend n boyfriend but every time I ask him to spend time with me he says yes then when it come to it he doesn't answer any off my phone calls or text! He said he needs ...
A. 30 December 2013: It's only been 3 weeks; if he was really into you as he should be, he wouldn't be able to wait for every date that you set up; he would be excited to receive calls and texts from you. He's just not that into you; time to keep steppin' (i.e. move ... (read in full...)
I feel my privacy is being invaded!
Q. I've been having an issue lately concerning those around me and my private life. For starters many of my friends this year have gotten married, are in committed relationships, and have kids. Since this has come to the attention of my mother and ...
A. 30 December 2013: Getting married and having children at such a young age in this day and age; without the type of family support that people used to have in times past is a recipe for disaster. You are about my age and I don't even date guys my own age group because ... (read in full...)
Blocked from facebook after first meeting!
Q. The other night, I went to a bar with some friends. It's a bar where we go quite often. There is this guy who I always see there as well. He usually look at me a lot but never talk to me. It's been going on for about a year. I never really was ...
A. 30 December 2013: "We danced and laughed and we kissed.". You have a conversation for the first time with a random guy you met at a bar and end up kissing him? I guess I will never understand the logic of some people...but I digress.
He could have blocked you for ... (read in full...)
My husband never seems to notice hot women.....EVER!
Q. Hello, I am in my 20s and my husband is great, perfect even. He takes me out, listens to be me, we have a great sex life, we hardly fight. It's wonderful. However.... I recently began to notice that he never seems to notice young attractive...
A. 28 December 2013: As a woman, I don't expect my bf/fiance/husband to be looking at any other woman, sneak peek or whatever, I shouldn't see it happening. You shoulld appreciate the obvious respect and adoration shown to you by your husband, not question it or ... (read in full...)
My married man loves me but can't be with me
Q. Please bear with this long story. I am unmarried and in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. I recently moved to a different country and there I met a guy friend. We both are aware of our situation from the very beginning when we first ...
A. 27 December 2013: This is nonsense; you might find this harsh but obviously there is no one in your life to tell you the truth the way it is. Things never just "spin out of control". When people have sex, it doesn't "just happen". That's complete and utter rubbis... (read in full...)
No one's asked to be exclusive, so ...
Q. This question is for people who are okay with premarital sex: I am single and in college. I am sort of seeing two guys. I have had sex with both of them and have gone on lunch dates and have even stayed over at their houses as well as just "hanging ...
A. 25 December 2013: You're playing a very dangerous game. I'm not sure why a lot of young people think that dating includes having sex. I'm 22 and imo opinion dating involves getting to know a person better; their likes, their dislikes, what moves them; if we can have ... (read in full...)
I can't bear the thought of him kissing another girl!
Q. Do you think that kissing is cheating? When I was with my ex, I would have firmly said no - I really didn't think kisses meant that much and weren't personal, I kissed other people and he did too, it was never sober or with the same person more...
A. 23 December 2013: Kissing is a display of affection; you kiss your family, close friends and your spouse. Making out (kissing with involvement of tongue) definitely is only something that one should do with their spouse imo and therefore would be classified as ... (read in full...)
Money is tight so eating healthy food hasn't been happening
Q. I know this isn't exactly a love or relationship question, but I really respect the answers and opinions of the people here and would love some input. My father is drastically overweight. It is affecting his health and quality of living. He has b...
A. 23 December 2013: I find it ridiculous when people say healthy food is expensive. It simply is not true. You can find healthy food for the same price or even cheaper than the unhealthy stuff if you put in the effort to actually go looking for it. Going to one ... (read in full...)
His ex wife wants him back!
Q. Well hello I really need some help... I been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and he has two kids with his ex wife... Things have been great with us and he has been there for me through everything... I love his children too... The day w...
A. 22 December 2013: If he's already told you that he's going back to her if things work out with them, you can't do anything about it but accept his decision. Quite frankly, even if something happens and his ex-wife decides she's changed her mind and doesn't want to ... (read in full...)
Flakey girls and the men who fall for them!
Q. Just got back from going out, and my situation off that bat is I'm 27/m, never had a g/f, date, kissed, held hands, had sex, etc... And I don't want to be left out. So I'm approached by a girl who seemed at the time to be into me, got her something ...
A. 22 December 2013: I'm a female and I neither like douchebags nor "preppy pieces of shit" (whatever that is).
I'm pretty sure a lot of women are not out here looking for douchebags and "preppy pieces of shit". My guess is that you just had some badluck or it's the... (read in full...)
Should I ask my boyfriend about his ex?
Q. I'm in a kind of confusing situation. When my boyfriend and I first started dating I know he was still talking to his ex girlfriend all of the time and at that time I thought he maybe still had feelings for her, despite him saying he didn't. ...
A. 19 December 2013: It is clearly not a secret that he still talks to her. I honestly don't think you have anything to be worried about. If he was making it a secret that he still speaks to her, then you should be worried. If he has done or said anything that would ... (read in full...)
I cheated on him, once. Yet I can't picture my life without him. What do I do about my guilt?
Q. I'm about to get married to my bf of 5 years I do love him very much and I am very happy that we are going to get married, but I am having second doubts about getting married, because I am guilty of cheating on him once in the past, while we were ...
A. 19 December 2013: I'm not sure exactly what your agenda is. You feel guilty, I get that. Now you are considering holding off on the wedding so that what would happen? You clearly stated that you have no intentions of telling your fiance that you were creeping, but ... (read in full...)
Does my wife want me back just because she knows I was seeing someone else?
Q. I have been with my wife tens years and married five . She recently left me for about the third time 6 months ago. We have an 8 year old daughter who is not biologically mine but i have raised her and love her as mine. Each time we break up wife ...
A. 18 December 2013: She told her mother that she was only with you for your money. People don't say stuff like that to their mothers as jokes; she meant it. No one can really give you a certain answer that it will or will not work out because they're not God. Neverth... (read in full...)
Marriage being damaged by wife's male friend who has now stayed for more than 2 months
Q. I have been married for 2 years, I am 41 and my wife is 30. We have always been amazing together, and I thought we were happy. We recently started trying for kids, which was her idea, as I was never going to push her until she was ready. She has ...
A. 17 December 2013: You sound like a very patient human being. I would have kicked his troublesome behind to the curb the first sign of inappropriate behaviour.
It's time for him to leave (quite frankly the time for him to leave was 2 months ago). Give him a deadli... (read in full...)
She said they only marry their own ........
Q. Some of you have read part of my story but this is a continuation. I have dated my boyfriend for 7-1/2 years who is divorced with two grown up kids. I am 26 and he's 40. Furthermore we are not from the same culture he is Armenian and im hispanic. He ...
A. 16 December 2013: That's such a hurtful and painful thing to go through and I feel for you. This is certainly a lesson for a lot of women; if your aim is marriage, after a max of 3 years and he's not saying anything, time to start looking elsewhere. I think the be... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my friends but don't want to lose the chance of getting my ex back either!
Q. Hi Everyone, I have had a pretty rough year, And now I'm in an even more messed up situation. Back at the start of the year i resigned from a job i hated doing to pursue some study and get into a real job i enjoy (Which i can now say has h...
A. 16 December 2013: Time to move on. She left you and took your friends along with her. Now you've made new friends, she's demanding you get rid of one because you slept with her while the both of you were BROKEN UP. I swear some women are just plain crazy. She cannot ... (read in full...)
Friend acted out and hasn't apologized. Should I get her a Christmas gift anyway?
Q. On the 27th of November my friend tagged me in a status saying Nickelback was "f***ing awesome" and because I was tagged in it, my gran saw it and commented on it saying that the swearing is disgusting and that its not needed. My friend responded in ...
A. 16 December 2013: If it's still bothering you that she disrespected your grandmother, then just talk to her about it and ask for an apology; hug it out and everything should be good. That is the better alternative as opposed to not getting her a present. If ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is still friends with a woman he had sex with. Do I have the right to tell him not to stay friends?
Q. I've been in a relationship for over a year woth my boyfriend and we just had a disagreement because he recently told me about a women he slept with and still friends with. He says that she has always been their for him and has been a good friend. ...
A. 16 December 2013: You have no right to tell anyone who is not your child who they can or cannot be friends with. If your bf was the one telling you that you can't be friends with a guy, i'm sure you would think that he is controlling. Stop being so insecure and don't ... (read in full...)
I kissed another man, now my husband wants to sleep with someone to "get even"
Q. I've been married for 3 years and together for 6. I love my husband but we have had our issues in the past I cheated on him 6 months into our relationship by kissing another man he also touched my breasts. Nothing else happened and all contact with ...
A. 15 December 2013: He's using the fact that you cheated as an excuse. If he loves you, he would not want to have sex with someone else to "get even". Heck he wouldn't even was to "get even". Either he really doesn't love you or he is an immature jerk.... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of divorcing my wife because she isn't pretty enough
Q. I will be as honest as I can, so i can have some honest responses.I need some suggestion from people who are on the same shoes or from anyone. I have been married for 3 years. I am 26 and my wife is 24. In my opinion i think my wife looks 6/10....
A. 15 December 2013: Was she not overwight and "ugly" when you met her? But you still went ahead to marry her. Why was that?... (read in full...)
Should I send this letter to my narcissistic ex?
Q. My ex dumped me 6 months ago. A few months ago after I read something on the Internet, I realized that I'm a narcissist victim. I'm trying to move on, but I still think about him a lot. The last time i sent him a message was 2 months ago and he ...
A. 15 December 2013: I think it's a good idea that you wrote the letter, but it's really a terrible idea to send it to him. The best thing to do with that letter is to destroy it; in a really dramatic manner. Like burning it up or ripping it and then throwing the pieces ... (read in full...)
I envy my friend for being confident with boys
Q. Hiya! Recently, I have realised that my best friend is a 'Guy Magnet' (sounds really strange I know, but its the only way I could think to describe it!) She is naturally pretty and she's a tomboy so its not hard to guess that is another reason w...
A. 15 December 2013: You cannot base your self confidence on how others feel about you, because you will never like yourself or have any real self confidence. There will always be someone who dislikes you no matter how much you try to fit in or make them like you. I ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to date someone who teaches at my college?
Q. Okay I'm currently 17 and turning18 in about 2 months, about April last year I was seeing this guy who was 21 but cause we were both busy we sorta drifted apart, he recently started to speaking to me again and were getting on really well, only thing ...
A. 14 December 2013: He would have to make the decision if he wants to take that risk. Number 1, sixthform/college is now compulsory in the UK i.e. education is compulsory up to the age of 18 now. You need to be updated on the decisions being made by parliament. Number ... (read in full...)
Usually men like me but this one is not helping my self esteem.
Q. I have been seeing this man a long time now. He rejects me a lot, he insults my independence and he tells me that I will never have a boyfriend. I can t lie I have said some mean things to him before too. He told me I was not a normal girl and ...
A. 9 December 2013: If you don't have a problem getting men, leave him...heck even if you had problems getting men, I would still say the same thing. There's absolutely no reason for a man to treat you like that and if you say similar mean things to him, there's no ... (read in full...)
How to get him out of my mind and heart
Q. MOD NOTE: TWO QUESTIONS FROM SAME ASKER COMBINED Dear everybody, please help me there is this cool guy my classmate his behaviour made me feel he likes me but now i guess i was a victim of pure flirtism or maybe just a tp material for him but the ...
A. 8 December 2013: If a guy flirts with you but does not ask you out and he flirts with other girls the way he does with you, then he probably doesn't want to date you. He's just flirting, plain and simple. If he has the balls to flirt, he has the balls to ask you out ... (read in full...)
He tried to stick me with the bill on our first meeting ...
Q. I met this guy who I thought really likes me. We exchanged phone numbers, and few days later he offered to meet. So we go for a walk in one of the cool areas of the city, and we walk and walk, walk and walk, talk and around 2 p.m. I felt naut...
A. 8 December 2013: In the exact same position up to the point of the bill, that is, I would have done the exact same thing. A man does not order a full plate of food without any money in his pocket and expect the woman that he's on a date with to pay for it...at least ... (read in full...)
Is my case of retroactive jealousy completely irrational?
Q. Hello. Ok, here it goes, I'll try to short down everything. I have relatively enough relationship experience in my past. Never had such RJ, even if it was the girl I fell for, and even if there was larger number of partners. Now it will...
A. 8 December 2013: You are the one in the relationship with her. How are we supposed to know someone we've never met and the only information we have is what you have given, to make a decision as to whether or not they are good "relationship material"?
Why were you... (read in full...)
How many is too many?
Q. How many sexual partners is bad by the age of 18? I was 18 at the end of July and I've slept with 8 people and had additional sexual partners. I was just wondering is this bad already, or if not, at what point does it get bad?...
A. 8 December 2013: That depends on the person that you're asking; personally speaking, yes that's way too many people. When did you start having sex? Is it a one-night-stand situation with you? If it is, why is it?... (read in full...)
Men aren't interested in dates these days, they just want to shag!
Q. What is wrong with guys these days?? I am a newly single woman on my 30s. I ve been married for many years since I was 21, and have a teenage son. I meet men often, I started going out, but I don't only meet guys in bars, but just randomly ...
A. 8 December 2013: Maybe it's the way you look? I mean your attire, your makeup, the way you carry yourself? Maybe there's something about it that says "come on boys, i'm ready for a shag, no strings attached here!". You might not be doing it purposefully, but you ... (read in full...)
I'm down on my luck with the ladies, help!
Q. I know Guys say let them come to you but that's not how it is with me, I am a guy who is down on his luck with the girls, I am such a player, I keep finding myself flirting with girls because deep down I'm really trying to find that right one, this ...
A. 8 December 2013: Despearation is not a good look and is usually unattractive. It usually almost always seems like dependency. When you start pouring your heart out to women that do not know you from a can of paint, they would obviously run away because they can see ... (read in full...)
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